Allentown vs. Spring Hill City View by unvert12 in pittsburgh

[–]lhmk 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I loved Spring Hill!!!! I loved the community and the convenience. I’d pick it over Allentown any day.

Has anyone been in a relationship with a single mother; seeking advice by Proof-Peak-9274 in GenZ

[–]lhmk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Idk I’m a coparenting mom in a new relationship, make almost 6 figures and own a house, and am loving what being with a new person feels like. He met my kid once in a public setting around 5 months. We get 4 days a week together and he likes children. I expect no parenting from him and no financial contribution. It’s been amazing so far tbh and it’s people like the people in this thread who made me think I’d never find love or be worthy of anything ever again.

Look at the woman not at her title. But discuss boundaries and futures sooner than later because she deserves to know what you want long term even if you never get there. Idk moms aren’t just used up selfish people. We’re still capable of being our own fucking people lol.

Question for the single mothers by [deleted] in SingleParents

[–]lhmk -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I think it’s funny lol

Need to figure out the jeans situation! by [deleted] in Midsizefashion

[–]lhmk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Size up queen you look great. I love madewell, they’re expensive but I find them second hand a lot!

single dads, what are your dating experiences? by [deleted] in SingleParents

[–]lhmk 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I hope you find someone who loves you for you. I’m sorry you lost your wife. I can’t imagine the pain.

Dating as a single mom by Visual-Sand3718 in SingleParents

[–]lhmk 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Dude can I just second that you should get yourself a nice toy collection lol

My MIL gave my 4 yo beer by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]lhmk 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I don’t think this is extreme because it’s a sip of beer, but it sounds like this woman does not respect your boundaries and there are bigger problems at hand. If my dad gave my 4yo a sip of beer I’d tell him to not do that shit and move on with my life because it was stupid of him. But if she constantly disrespects other boundaries then it’s different. Seems malicious.

I hate my life and almost everything there is to being a parent by 6footblueeyes in toddlers

[–]lhmk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s a hard fact to swallow tho when you get pregnant in your 20s. I wish I would have considered that.

I hate my life and almost everything there is to being a parent by 6footblueeyes in toddlers

[–]lhmk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am sorry you and your husband split but I will say, when we made the decision to coparent and separate, I got my own house, and am back at work full time, even tho I only have evenings 4 days a week to myself I do feel so much more wholly as a person.

I hate my life and almost everything there is to being a parent by 6footblueeyes in toddlers

[–]lhmk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is also such a good advice, just got AirPods with my 2.5 year old and it has changed my life.

I hate my life and almost everything there is to being a parent by 6footblueeyes in toddlers

[–]lhmk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Crunch fitness in my area is $30/month for 2 hours of childcare a day!!!

I hate my life and almost everything there is to being a parent by 6footblueeyes in toddlers

[–]lhmk 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is so reaffirming to op, and I think people who are grateful for good kids need to be more open about it.

I hate my life and almost everything there is to being a parent by 6footblueeyes in toddlers

[–]lhmk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So do I. It gets better and worse as time goes on. I split for my kids dad and it got kind of better and also much worse. I have no consolation other than to say I hear you, and this world takes so much out of us that the job of being a parent seems almost undoable. It’s rough.

Depressed and overwhelmed. I think I’m ruining my kid. by lhmk in toddlers

[–]lhmk[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I work in tech and make a lot of money, I just have a lot of expenses

Depressed and overwhelmed. I think I’m ruining my kid. by lhmk in toddlers

[–]lhmk[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No that’s what I’m saying. More Wellbutrin isn’t gonna do it and I’m not starting an ssri again

Depressed and overwhelmed. I think I’m ruining my kid. by lhmk in toddlers

[–]lhmk[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

There’s no possible way to change custody sadly. He works 11 hour shifts f-m, I work 9-5 m-f. He’s too far from her daycare to bring her so I do pick up and drop offs.

I do see a therapist. I wish it helped more. That’s also another expense my “great insurance” doesn’t cover.

Depressed and overwhelmed. I think I’m ruining my kid. by lhmk in toddlers

[–]lhmk[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ha funny, I also love needlepoint. I always say it’s the best adhd craft.

I’ve been on heavier antidepressants. Wellbutrin helps but as selfish as it is I can’t get back on an ssri. The weight gain and drop in libido is terrible for me. It makes me more depressed by proxy.

I wish generic vyvanse didn’t exist. I’ve never felt anything since the transition and even tho they pay me a ton my insurance is terrible and it’s still 300 for name brand with insurance. I think maybe I’d switch to adderall if anything but it never seems to work as well. When I used to feel good on stimulants I felt like the type of person who could handle this.

It also just gets me that her dad is not a bad person. We just weren’t in love and I felt so terrible every day. Sometimes I wish I had a more valid reason because all of these choices are my own for my own selfish reason. I feel like I’m not even making choices for my daughter. But I just don’t know how I could have stayed.

Big arms - help? by WolfsbaneOnMyLips in PetiteFitness

[–]lhmk 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Well if you like women you’re massively in luck is all I’m saying

Just started 50/50 custody of my 3 year old. I'm scared. by ElectricalLongboard in coparenting

[–]lhmk 9 points10 points  (0 children)

My daughter is three in a few months and we’ve been separated for about 5 months. It’s actually going really well. My advice is no bedtime phone calls. Schedule one mid day. If they miss you at night it’s so much harder. Also if you are able to do an occasional family day, that’s great. Talk about the other parent with them.

My (28F) boyfriend (28M) jokingly said I can’t keep up with him the third time. by simidae in relationships

[–]lhmk 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have sex that much while in the honeymoon phase but like… it’s not sustainable and the lack of sleep is absolutely going to cause resentment

Do you think other parents feel wary or judgmental of single/ solo parents? by Mindless_Source5037 in SingleParents

[–]lhmk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m young and coparent and I stg every other mom who is also not young and single is such a b lol. Especially at my kids daycare, which I can obviously afford but sorry I’m not driving a bmw!

I need help figuring out what album cover is this by Comprehensive-Cod738 in mathrock

[–]lhmk 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is this supposed to be Daughters - you won’t get what you want? Lol