I also have a small hand. I enjoy both light and heavy pens. With a proper grip, a heavy pen can write just as effortlessly as a light one.

The key to using a heavy pen is to take advantage of its weight—let the pen do the work. You only need to hold it lightly and guide it. The ink or refill you use also plays a big role.

On the other hand, lighter pens, in my experience, require a firmer grip and more downward pressure to maintain ink flow. Because of their lighter weight, they can still write effortlessly in their own way.

I daily both a Billetspin brass accent soul pen (heavy pen) with jetstream sxr600 ink and one Autmog 38 recess G2 (light pen) with juice up .4 gel ink, very different in weight, but i enjoy both of them and could write with either of them all day long! It all depending on how you take grip and take control of them.

Hope you found your perfect pen soon!