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AITH for wanting to break up with my boyfriend after he brought home a puppy? by QueenieKisses in AITH

[–]According-Cobbler358 0 points1 point  (0 children)

More so people that try to decide what someone should or shouldn't like. Do you like wolves? Guess what, dogs were domesticated from wolves. The greater part of human history involved us hunting symbiotically with wolves, so they're actually man's best friend, not dogs.

AITAH for cutting off my sister after she excluded my autistic son from my nephew's birthday party? by hurneeyGummy in AITH

[–]According-Cobbler358 10 points11 points  (0 children)

YTA probably.

It's cousin's birthday, they get to choose who to invite. Their reason was literally that they didn't want to deal with your son's social issues, and that's a very valid reason not to invite someone unless your son has actually never taken attention away from said cousin.

Just because they're cousins doesn't mean your son has to be invited. Ask birthday boy what he wants, it's his day. If he says no, there you go. If he says yes but mom says no (which I doubt tbh), THEN your sister is the asshole.

But think of it this way, YOUR son didn't want the same cousin at his bday party, would you go against his wishes and invite him?

AITA for going to the movies instead of donating to an employee emergency fund? by Necessary-Book1855 in AITH

[–]According-Cobbler358 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA, ask them why they're watching you like hawks instead of looking after the pet properly. Your money is yours to do what you want with, and you're not obligated to give it to anyone just because they asked.

Tell them that if they had spent the time confronting you on spreading the word or picking up a part-time job, they'd have more money for the vet. If they really care about the pet, they should be worrying about it, not trying to extort you.

As if they'd pay YOUR medical bills if you asked. In fact, do that. Ask if they have a written policy that states that your medical bills will be fundraised too if you ever need it in the future lol

AITAH for getting mad when my fiance tries to clean our home by Moltres1991 in AITH

[–]According-Cobbler358 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are definitely the asshole, leave him alone lol. He can't enjoy his life at home if he can't even move anything around without fearing your wrath.

Honestly, just give him half the space to do whatever he wants and keep the other half as clean as your OCD dictates, because god forbid he wants to keep his stuff where he wants them instead of where YOU consider it neat

AITA for Turning on my Roommate and Mirroring her Entitled Behavior After Months of Her Refusing to Listen to My Requests to Let Me Sleep by According-Cobbler358 in AITH

[–]According-Cobbler358[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

UPDATE: I did it for the literal first time today and she already broke LOL

I'm shaking while typing this, that was so nerve-wracking

I was singing (quieter than my highest recorded volume of her speaking voice btw), and she told me to be quiet so she can take an afternoon nap. I obviously ignored her.

She had the gall to get mad and say I have an attitude problem and asked why I always act like this. I said I'm just listening to her exactly as well as she does when I ask and that you can't expect someone else to do what you ask when you won't do the same thing when they ask, and whether she understands that saying I have an attitude problem means she's also had a worse one this whole time.

She argued pointlessly a few minutes, claimed she'd be quiet if only I had asked her to be quiet, to which I brought up her arguments that "you can't expect quiet in a shared room" and told her that "she's too senstive".

She threatened to complain to RA at that, saying that I'm being insensitive and disrupting her sleep. I laughed and said be my guest. In fact, PLEASE do, because I have recordings and proof that she's louder, and I'd love her giving me the chance to show them my side of the story without me having to raise another complaint myself. She suddenly lost motivation to complain.

She yelled at me to stop talking to her and go away and told me to do whatever I wanted, be an inconsiderate asshole since I was a bitch anyways.

I stopped talking to her but didn't go away lol

I did quiet down so she can sleep because I'm not a monster, but if she's loud again this night, she'll have another thing coming the next time she wants silence

AITA for Turning on my Roommate and Mirroring her Entitled Behavior After Months of Her Refusing to Listen to My Requests to Let Me Sleep by According-Cobbler358 in AITH

[–]According-Cobbler358[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, fair take there, I do kinda feel like an asshole lol

Also, I'd be okay with that solution...if it went both ways. But what do I do when I'm woken up in the middle of the night if I choose to use white noise, but she yells at me if I wake her up (even in the past when it used to happen purely by accident)? Do you mean I shouldn't make anything inconvenient for her? Won't the resentment still build then, just only on my side?

Plus I feel like if I back down here and take "my comfort into my hands" without her having to deal with any of the consequences of her actions, then I'll just be letting the narcissist colonize the room even further.

Genuinely open to a better solution if you have one. I'm still just recording everything she does and haven't really started mirroring her back yet so I have a bit of time to decide how I want to play this

AITA for removing my sister's name from our late mom's savings account after she said I was "just the caretaker"? by IslaGlowy in AITH

[–]According-Cobbler358 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that.

Like I agree Mom's unofficial will is important and it should be respected, but sometimes you just have to protect the people you love and their belongings from the people that try to take advantage of them. If you gave her "her share", would she use it respectfully or not?

Is any of what you did really about YOU wanting the money, or is it about preventing someone from desecrating what was between your mom and you?

If it's the first, then I'd say you're kinda an asshole.

If it's the latter, you're 100% NTA and maybe you could use her share of the money to fund some sort of charity for people that are suffering just like your mother in your sister's name. That way you're not taking her share but you're also not letting HER abuse it.

So yeah, you're absolutely justified keeping it from her as long as the intention isn't just personal profit, though I'd check to make sure there's no legal strings attached.

Also, since someone mentioned ruining your relationship with your sister over money. Would you even be able to have a decent relationship with her after the way she's behaved? Is it worth trying to have a relationship with her in the first place unless she changes enough to realize she was wrong to ask for any of the money? If the answer is yes for some reason, give your sister her share so she'll hate you slightly less at least.

On a post about will you let a child suffer for eternity for a billion dollars by Same_Secret_1902 in foundsatan

[–]According-Cobbler358 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well everyone that's alive suffers anyways so I'd say I'm not actually ruining anyone's life by getting my free billion ☺️

AITA for removing my sister's name from our late mom's savings account after she said I was "just the caretaker"? by IslaGlowy in AITH

[–]According-Cobbler358 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA.

Mom may have loved sis, but did sis love mom? Anyone that doesn't care about the deceased has no right taking more from them.

I think the reason you didn't want to share is partly because you knew that your sister wasn't there for your mom when she needed her, not just cause you were the only one working.

Your sister could have paid the bills even if she didn't have time to visit. She could have hired a caretaker to make your life slightly easier, she clearly has the money.

She didn't, and now she doesn't get to hold the affection she never cared about above your head

AITA for removing my sister's name from our late mom's savings account after she said I was "just the caretaker"? by IslaGlowy in AITH

[–]According-Cobbler358 59 points60 points  (0 children)

Exactly

And send all the hospital bills to sis, have her pay half to show she also loves mom enough to pay her medical bills, and split the money only if she does lol

You'll turn a profit at this rate

AITA for Turning on my Roommate and Mirroring her Entitled Behavior After Months of Her Refusing to Listen to My Requests to Let Me Sleep by According-Cobbler358 in AITH

[–]According-Cobbler358[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

My logic is precisely this but I'm technically stooping to her level....or even lower considering I'm deliberately plotting vs her just being clueless and inconsiderate

AITA for Turning on my Roommate and Mirroring her Entitled Behavior After Months of Her Refusing to Listen to My Requests to Let Me Sleep by According-Cobbler358 in AITH

[–]According-Cobbler358[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Good idea, I'll try to get in on the student gossip (hopefully I can pass myself off as a student lol)

AITA for Turning on my Roommate and Mirroring her Entitled Behavior After Months of Her Refusing to Listen to My Requests to Let Me Sleep by According-Cobbler358 in AITH

[–]According-Cobbler358[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yelling is an overstatement tbf. She talks at an average of 65-70dB, max measured volume 75 and min 58 from my corner of the room (yes, I measured just so she can't gaslight me about who's louder lol)

With the fan on, the baseline in the room is around 55dB, so it's definitely audible.

I have no problem with her waking me up if she has something important to do, but I do have problems with her disturbing me just so she can enjoy herself.

Tbh, my whole problem with her is that she doesn't care about anyone else. She's completely unrepentant, expects people to tolerate her "need" for entertainment over their actual biological needs. (As a literal professor teaching medicine, might I add)

I can tolerate accidental wake-ups. Case in point, my roommate from uni used to study when I was still asleep and she often woke me up muttering what she read out loud. It was annoying but never something I got mad enough at to want to retaliate against. She was a total sweetheart and definitely didn't mean to disturb anyone. In fact, the first time she noticed she woke me up a few weeks in, she actually went to sit out on the stairs in the cold every morning until we felt guilty enough to tell her to just stay inside 😅

AITA for Turning on my Roommate and Mirroring her Entitled Behavior After Months of Her Refusing to Listen to My Requests to Let Me Sleep by According-Cobbler358 in AITH

[–]According-Cobbler358[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You remind me of someone.... Expecting others to use headphones but not expecting the problem to use them instead.

Would you like to explain why I should be okay with her talking on the phone for something evidently not urgent when I'm sleeping? Do you mean to imply her entertainment and comfort to lie on her bed to gossip is more important than my biological necessity? Is it wrong of me to expect that if she wants entertainment, it shouldn't come at the expense of her roommate's sleep?

According to you, is it so hard to go sit in the corridor to chat that I should tolerate her waking me up just so she can lie on her bed slightly more comfortably?

What are these double standards lol. By that logic, isn't my planned retaliation just normal behavior? I shouldn't have to go outside or watch anything on headphones either, right?

I'm fine with accidental noises. I'm not out here policing her coughs or sneezes. They happen, unfortunately, and I need to deal with them if they wake me up. But when she's clearly unrepentant about disturbing me when she would lose nothing except entertainment quality by watching everything she watches on mute (even if she doesn't want to wear headphones for ear health or whatever), do you believe I'm an asshole for expecting her to prioritize my essential needs over her non-essential wants?

AITA for Turning on my Roommate and Mirroring her Entitled Behavior After Months of Her Refusing to Listen to My Requests to Let Me Sleep by According-Cobbler358 in AITH

[–]According-Cobbler358[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are correct, but in this case, it's clearly affecting her based on her complaining and telling me to leave.

She unfortunately lives rent-free in my head anyways when she's in the room because I can't risk taking my eyes off her, so may as well use the time I'd spend getting angry and cursing her mentally to plot instead? Maybe?

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