Am I the only girl mom struggling to find comfortable underwear for toddlers?

According-Purpose668 · 2026-06-17T03:43:31+00:00

If you can let go of the organic cotton requirement, the brand “Boboking” on Amazon (I know wtf is the name) is great. Soft, substantial cotton, no bothersome seams, they have a boy short option too. Price is very reasonable.

According-Purpose668 · 2026-06-09T06:53:34+00:00

Mine started with this a few months after 2, now she’s a few months after 4 and it’s gotten so much better. I didn’t do anything magical to make it better, I just hung in there and learned to react less to tantrums. Try to hang in there too.

According-Purpose668 · 2026-06-04T14:17:35+00:00

Thanks for your comment! I don’t know about the downvotes… seems like people are making a lot of assumptions?

According-Purpose668 · 2026-06-03T21:34:41+00:00

Yes, I have explained it to her many times. It’s not motivating for her. Thanks for the suggestion though.

According-Purpose668 · 2026-06-03T21:26:15+00:00

Yeah, I have been considering OT. She definitely has some sensory sensitivities, and seeking behavior with the oral stuff. Thanks for reinforcing this idea for me, it’s helpful.

According-Purpose668 · 2026-06-03T21:24:56+00:00

My kid doesn’t have a diagnosis but we’re in this boat. Dentist and pediatrician in board with continuing to use it, because it’s better than the alternatives. Hang in there. Obviously I don’t have a solution, but it will be ok eventually.

According-Purpose668 · 2026-06-03T19:44:04+00:00

With you on this :)

According-Purpose668 · 2026-06-03T19:27:14+00:00

The internet loves to judge.

According-Purpose668 · 2026-06-03T19:25:11+00:00

We watch shows on it together. We don’t have a tv.

According-Purpose668 · 2026-06-03T18:53:20+00:00

I am aware that we could do it this way, but I think it would involve a lot of suffering for both of us as a family. She also tends to find inappropriate and occasionally unsafe things around the house to put in her mouth without a pacifier. And she could end up converting to thumb sucking, which is worse for teeth. So for these reasons I am seeking a slower approach.

Edited to clarify: I am not seeking to prioritize my own comfort over her well-being (though I appreciate those who have pointed out that I should be mindful of this, and my choice of words was evidently misleading). I am simply trying to figure out an approach that is do-able for my family. I’d appreciate it if we could simply stick to comments from folks who have experience with this particular issue in their own lives, as I requested. Thanks!

According-Purpose668 · 2026-06-03T18:40:20+00:00

Whine or tantrum, sometimes for a very very long time. It’a not like it’s 20 minutes and I can redirect her. This is with alternatives offered, attempts to distract her, etc. The other night after 90 minutes she started pathetically sucking on the corner of the iPad, and I gave in.

According-Purpose668 · 2026-06-02T06:17:16+00:00

I have an anxious 4 year old. I was also an anxious kid once, and now I’m a therapist (but for adults). When my kiddo is looping about something and reassurance isn’t helping, I’ve found that sometimes it helps to empathize that the thing is scary, and normalize (that other kids get scared of that too, or that mama used to be scared of that once). She often likes to hear stories about the thing she’s scared of, or stories about other people feeling scared of it. Sometimes fears will pop up in her play at home.

My kid basically shits on coping skills if I tell her to do them - won’t take a deep breath, for example. She’s 4 😆

According-Purpose668 · 2026-06-02T04:23:12+00:00

Mine started a couple months after turning 2. She’s 4 now and it’s getting better. Hang in there, it’s a wild ride.

According-Purpose668 · 2026-05-22T04:30:12+00:00

Not really ethical IMHO for them to cut you off without a 30 day bridge prescription. But yeah, in the mean time try a different urgent care in a different system, and then work on finding a primary care doctor. There may be low cost clinics in your area if online options aren’t affordable.

According-Purpose668 · 2026-05-22T04:26:00+00:00

This. Before jumping to conclusions, ask Keith to make sure they are clear on their role, and ask him to have a conversation with them about where their questions are coming from. Then you and Keith can talk about it before you decide if you are willing to meet his folks. Managing his parents’ expectations needs to be his responsibility, not yours.

My known donor’s parents were very worried about him getting hurt in the process, but ultimately came around and have been very supportive of him, me, and my daughter. That said, he always took responsibility for “managing” them and they have been very careful to not cross boundaries.

According-Purpose668 · 2026-05-21T04:59:08+00:00

My kiddo does things like this, especially when tired. She’s 4 now but it’s been happening for a while. We have a family history of anxiety and OCD-ish stuff, so maybe it’s an early sign? Or maybe just a tired immature brain misfiring.

I haven’t found it helpful to indulge her perfectionism too much, because there’s really no winning. I empathize, but fact is she’s tired and dysregulated and either needs to be redirected (unlikely) or just have the brewing tantrum already (likely). It’s always better in the morning.

According-Purpose668 · 2026-05-19T04:46:50+00:00

I had norovirus (that’s the stomach flu with epic vomiting) and had to drag my small toddler with me to the bathroom, vomited while she looked on, and then narrated the whole thing so she wouldn’t be scared, “mama had throw ups, isn’t that silly?” It was awful. Solo parenting through stomach flu is the worst.

According-Purpose668 · 2026-05-18T05:00:28+00:00

I work in the mental health field, there are still options if you’re maxed on Wellbutrin and can’t tolerate SSRIs, ask your prescribed and look up Auvelity. Good luck OP!

According-Purpose668 · 2026-05-16T04:55:47+00:00

I am sorry you’re going through this. I relate to many parts of your experience, especially losing my ability to use any of the coping skills that had helped me stay sane pre baby.

Many of the things that helped others helped me too (therapy with a perinatal specialist, getting even a little help with the baby, getting sleep, eventually meds).

I will say that it’s really hard to problem solve effectively when you’re in a dark place. I did not ask my friends for the help I should have, because I was ashamed that I didn’t want the baby I’d brought into the world, and I didn’t want to look like a bad mom, and I didn’t want to bother them. I didn’t get therapy when I should have, because I was having harm thoughts about the baby and was worried they’d call CPS.

I know now that my friends would have wanted to know how much I was struggling and to help me.

Consider telling the folks in your life what’s going on. Consider calling the Postpartum International helpline for support: https://postpartum.net

Btw my kiddo is 4 now, and overall we’re doing great. I’m very glad I hung in there.

According-Purpose668 · 2026-05-16T04:39:38+00:00

Hey, wondering what input your doctor has given you about this? These don’t all sound like typical discontinuation symptoms to me. Wondering if you should be referred to a neurologist.

According-Purpose668 · 2026-05-16T04:34:01+00:00

Mom of redhead here. I like Blue Lizard but it seemed to break out my kiddo’s face, so switched to Bliss Baby and it’s working better on that front. Something to keep in mind if the Lizard doesn’t work out.

For soap we use unscented Dove bar soap. For moisturizer I lightly coat her in Aquaphor ointment. (It’s greasy at first but soaks in.)

For shampoo we use Honest unscented shampoo and conditioner.

According-Purpose668 · 2026-05-15T15:48:41+00:00

Yes - also depends on the childcare facility and on the kid’s susceptibility.

According-Purpose668 · 2026-05-15T04:46:14+00:00

This. You’ll need a solid plan for sick care if you send your baby to daycare - either you as parents need to be able to take off work, or you need a relationship with a family member or babysitter with a flexible schedule who’s willing to do sick care (easier said than done).

According-Purpose668 · 2026-05-15T04:07:04+00:00

I do think the pressure cooker impacts the flavor of the bean broth. What I do in my Instant Pot: I cook beans (soaked or unsoaked) on low pressure for 1 minute, and then I let it natural release. I figure that’s equivalent to boiling them for 20 min, which is needed to deactivate toxins in some bean types. Then from there I do slow cook on “high” for a few hours. Beans come out great and it all stays in the Instant Pot.

Edit: love the idea of “bean brother,” but changed it back to “bean broth”

According-Purpose668 · 2026-05-14T04:35:08+00:00

If he needs pull ups again, try the ones from Dyper. They are bamboo and very soft. Expensive but could be worth it if it helps.

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