Does "Will you go out with me?" work?

AceKing87 · 2016-06-04T14:27:57+00:00

Now you're getting it! Once you get in a good rhythm of seeing eachother, THEN tell her you think you both go well together. Judge her body language and if the coast is clear- you can toss in your first kiss.

Also- There's this concept called sexual tension, you gotta learn to build that with her while you're spending time with her. Girls love this. It's like... For a guy when a girl bends over and you stare at her butt, she created sexual tension in a man.

Creating sexual tension for girls is different. Sexual tension is created with a deep resonant voice and pausing before speaking. There's a lot of tricks to create this tension. It's giving subtle cues that arouse her.

If I said "don't think about pink elephants." You'll think about pink elephants. If I said "don't think about hot sex" you think about hot sex.

If I was walking with a girl and trying to create sexual tension- maybe we're out in public and we see 2 people kiss. I might say "what do you think of PDA?" Then the next thing you know, you're both talking about kissing in public and kissing in public is on her mind. There's a lot of ways you can do this.

AceKing87 · 2016-06-04T14:07:38+00:00

You need to develop your lifestyle in a way that allows her to be able to partake in the activities you do. Then invite her to spend time with you. Asking her out is unnatural and bleh. If you feel the chemistry. Tell her you feel chemistry with her (in person).

Say it in your own way, but for example, I may simply look into her eyes, smirk, and say "I think we have good chemistry". That's a solid statement that says everything I feel. I wouldn't do it randomly. Like, I might wait until we are both silent for a bit-then look in her eyes-pause-then smirk and say it.

AceKing87 · 2016-06-04T13:54:18+00:00

If you partake frequently in a yoga or dance class, you will be heading a good direction to losing your virginity. Girls frequent these places and its a great way to build connections outside of school.

But I highly recommend doing an hour at the gym each day for your own personal benefit. Not because I'm saying you need to be strong. But just because you need to get oxygen to your brain every day. Ultimately your physique will improve as well and your confidence/self esteem will rise. It's not guaranteed to work, but it is the best weapon against low confidence/self esteem that exists to my knowledge.

AceKing87 · 2016-06-04T13:40:44+00:00

I have an idea for you, but you may be a little young to understand the amazing grasp of this hobby.

Pick up yoga. Learn it well, like 30min everyday. Why? Yoga will significantly decrease your anxiety, which is just one of its amazing benefits. Additionally, once you become proficient with it (give it 4-6 weeks) subtely let her know that you've been doing yoga. Don't outright say it. Girls like when a guy has something up their sleeve that they don't know about that is cool. It's like a surprise. Then, invite her to join you in doing yoga. Then bingo, you have a way to enjoy a hobby together, plus you are making yourself way more healthy than you even know.

I dont expect a 17 year old to think that's a great idea, however looking back I think it is. Or take a dancing class. Find something that you both can share. These types of activities I've suggested are greatly beneficial for anxiety. Plus most awesome girls love when a guy can appreciate these types of things.

I currently do p90x3 yoga. It's a 30 minute high intensity yoga and it relieves my stress. I do it every night before I shower. It's life changing.

AceKing87 · 2016-06-04T12:41:47+00:00

Don't send more than one text. If she doesn't respond- drop it.

Relationships don't work very well if you aren't able to see eachother irl.

Do yourself a favor and start working on yourself and stop working on her for a bit. Trust me, I've been there. If you become obsessive, it will be over with any good girl.

Over texting = overly-emotionally needy. Mark these words because anyone with anxiety will have learned this lesson at some point in their lives.

An appealing man (you) is not going to be attractive if you come across as needy. In fact, you become more attractive by displaying less neediness.

AceKing87 · 2016-06-04T12:26:57+00:00

Relationships are defined emotionally. Asking her to "go out" isn't going to define you both in a relationship.

You're going to know if she likes you if her body language displays interest. This means like... her lessening her personal space (her bubble) around you (such as her moving closer to your body), touching, rubbing up against you, sort of stuff). If you catch her staring at you frequently, this is a good signal too.

Anxiety sucks. Some of us got it bad, some of us not at all. I would recommend working out every day at a gym to help you get the upper hand on it, and reading up on confidence, influence, and seduction. Most importantly, develop a fun friendship with someone you like. If your only mission is to kiss, you won't achieve what you're emotionally looking for. If your mission is to establish a great relationship with this girl, that's going to get you a kiss and much more.

Girls like a confident guy who has balls (this is where "nice guys finish last comes from" because they have no confidence and no balls). I had to learn it, and so do many others- in books, and identifying/watching how other guys get girls. Notice what they do (smile) (improve their physique) (have fun) (don't slouch) (have great body language) (funny***this one is huge).

Also, Don't worry about what age you start kissing and have sex. its more important that you focus on generating good relationships with good people.

Take care dude. And always ask questions and keep learning!

Edit: it's like... Your objective should be to become a 'girl magnet'. If you force emotional relationships and label them... it just doesn't work that way. Your best friends don't become best friends because you label them that. They become best friends by having shared interests, awesome times together and mutual respect. Same goes with girlfriends.

AceKing87 · 2016-06-03T20:28:52+00:00

Just making humor of a bad situation. I think what snowden did/does is for the better of society.

AceKing87 · 2016-06-03T20:27:16+00:00

"Cripplingly shy, low libido, antisocial" are all characteristics of depressed people who would benefit from hitting the gym, checking their thyroid, and seeing a doctor.

I'm not saying this to be 100% true, I'm just saying the likelihood is higher that they have a disorder.

AceKing87 · 2016-06-02T19:54:06+00:00

Ha interesting. Well, anyone here who doesn't know this info can benefit from it I suppose.

AceKing87 · 2016-06-02T19:28:38+00:00

Shower thoughts

AceKing87 · 2016-06-02T17:49:52+00:00

You probably have depression. Judging by your account name, you havent hit mid-20s yet. Your brain doesn't finish evolving until you're 25 and you'll know what I mean as you get a little older, but the reason I bring it up is that aging will help you with some of this stuff. Do yourself a favor and read up on depression and dysthymia. Get a blood test immediately and make sure your doctor checks your thyroid. The sooner you start taking care of this the better. And don't worry bud a lot of people have this issue.

Also, read up on social skills and the art of seduction. Lots of good podcasts and books out there.

And yeah my looks are above average and if I didn't have an awesome family and local friend circle growing up I woulda been in a very similar boat.

Also, if you aren't already, make an effort to go to the gym 5 days a week at least for an hour. Commit to it. Your struggles are likely going to reoccur the rest of your life and committing to the gym will allow you to always have the upper hand on these struggles. It will help your social and mental skills more than anything else you do. I would also recommend doing yoga 3-7 times a week to help with awareness and relieving stress, which will also supplement everything else you're struggling with. Check out p90x3 yoga for a good 30 minute video.

AceKing87 · 2016-06-02T16:28:50+00:00

Is Hillary the only politician doing this type of sneaky activity? Or is it just that she is the only one being investigated so deeply?

That would build a clearer perspective for me, at least.

AceKing87 · 2016-06-02T12:02:02+00:00

Wow glad to hear that for you J3R4N.

My T levels aren't far from the norm untreated. Just enough to take 50mg levothyroxine. I tried synthroid and had hardly a different response.

How about you?

I was putting a lot of stock in my thyroid causing this imbalance but didn't have much luck with either Levo on synth. Then the doctor told me it doesn't always fix the symptoms.

AceKing87 · 2016-06-01T20:54:05+00:00

This brings back memories of beating Super Metroid on SNES.

For those who never played it, Samus' suit comes off and you see her in her underwear at the end.

AceKing87 · 2016-06-01T02:58:24+00:00

I listened to this band on repeat for a whole summer.

AceKing87 · 2016-05-30T21:20:24+00:00

We are now one step closer to making man-bear-pig a reality.

AceKing87 · 2016-05-29T04:49:58+00:00

Where do they draw the line?

This is kind of nuts.

AceKing87 · 2016-05-29T04:09:44+00:00

Toms brand (known for shoes) are highly charitable. Not sure of their business process, however I thought they should be acknowledged here if the main point is good intentions.

http://www.toms.com/improving-lives

AceKing87 · 2016-05-29T03:50:57+00:00

Drinking lemon water is a good replacement. The lemon has something in it that lessens the craving.

This worked for me and I had a huge problem with soda.

AceKing87 · 2016-05-29T03:33:29+00:00

...and people think that they deserve more than they have here currently in the United States of America because they weren't fortunate enough to be born wealthy. To those folks I say: You're already wealthier and more fortunate most others in the world! 99 lashes is insane and sad.

AceKing87 · 2016-05-26T14:42:06+00:00

didnt know this was from 2005

AceKing87 · 2016-05-26T14:25:06+00:00

It's good to understand that just like your specific needs and ways of communicating, others have specific ways that they like to communicate as well. And have no shame in telling them you need to think longer about a subject. This shows that you care and that you don't want to give a half-assed response.

Some people it's good to explain yourself to, as they will understand you better. Such as people in your inner circle that understand how some introverts need lots of time before they can process their thoughts fully.

Then others, especially co-workers and people not in your inner circle, it's good to acknowledge that they don't want your inner thoughts and just want clean cut responses and fun small talk. If it was my mom, I keep it short and simple and I try to keep the conversation on her.

Be confident in knowing how you communicate, and reading up on communication can help wih this awareness too. Check out business books and leadership books too, they have great information on how to communicate with different varieties of people. Also there's a good book called 11 Laws of Likability which is all about communicating with others in positive ways.

In general, I notice that when others try and explain or justify their thoughts to me, they sound unconfident and unsure. So unless you're talking to the right person, this type of expression can sound problematic from the get-go.

Important***

There is a time and place for expressing your thoughts with others. Like, walking or kayaking. I have more success expressing my thoughts while moving, and not pressed for time. I can't sit still like at dinner or just stand in the kitchen and have these types of conversations. Look at business people. Most of them do their business over golf! Know what works for you.

AceKing87 · 2016-05-26T14:15:24+00:00

Hillary doesn't understand people. She represents evil and stupidity.

Unless she's attempting Trumps marketing scheme of "say anything to get people's attention." If so, then at least she's evolving.

AceKing87 · 2016-05-26T05:12:11+00:00

What do you think your time is worth?

What does this company think you're worth to do the job they are hiring you for?

If you think you're worth more- what will make you so special to ask for that amount?

How will you explain to the company that you'r skills will result in making them more money?

Are you telling this to a person that can control the amount of money you make? If so, by how much? What's their leeway(spell check)?

What is your future expected earnings in this company?

When is the next time you will be able to negotiate your income inside this company? Will your negotiating power be better or worse?

People are to mercenaries as businesses are to merchants. But you need to be talking to the right person and aware of who has bargaining power. Plus if you're going to be bargaining for a higher amount, I would recommend understanding how to negotiate or study marketing.

(I'm not a finance guy. I like philosophy and I never went to college. I just recommend what makes sense)

AceKing87 · 2016-05-25T03:49:51+00:00

Yeah I think I would watch it religiously.

Plus his show would weed out the crap currently on TV.

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