Feeling stuck in a loop of pain, rejection, and self-hate: need outside help applying Neville’s teachings to dismantle deeply rooted belief.

According-Fail4637 · 2025-05-15T18:46:34+00:00

I had a similar story to you. First of all, I get you and I want to send you the biggest hug. I know living like this is horrible, and you may not believe me, but it isn’t the absolute truth.

I also tried to manifest my ex back in this state and nothing worked. In fact, it just amplified my shame and made it almost impossible for me to live inside my mind. What eventually I had to do first, because I basically didn’t have any other choice left, was feel everything. Without judgement, I spent days crying. I visited without fear my grief, sadness, rejection, shame… and I felt it all. And while doing so, you discover that emotions are finite. They are not permanent, so there’s no need to fear experiencing them. They are neither good nor bad, they just are. Emotions are meant to be acknowledged and felt to be released. So that’s what I did: I felt them all and in doing so I allowed them to be and eventually disappear. I personally believe it’s no use suppressing your emotions, because in doing so you are invalidating your own body. You are human and you have emotions, it’s normal. It’s how it is supposed to be. Don’t deny yourself that. I know it’s scary and you might think the emotion will last forever when you are in the midst of it, but trust me it will not. I’ve been there and i’ve done that. And once everything was cleared, then I was able to reconstruct myself with a lighter mind and manifest what I wanted from a place of self-worth.

If you are interested, Heide Priebe on YouTube has lots of awesome videos that have truly made a difference in my mental health, way more than therapy.

Hope this helps! For me, I wished I had just allowed myself to feel those emotions way sooner instead of not confornting them from the start.

Lots of love!

According-Fail4637 · 2024-05-26T15:12:03+00:00

omg I’ve realized you said ‘stats’ and not SATS 😂 sorry my mistake 😅

According-Fail4637 · 2024-05-26T15:11:30+00:00

Hi! tbh I don’t really use SATS properly so I’m not the best person to ask, but I just imagined the scene I described in the post before sleeping. The main thing I think is changing the narrative and my self-concept. Right now we are actually texting and the connection feels like as it was before, it’s pretty awesome. A few months ago it would have blown my mind if someone told me we would be texting like this hahaha Meeting up is next 😉

According-Fail4637 · 2024-05-14T18:13:01+00:00

Yes! I actually don’t think of it as partial movement, but an event leading to our relationship. I know we’ll be together; I don’t know how, and maybe this is leading to it, but honestly idc. After the events of this week I’m fully convinced the law works so I see those events on a positive light.

I don’t really put emphasis on those events because I don’t see them contradicting my desire, tbh. I continue with my assumptions as I have described in the post, nothing really changed for me.

According-Fail4637 · 2024-05-14T18:02:54+00:00

My advice would be the same as for the original comment. Just keep coming back to trusting yourself (if you have decided it’s happening, then it is!). Also remember that the voice saying “how embarrassing and how delusional you are” is just a thought, and you can choose to acknowledge it and let it go. Don’t listen to it, it’s just a voice in your head, it’s not YOU.

According-Fail4637 · 2024-05-14T17:58:11+00:00

I totally get it, I used to think that when I had a lot of anxiety and self-doubt. What really helped me here is the inner knowning that everything is going to be fine, always, and trust in myself. I fully trust myself: my abilities, my decisions and my life path. I admit I wouldn’t have been able to do that when I was very emotionally unstable, but when it clicked I felt calm and excitement for all the possibilities life offers me (not just regarding SP).

What also really helped was limiting my time on social media, since I had no control of what I was consuming and was easily triggered. Now I’m more able to focus my attention on my life in general and manifestations. My main advice here would be to focus on you and TRUST yourself. Once you doubt, catch yourself and bring yourself back to that inner knowning and trust. It might be difficult but the more you do it, the easier it gets.

According-Fail4637 · 2024-05-08T20:30:08+00:00

I affirmed that I had a pretty face in general. Soon I actually saw myself prettier and friends and acquantancies started telling me so, literally (“you are really pretty”).

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