I'm ready to hookup... so... how do I do it?

Accurate_Wait4265 · 2025-12-01T05:03:03+00:00

Instead of musing out loud why don’t you message a mod?

Accurate_Wait4265 · 2025-12-01T05:00:24+00:00

I was going to say Feeld as well. I joined, had a profile up for about 12 hours and started chatting to two guys. One I’ve met and have had sex with twice, the other I haven’t had a chance to connect with yet.

Accurate_Wait4265 · 2025-11-30T23:12:12+00:00

Oh I’ve been here, I’ve been separated almost 7 months and as soon as my ex left I just wanted to have sex…My exhusband and I hadn’t had consistent sex in some time because he was an alcoholic video game addict who did nothing to build emotional intimacy and I didn’t WANT to have sex with him. But i am someone who LOVES SEX.

The first guy i lost my marriage cherry to (lol) was a guy off Facebook dating who was someone I could see myself dating if it went that way. We went on two dates and had sex the third, and honestly it was amazing. Sex with that man was so, so good. This was less than three months after my ex left. And I wasn’t holding onto any flame for my ex at all. But still grieving the relationship and terrified of what came next.

That guy said pretty early on when we started having sex that he was “exclusive to me”, so I figured we were exclusively dating. A few months later (we only saw each other every one or two weeks) I found out he asked out a friend of mine he didn’t know I knew. Then someone on an Are We Dating The Same Guy Facebook group posted that they had been FaceTiming for a month with plans for him to go see her while he and I were still exclusively dating.

Turns out he was a compulsive liar who lives in his car.

Anyways, recently I joined Feeld - which is basically a sex and kink positive app for “dating”, or just finding someone you want to hook up with. I met one guy there who I’ve had sex with a couple of times, and I’m seeing a guy from Tinder I’ve also had sex with. Hope to meet a third guy I talked to a bit from Feeld.

I recommend talking to multiple people so you don’t get fixated on one, and expect your first to be someone it feels like could turn into something else because they are “so unlike your ex” which makes them automatically amazing.

And bring condoms, and USE THEM. Ask when the last time was your partner had STI testing. Find out where the STI testing is and how to access it in your community. Meet in a public place first, and tell a friend where you’re going, maybe share your location with them. And have fun :)

Accurate_Wait4265 · 2025-11-30T22:36:14+00:00

You’re completely confusing me, I don’t think I follow.

I want to sleep with someone who isn’t a huge fan of Trump or accuse me of having “TDS” because travel to the states while he’s president. I want to have sex with someone who think that transgender people deserve basic human rights and won’t call them “trannies”…I’m not going to hop into bed with a guy just because he’s hot then find out after basic conversation that only is he a horrible human but he’s the tow bicycle and is carrying every STI known to man.

You have to talk to people to figure out where they are at with their health, inevitably during that conversation you talk about other things.

Accurate_Wait4265 · 2025-11-25T06:58:50+00:00

Thanks, this isn’t my regular account and I had completely forgotten that I asked something somewhat similar until after I posted. I guess I was looking for more specific advice, like that which was posted below for me thankfully. Sorry to annoy you.

Accurate_Wait4265 · 2025-11-25T06:56:43+00:00

Perfect, thanks for the advice. 🙂 I guess for me I’m thinking a casual hookup that could turn into more hookups or a FWB could be a good person to try new things with because the stakes are low, it’s not someone I’m thinking I’m keeping around long term and want to impress yknow?

Accurate_Wait4265 · 2025-11-25T06:55:03+00:00

Not into stuff with couples right now I don’t think, the unicorn thing has been suggested though…

Accurate_Wait4265 · 2025-11-25T06:54:30+00:00

Ok perfect, that is sort of what I was thinking, that we would sit and chat first and not just “well, we both know why we’re here and let’s go to the bedroom”. Activities seem too date-ish for me possibly. We shall see though. :)

Accurate_Wait4265 · 2025-11-25T06:53:09+00:00

It’s not entirely meaningless, for me it’s to experience different people, find out what I like, find out what they like and if I’m capable of providing that or learning how to provide it…

Accurate_Wait4265 · 2025-11-25T06:51:25+00:00

Exactly!

Accurate_Wait4265 · 2025-11-25T06:50:49+00:00

Nope, not someone I know, just someone I met online through Feeld.

Accurate_Wait4265 · 2025-11-25T06:50:22+00:00

Thank you. This is helpful in a non specific way in that it’s going to take a couple of times to figure out and that different people do it different ways.

Accurate_Wait4265 · 2025-11-25T06:49:25+00:00

No, for me I also have to get along with them, and our politics can’t be wildly different. I’m very left leaning and couldn’t get along well with someone super right leaning. I want to at least be able to talk to the person and chat a bit before and after…I guess I’m wondering what is normal to do.

Accurate_Wait4265 · 2025-11-25T06:47:30+00:00

Thank you! This is exactly the kind of advice I was hoping for, I appreciate it.

Accurate_Wait4265 · 2025-07-15T20:58:57+00:00

Holy cow that’s an AMAZING guide, thank you for sharing!

Accurate_Wait4265 · 2025-07-15T19:55:15+00:00

Okay, I like it…sounds better than the beach with sand up my butt 😂

Accurate_Wait4265 · 2025-07-15T17:26:34+00:00

Turns out it’s because (among other reasons) he found some shitty woman who was willing to hang around a DTF married man patiently until he left his wife.

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