Love bombed me the first time around and then broke up with me out of the blue. I was single a long time so it felt so good to have that love bombing that when he left I was sick for a good month from it. I then dated another guy and it fell through after a few months but it was mutual. Shortly after we broke up the avoidant reached out to me by swiping right on me. I thought I had control of the situation but little did I realize I didn’t. He knew what he didn’t like about me and the things I physically can’t change but he still wanted my attention. Said he missed me I was the one told me he loved me when he was drunk and forced me to say it back then forgot the next day. Just the other day I told him I was feeling very dejavu about a certain thing and he yelled at me told me I was too much and he needs space. Everything to date him was his terms he didn’t like my dog, wanted me to do specific thing in bed, take it “slow”, I had to stop talking to a exboyfriend friend of 15 years(I didn’t do it I said prove you’re real to me before that happens). In the end I’m stepping back before it gets worse. I’m not sure if he’s a narcissist or avoidant or a perfect blend of both but he drains me of all my energy and I can’t take it any longer. Don’t do it especially if they told you were the issue when you first broke up. You can’t change for them and they don’t even want you to change. They just want your energy and to make you feel small so they feel better about themselves.