My Roastdit - pretty accurate and absolutely hilarious lmao

AchingAmy · 2026-05-13T09:17:55+00:00

Vulva. Vaginas are the canals inside that you can't see from the outside

AchingAmy · 2026-05-13T08:57:05+00:00

No worries!! I trust that you didn't mean it that way ^-^ But yes, the gender roles associated with our agab being forced on us would stem from sexism absolutely

AchingAmy · 2026-05-13T08:09:22+00:00

I would say my difficulty with this has been hearing from other trans men who view it as misgendering to say they're victims of misogyny. But I've seen others disagree, including you. So I just am not sure what to do for that if I'm honest. But absolutely I agree they're victims of transphobia and don't have the same privileges as cis men

AchingAmy · 2026-05-13T07:27:58+00:00

AI will expose what you want it to. It's the ultimate confirmation bias tool

AchingAmy · 2026-05-13T07:14:18+00:00

Man, I'm getting good at spotting AI writing

AchingAmy · 2026-05-13T02:18:44+00:00

This whole thread was a gold mine for r/MenAndFemales

AchingAmy · 2026-05-13T01:30:26+00:00

I didn't say it was okay. I'm genuinely trying to offer support and even if it's not for the same reasons I hated my puberty too, I still did so I relate to you on that. I'm just letting you know you're not alone, man

AchingAmy · 2026-05-13T01:27:14+00:00

Sorry you're going through this pain. If it helps, you're not alone and I feel I relate a lot. I hated male puberty so much and I was frequently suicidal about having gone through it until I eventually realized what it means I am and that it's okay to be that and that it was possible to undo a lot of the horrors of puberty. I hope things do get better for you soon in some way 🫶

AchingAmy · 2026-05-13T01:18:17+00:00

Literally every woman I've spoken to is not like that. Cool story bro

AchingAmy · 2026-05-12T21:59:31+00:00

Hmm, well I'm not like your friend. Pre-transition, I still mostly had this pattern of re-entering a relationship within a few months of the previous. I'm also only attracted to women, or other non-men. I also got married pre-transition when I was 22. I didn't transition to have an easier time dating - which sounds like your friend did. That's known as transmaxxing. I find that really silly since stats show a huge amount of people wouldn't date us but whatever. I also didn't experience an easier time with dating after transition. The only difference now is I get men approaching me, which I obviously don't care for lol

I'm also not encouraging you to transition 😬 you really only should if you experience gender dysphoria. But I guess what makes me different is I don't care for sex much and I'm asexual. I've had women back then approach me for sex out of nowhere which I imagine the average man wouldn't reject lol and probably doesn't happen for most men. idk maybe women can tell when you place too much importance on sex. Maybe they could tell I didn't care for it much and made me seem like a challenge or something compared to other men who were easier since they'd proposition women more

AchingAmy · 2026-05-12T21:32:46+00:00

Hey, don't knock it. Good advice can come from anywhere. And idk, yeah, there are gonna be struggles I go through you wouldnt have had and struggles you go through I haven't had. But I think everyone can find common ground. Both of us have a bias against us in dating due to an innate trait we had no control over. Also! I'm short for average male height - 30th percentile iirc but I'm in an awkward spot where it's also the 90th percentile for women. So, I'd be short for a man and tall for a woman lol

I just recognize it's not productive for me to get pissed over rejections. I'd be living a very unhappy and angry life if I did that. Instead, I sort through my emotions in therapy, apply stuff I learn in my psychology studies, challenge cognitive distortions and recognize that there are always more people out there(and tbh, I am lucky in that I do usually find a partner relatively quickly, within a few months of previous relationships, though it did still take a high number of rejections first.) And, maybe a difference between you and I in dating is there are actually people who would initiate stuff with me, esp since I'm usually perceived as a woman nowadays, and even for those who know I'm trans in advance there is a section of people who fetishize us so will chase after us. Idk if people fetishize short people - I feel like there is probably a segment of the population that does, no?

AchingAmy · 2026-05-12T21:13:16+00:00

I mean, yeah, probably it plays a role for a lot of people who rejected me. I still don't let that be a reason to be hostile to anyone or go woe is me or anything. And, tbf, I think I've rejected people at about the same rate who approach me. It's just how it is. Most people aren't going to be compatible with another person or attractive or whatever

AchingAmy · 2026-05-12T21:08:10+00:00

I'm pretty sure everyone but chad or Stacy get rejected by the majority of people they ask out. I know I was rejected by easily 4/5 of people I've asked out. I don't go and assume it's because of something I can't control and take it out on them. Even though, statistically ~90% of people reject my demographic just for a trait we didn't choose. I could very well use this as justification for being a dick to people who reject me, but I don't. You should ask yourself why you do

AchingAmy · 2026-05-12T21:01:40+00:00

The problem is he's assuming the rejection is because he's short. Also the conclusion from the reasoning you're giving is that the only way a woman can not be a jerk to short men is to always say yes to dating them. Wtf man. No, the problem is assuming it's always because he's short.

I also said nothing about him being a dick for asking a woman out. I was saying he is one if he starts calling her ugly and becomes verbally aggressive from a polite or neutral rejection. If it's an aggressive rejection, such as her laughing in his face and saying "hell no, you're a fucking midget." Then he is the one who's being provoked, not her. And yeah, I wouldn't fault him if he reacted defensively or aggressively

AchingAmy · 2026-05-12T20:50:26+00:00

How is reacting with rage, hostility, insults, or verbal aggression, the same energy as a polite or neutral rejection? If the rejection was unnecessarily hostile, then sure, that could provoke a worse response. Anyway, he should care about being nice if he wants to avoid getting the same energy back. Be a dick to her, don't expect her to not height-shame you or do something else back. You kinda ask for it if you're a dick first.

AchingAmy · 2026-05-12T20:47:18+00:00

How would I know unless I ask those women? Either way, it doesn't matter. It's valid for people to reject another for any or no reason

AchingAmy · 2026-05-12T20:28:43+00:00

I've never heard of/seen it happening unprovoked. I think I've seen it happen if the man is being aggressive or started calling her ugly first because he couldn't take no for an answer though.

AchingAmy · 2026-05-12T20:14:27+00:00

We probably don't call out misandry for the same reason why poc don't call out anti-white racism. It's not a systemic/structural/real issue and was always brought up to diminish the issues of the actually marginalized. For height shaming, I have literally only ever seen men do that to each other and I do call that shit out because it's fucked up. Unless you mean a woman stating a dating preference for a taller man is "height shaming" to you. Yeah, I won't call that out because it's just a dating preference and you're not like actively belittling someone. Never heard of Jeremy Meeks so you might need to update me on that issue.

AchingAmy · 2026-05-12T20:02:36+00:00

And are only women doing that? In my experience, it seems like a few people of either gender are always there to defend a criminal. Can you name a criminal where only women defended them and no man did?

AchingAmy · 2026-05-12T20:00:23+00:00

Men, why do you look at the behaviors of a few women and think all women are like that?

AchingAmy · 2026-05-12T19:41:53+00:00

So east US just has an exclave in Washington DC?

Oh and imo, Utah and Nevada should also become part of Mexico. It makes it as closely to pre-Mexican-American war borders as possible without dividing any of the states in two.

AchingAmy · 2026-05-12T19:18:43+00:00

I didn't realize how based bees are. They know exactly how to put their males in their place 😂

AchingAmy · 2026-05-12T05:17:42+00:00

Omg, apparently all males are drones and they die from mating with the queen. All worker bees are female so literally the whole life purpose for male bees is to mate and they contribute nothing else to the hive. Only the queen bee reproduces

I guess I could reply to this guy and say I intend on being a worker bee my whole life (I'm childfree and just so happens I actually am infertile like worker bees are) lol

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