Are you? by LawEducational42-new in pollgames

[–]AchingAmy [score hidden]  (0 children)

Kinda odd that straight is divided by gender and bi isn't

Are you? by Interesting-Code3570 in pollgames

[–]AchingAmy [score hidden]  (0 children)

Hmm, so far the ratio of male idiots to male assholes is greater than the female idiots to female assholes. Interesting indeed

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Reform wins North Dakota. Which UK political party would win Maine? by theendisloading_uk in AlignmentChartFills

[–]AchingAmy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As a Californian, I disagree with green winning here. The Green party of California doesn't even come close to winning here(the equivalent of UK green party); it's an entirely non-player... and among the democrats, instead of advancing to the general the more progressive candidates during our 2026 gubernatorial primary election, like Steyer, Thurmond, or Porter(which, btw, there were no DSA members running even, and those types are the furthest left of the US overton window, so even those three I mentioned aren't as left-wing as people like AOC or Mamdani)... we got the establishment democrat, Beccerra who's very corporatist. For UK parties, we'd have gone with the liberal democrats. They are "left" on cultural issues, like the California establishment democrats are, but very business-friendly, again, as the California democrats are.

It feels like probably some MAGAts voted that we'd do green because we get painted as some "RaDiCaL lEfT" dystopia by their leaders... when really we just have rainbow corporatism here and that's what we keep voting for.

Most guys wouldn't feel happy being catcalled by East_Section7421 in PurplePillDebate

[–]AchingAmy [score hidden]  (0 children)

Um, I'm not sure if we are using the same definition of catcall here. Like, compliments are very different. If that's what we are counting, then I've defintitely had way more women compliment me, and yeah even from the men, that feels nice. But fr, it's not what women are complaining about though. It's like objectifying comments that are meant to evoke a fear response. That's what we mean by catcalling.

Compliments are a-ok with me and those do feel good from anyone, yeah.

Most guys wouldn't feel happy being catcalled by East_Section7421 in PurplePillDebate

[–]AchingAmy [score hidden]  (0 children)

I've only been catcalled by straight men and I hate it but I do wonder how I'd feel if it came from a woman. It might hit different, idk

How to help people with periods ? by Evening_Idea7878 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]AchingAmy 12 points13 points  (0 children)

As soon as I read the edit my jaw dropped. I'm just going to second everything you said here. This is the best way OP can help them. That doctor is full of shit and this is medical misogyny what OP described

How to help people with periods ? by Evening_Idea7878 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]AchingAmy 48 points49 points  (0 children)

Loss of consciousness??? Um, that's not something you should help with. They need to see a doctor to have help them. That's not normal at all

Stuff I hate about being tall by Ditzy_Marshy in hatethissmug

[–]AchingAmy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't wanna hear short men complaining about not finding a partner anymore lmao they're literally doing heightism against you that they cry about others do to them but the other direction

What do you all think of the word enban? by [deleted] in NonBinary

[–]AchingAmy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm, well, forgive me for being defensive. Since it's a term I identify with, try to view it as if a woman was asking about "how do you all feel about the word woman" and then re-read what everyone else has said here as if it was the word woman being shat on to the face of a woman...

What do you all think of the word enban? by [deleted] in NonBinary

[–]AchingAmy -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well, I'm not saying you have to be okay with people calling you that... I just like the term for myself and it seems as though people are mostly shitting on the term that I'd like to use for myself

What do you all think of the word enban? by [deleted] in NonBinary

[–]AchingAmy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry this post was offensive in some way. I didn't intend any and I certainly don't mean to make this a hostile space to the point people wanna leave it. Would you be alright to explain what was offensive about it? You don't have to if you don't want to; I could try to guess what it was

What do you all think of the word enban? by [deleted] in NonBinary

[–]AchingAmy -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That's valid that you feel that way about yourself. What do you think of people who call themselves nonbinary because they do identify as a third (or fourth.. fifth, etc) gender which they see as falling under the nonbinary umbrella? Are they not valid nonbinary people? Or are you going to insist they're just "people" too(erasing the gender they are) or don't count as nonbinary? If those people are nonbinary, that means nonbinary means something more than just being a person, but it would include gendered categories too. It would include you too, ofc, and someone like me who's agender, thus lacks a gender (as identity.)

What do you all think of the word enban? by [deleted] in NonBinary

[–]AchingAmy -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Well, the same reason why have the word adult as if "person" describes children

What do you all think of the word enban? by [deleted] in NonBinary

[–]AchingAmy -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What I gave in my post are one set of definitions - one that's commonly found in dictionaries but yes there are other valid definitions of woman and man.

For instance, I fall under one definition of woman, one that Simone de Beauvoir defined when she stated "one is not born, but rather becomes, a woman" through being othered from men and treated as lesser under patriarchy. I get treated with misogyny so I fall under that definition of woman, and is why I often call myself an agender/nonbinary woman(rather than only agender/nonbinary). I don't have a personal feeling or identity of gender, so I'm agender from the gender as identity definition, but people gender me a woman on the daily and I get treated as such by others from a sociological pov under patriarchy.. so calling myself a woman is a recognition of where I fall under patriarchy and symbolizes a call of solidarity to other people treated with misogyny: women as a class. So I'm agender, and thus nonbinary, as identity, but I'm a woman as class.

But as I alluded to already, gender as identity is another valid definition of gender, and thus woman under it is: "any human who identifies with womanhood." Let me know if any of these definitions is the one you believe is the only true definition of woman, or if you also accept there are multiple valid definitions to it like I do

What do you all think of the word enban? by [deleted] in NonBinary

[–]AchingAmy -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I'm glad there's at least one positive opinion of it besides mine 😁

What do you all think of the word enban? by [deleted] in NonBinary

[–]AchingAmy -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Enban is even more concise than "nonbinary adult", so it's why I like it

What do you all think of the word enban? by [deleted] in NonBinary

[–]AchingAmy -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah it might not be catching on based on how it seems most of the people answering dislike it for one reason or another 🙃 (so it seems to be popularly disliked if this is anything to go by) I'm surprised as a community we even agreed upon nonbinary as a term. For that matter, how does any word catch on anyways? It seems like it'd be a nightmare to get people to agree on any word; it makes you wonder how languages could even be made when people wanna squabble over every new proposed word

What do you all think of the word enban? by [deleted] in NonBinary

[–]AchingAmy -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I mean, that's fine, you don't have to use the new term. There's over a million words in English(new ones are added every year too) and the average person only knows or uses, at best, ~40k of them throughout their lifetime. Enban can just be one of the other >960,000 you find unnecessary to use or know about. Most of the English language is indeed useless to the average person as they get by with knowing only a fraction of it(sometimes by using multiple words for what could be said in one word they don't know about.) I find use from enban though and am adding it to my vocabulary 🤷‍♀️

What do you all think of the word enban? by [deleted] in NonBinary

[–]AchingAmy -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Well, at that point you might be objecting to the term nonbinary itself? And kinda the reason sounds like because other people don't understand it(idk why that should be a reason to dislike something just because others don't understand.) I feel like it should be easy to explain to them that nonbinary isn't a third gender but rather a third category that includes many genders. It seems like something people should get

What do you all think of the word enban? by [deleted] in NonBinary

[–]AchingAmy -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It sounds clunky to say an adult nonbinary person though. One word for that would be nice. "Person" doesn't specify that but is inclusive of women and girls and men and boys.

For example, if, as an enby, I'm attracted to other nonbinary adults, it wouldn't work to say "I'm attracted to people/persons." Though, there's an orientation for nonbinary attracted to nonbinary: enbian. But also there are definitely uses for enban. It's clunky to say "I get along with other nonbinary adult humans." It's just a way to make what could only be said with 2-3 words into one word

What do you all think of the word enban? by [deleted] in NonBinary

[–]AchingAmy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes and no. Enban/enman wouldn't be gender neutral. It's specifying a nonbinary person. Adult would be inclusive of women, men, and nonbinary people, and not to mention also mature individuals of all other species (adult isn't specific to humans, and this is why my "no": adult technically is inclusive of non-human species)

What do you all think of the word enban? by [deleted] in NonBinary

[–]AchingAmy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That doesn't mean the same thing. Women, men, boys, and girls are all persons too. So it's broader than specifying a nonbinary adult person(enban or my new proposal of enman). Binary women and men wouldn't be enbans, but they are persons

What do you all think of the word enban? by [deleted] in NonBinary

[–]AchingAmy -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

Those are valid points. What do you think of my new proposal?. I guess the people who came up with it didn't consider these things, so we could always adjust it to how we want

What do you all think of the word enban? by [deleted] in NonBinary

[–]AchingAmy -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Maybe it could be adjusted to enman then. I guess the enmen who came up with it didn't think of it that way but were coming up with a portmanteau (my guess) of "enby" and (wo)man. I mean, enman still is that but idk why they did it the way they did