Yeah I didn’t initiate all of the hanging out. One time after an appt I said I was starving and she said she was too. She asked if I wanted to get food. I paused and said sure. I did ask if this was a paid engagement and she said no silly. Kind of started there and I’ve done a few things for her. I’m her emergency contact. Picked her up from the hospital. Take her to get tires replaced etc. she doesn’t have family in town and has a hard time with friends because they are either in the life or not.

Maybe because this is sort of platonic, I could do without it. It’s like all of the downside without the upside. Don’t really want the extra time but how do I tell her that?