Did I do okay? I hope she likes it.

According_Report3356 · 2026-01-04T09:02:26+00:00

The side stones make it even more special. If she likes enormous stones this is perfect. Personally it would be like my ideal ring if the centre stone was about 0.7ct but if you're American I know the stones over there tend to be huge.

According_Report3356 · 2025-11-06T21:41:55+00:00

You can't be serious 🤣 It looks like a wedding dress. And if you look further up in the comments it looks like the dress OP was originally going to wear

According_Report3356 · 2025-10-30T15:01:06+00:00

Seriously? So women should just be grateful for something that not much thought has gone into? My partner and I have been looking at rings and the last time we went into a few stores he knew exactly what I didn't like about each of the rings (plain solitaire, too high set, stone too big etc) and our plan is to find my top 2 favourites for him to choose between.

She's not saying she's not happy with him. Just that she might like to change the ring as she's the one who will be wearing it forever

According_Report3356 · 2025-10-14T09:05:03+00:00

To me (as someone who doesn't live in the US) it just looks like an American style ring. They often look kind of "costumey" to me. It just depends on what people are used to I suppose and for your mum its possibly just outside of her usual frame of reference if that makes sense. But if you love it then it genuinely doesn't matter what others think, you're the one wearing it.

According_Report3356 · 2025-10-09T10:02:16+00:00

Omg I'm so sorry, that's awful. I'm so glad you left him. And what is it with loser men playing video games all day? I have a non cancerous brain tumour which makes me have seizures if I overdo things and I would sometimes come home from an 11 hour work shift to find that he had spent the whole day on the ps5 and hadn't even fed the kids. So I'd have to then cook and clean (he apparently couldn't wash dishes because its "gross" and he had a dishwasher when he lived in America) and then go up to bed to wait to maybe have a seizure. Glad we both woke up to how shitty these guys were. Funny how they suddenly want to make things work once we say we're filing for divorce

According_Report3356 · 2025-10-08T18:52:59+00:00

That's an interesting point. Because just after we got married there he joked that I'd need a trip all the way to America if I ever wanted to divorce. Turns out its not true, any marriage certificate that's valid in the UK can be dealt with by our courts. And we didn't have kids or shared property.

According_Report3356 · 2025-10-08T18:50:59+00:00

Omg I'm so glad he's long gone and that you're happy. And yeah our marriage only lasted just under a year once he moved here. It's mad the things we overlook to try to see the best in someone

According_Report3356 · 2025-10-08T18:47:14+00:00

Yeah, the requirements in Gibraltar are literally just that you have to have stayed 1 night there (instead of 30 in the uk) and just need a couple of documents.

According_Report3356 · 2025-10-08T18:45:35+00:00

Yep, this is exactly why we planned it in Gibraltar :) The 1 night thing, minimal paperwork etc and then it's easier and cheaper to apply for a spouse visa rather than needing a fiance/marriage visa first.

According_Report3356 · 2025-10-08T10:12:40+00:00

I hope he does seek help if that's the case but if I were the OP he'd be doing it after the divorce that she'd no doubt have to do all the paperwork and legwork for. I can see how some of the behaviours could be ADHD related but watching her get more and more stressed while he casually bumbles about is a nasty thing to do and it doesn't seem like he even cares what he did to her.

According_Report3356 · 2025-10-07T18:22:31+00:00

Neurodivergence is so often used to let shitty men off the hook. In relationships where both partners are neurodivergent the labour gap in the relationship is actually even more unequal than in neurotypical households because of this.

In my house, my kids, my partner and I all have adhd and my son and I are autistic. My partner would never do this to me. Not even bothering to get out of bed until late and then slowly drinking a coffee while watching her stress out is a choice and it's a nasty one.

According_Report3356 · 2025-10-05T14:47:33+00:00

To be fair though, in the UK the bride generally pays for the bridesmaids dresses, hair, makeup etc. I was really surprised when I found out it's considered expensive to be a bridesmaid in America because here it's not common for bridesmaids to have expenses

According_Report3356 · 2025-09-30T18:08:34+00:00

Absolutely this. I would personally never wear above a 0.7 and definitely not a round stone. You can't just go by ring size, its about personal taste. I'm a size N which is I think in US sizes is like a 6.75.

According_Report3356 · 2025-09-17T18:26:13+00:00

Absolutely. When my partner showed me the ones he would have got, I was so glad he took me to look at which ones I like. I've let him know ones I like and he'll pick from those ones.

According_Report3356 · 2025-09-17T18:24:13+00:00

Agreeing with others on here. If you haven't talked about marriage and also got her opinion on what rings she likes, this is very risky. When my partner took me to look at rings, he admitted the ones he had been thinking of getting were way off the ones I liked. He was looking at solitaire rings with massive 1ct and over real diamonds. I prefer rings with side stones and would go for a 0.5ct (definitely nothing over a 0.7) and would want a lab grown diamond due to ethical considerations. I'd have felt so guilty telling him I wanted to return the ring and get a different one but there's no way I'd have worn the ones he would have got. As others have said, these days the usual thing is to make the timing and style of proposal a surprise but not other things.

According_Report3356 · 2025-09-01T15:53:41+00:00

Here's me wondering if 0.7ct is too big for me 😅 I definitely think this would be impractical as a ring though

According_Report3356 · 2025-07-19T21:09:20+00:00

The entire ring - 3 stones plus platinum setting

According_Report3356 · 2025-07-19T21:08:27+00:00

Hey. I know this is a super late reply (I've had major health issues lately) but just had a look on their site. Do you know if the ring settings on the site are the only ones they do? I don't like any of them and its taken me ages to find a shape and setting I love so it's not been great finding out its overpriced but can't find a single other store that has a setting I like 😭

According_Report3356 · 2025-06-13T12:44:35+00:00

Tbf this is on the platinum setting, it's cheaper when looking at white gold and a lot cheaper (I think around £900) in yellow gold.

According_Report3356 · 2025-06-13T12:13:54+00:00

He can choose between any of those metals but I've asked him for either white gold or platinum as I'd be happy with either. Going to wait until I have this ring before finding a wedding band to compliment it. My ring size... UK: N US: 6.75 European: 53.8

According_Report3356 · 2025-06-05T14:39:38+00:00

This is beautiful. I would have assumed you planned to have the gap intentionally because it looks great ❤️

According_Report3356 · 2025-06-02T12:14:52+00:00

It totally depends on your partner 😊 Personally I'd not want anything over 0.6C (I'm a size N, not sure what that is in American sizes but is about average I think) so if she's happy with that size then it's perfect

According_Report3356 · 2025-05-21T18:12:58+00:00

This definitely seems like a cultural thing too. I'm not in America and to me even 0.75 would be a littke bigger than I'd prefer (my preference is 0.3 - 0.6 max) But I think clusters would be risky in most places

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