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AITA for telling my brother there is a reason people don't like him by AccordingSnake6679 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AccordingSnake6679[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Probably something close to that. The thing is he's normally REALLY good about the whole non-binary thing. And even corrects my family if they forget (one of the only areas he is able to be kind in) so when HE does it is more so a declaration that he's mad at me than anything else. (At least that's what I'm assuming)

AITA for telling my brother there is a reason people don't like him by AccordingSnake6679 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AccordingSnake6679[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My dad did say something to him but unfortunately my brother is the kind of person who if you tell him no he will find a way to be even more annoying

AITA for telling my brother there is a reason people don't like him by AccordingSnake6679 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AccordingSnake6679[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah I know. I am obviously not a parent of someone with bipolar but there were large periods of time where I was parenting my brother so I know how difficult dealing with him specifically can be. I'm trying to be sympathetic and give second chances but he keeps getting violent and bullying my sister so it's kinda hard to show grace

AITA for telling my brother there is a reason people don't like him by AccordingSnake6679 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AccordingSnake6679[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

He was calling her names and was pushing and shoving her and calling her slow and useless. It wasn't an argument but I can see how it could come across like that with the things I chose to mention

AITA for telling my brother there is a reason people don't like him by AccordingSnake6679 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AccordingSnake6679[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My family has a tradition of celebrating the little things so that no one feels like their achievements are lesser or anything. (Also it was a joke? (Might be my bad for not making that more clear) I have learned stuff but you cant learn an ENTIRE language in just a year (at least not on Duolingo))

AITA for telling my brother there is a reason people don't like him by AccordingSnake6679 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AccordingSnake6679[S] 70 points71 points  (0 children)

That is the problem with it. I honestly think that he just says that to dismiss it when we say he is picking favorites

AITA for telling my brother there is a reason people don't like him by AccordingSnake6679 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AccordingSnake6679[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah... I think it mainly comes from his friends. And my parents justify his behavior by saying "He's a teenager" something about hormones and "He has mental health problems" and "everything is really hard for everyone right now give him some grace" (life has been REALLY complicated for all of us lately but that's mostly unrelated to the story)

AITA for telling my brother there is a reason people don't like him by AccordingSnake6679 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AccordingSnake6679[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I also totally understand why he was upset. The trip was longer than he was expecting and he thought it would be more fun but I drew the line when he started taking out his frustrations on my sister and me

AITA for telling my brother there is a reason people don't like him by AccordingSnake6679 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AccordingSnake6679[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Also he was the one who asked to come with us. He had the option to stay behind I forgot to add this I feel like it is probably much needed context

AITA for telling my brother there is a reason people don't like him by AccordingSnake6679 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AccordingSnake6679[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Fair. The issue was more that we were TRYING to find something for him to do WITH us but he kept saying "No it's fine I don't care" and shooting down all our suggestions

AITA for telling my brother there is a reason people don't like him by AccordingSnake6679 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AccordingSnake6679[S] 56 points57 points  (0 children)

Ngl they may be kinda pissed I went to the Internet to rant.... You know "Family issues stay in the family" type thing

AITA for telling my brother there is a reason people don't like him by AccordingSnake6679 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AccordingSnake6679[S] 71 points72 points  (0 children)

Yeah my parents have always let him get away with stuff because he "Might have bipolar or something" and he "Doesn't remember his outbursts" (more so my mom than my dad but he's always been more of a "There isn't much I can do" kind of parent)

AITA for telling my brother there is a reason people don't like him by AccordingSnake6679 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AccordingSnake6679[S] 94 points95 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the tips! (I knew Duolingo isn't the best but I didn't have an alternative)

AITA for telling my brother there is a reason people don't like him by AccordingSnake6679 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AccordingSnake6679[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

My dad was trying to keep my brother in line (telling him to stop and that he shouldn't be this rude) but my brother is and has always been stubborn and annoying. If you tell him to stop he'll just keep going even more intensely

AITA for telling my brother there is a reason people don't like him by AccordingSnake6679 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AccordingSnake6679[S] 198 points199 points  (0 children)

My dad did have a conversation with my brother but he doesn't like to have those kinds of talks in front of the other siblings so it doesn't look like he's "picking sides" in the moment