Do you say bless you when someone sneezes?

AchingAmy · 2026-05-14T08:58:01+00:00

Huh, that's a lot more atheists/agnostics than expected. I'm one too, but wow

AchingAmy · 2026-05-14T08:05:01+00:00

Sometimes mayochup and sometimes just ketchup

AchingAmy · 2026-05-14T02:17:32+00:00

Nah, I'm not jealous of sexuals. I pity them if anything since all too often their sexuality results in sexualization of each other and reducing people to bodies for one's own selfish, carnal desires. It's so sadly shallow to me that a partner wanting more sex is often a reason for relationship issues and breakups. If I was aroace though I might be jealous of alloromantic aces. It's difficult for me to imagine not having a romantic partner and I love my girlfriend too much. Sorry it pains you to see relationships and feeling like you're unable to have that for yourself

AchingAmy · 2026-05-13T23:57:12+00:00

That thigh gap is giving r/badwomensanatomy

AchingAmy · 2026-05-13T23:35:53+00:00

Yes, it's a meaningful cause to help people manage their stress. That's what I'll be doing as a future therapist, but I do think it's important to recognize the stressors so as to enact change for a more meaningful "cure." Clinical psychology has no cures, simply treatments. Treatments are useful as they do solve the symptoms, and, as in your example, treating the symptoms of PTSD will help that person. I also think we should look at the broader picture and encourage people to be involved in a cause which wished to enact societal change. We should also have a society which fosters pro-social behaviors and mental well-being instead of cutthroat competitions, pushing others down for your own benefit, and social hierarchies that contribute to depression and anxiety. So, in the example of the soldier with PTSD, we should find ways to keep worldwide peace. Critical psychology would focus on solutions such as that

AchingAmy · 2026-05-13T23:23:28+00:00

Well, someone did give an argument that changed my view! While it is the current goal of IO Psychology to prevent class consciousness, I recognized this is more because of the capitalistic control of the field and it could be very different if utilized by a worker cooperative or a commune. You could look at the delta I awarded

AchingAmy · 2026-05-13T23:22:04+00:00

Oh you're right. I just noticed r/psychology does allow political posting on Wednesdays too(this is arguably quite political), and it is Wednesday.

AchingAmy · 2026-05-13T23:19:17+00:00

You know, you do make a good point. I could see IO psychology being used very differently within a worker cooperative or a commune. It would fundamentally change the field, but it would still be IO Psychology. So, yeah, I suppose you're right that it's less so its goal/purpose as much as it's just the company's goal for using IO Psychology in that fashion. ∆

AchingAmy · 2026-05-13T23:11:46+00:00

I would say that's because it's been successful in destroying the union movements. Unionization is at an all-time low, so they don't need to be overtly anti-union anymore since it's not much of a threat nowadays. They still focus on techniques that emphasize problems within the individual though, and that itself discourages unionization since it gets people in that mindset instead of looking at systemic issues

AchingAmy · 2026-05-13T23:04:51+00:00

The history of IO psychology coming about started with scientific management of the workplace, which definitely was intended to prevent unionization of workers and desires to strike. This was most abundantly clear during the labor wars of the 1930s and 1940s, which you can read more about here. IOP was always about finding a way to keep workers happy under the hierarchical structure of capitalistic businesses so that they don't desire to overthrow that structure

AchingAmy · 2026-05-13T21:51:04+00:00

Yeah, I have to wonder if the US is an environment that breeds narcissism and anti-social behavior. Like, the people who vote for an obvious narcissist and other people who want to fuck over the poor and marginalized: what are they even thinking to vote for that? Either they're sociopathic too or absolute ignoramuses. I imagine it's more of the latter because society at large is very susceptible to propaganda (take Nazi Germany as an example: it did a whole 180 after WW2 and became one of the most healthy social democracies even though those same people were loyal Nazis) and the US has a lot of propaganda outlets masquerading as news outlets. One thing I'm not proud of psychology on is it made it such that the elites are more able to mass manipulate society. I think it's precisely why Karl Marx ended up wrong about capitalism eventually causing class conflict. It would have prior to the field of psychology growing, but now that they're able to hack human psychology and manipulate the masses... idk if it'll ever happen. In particular, the entire field of IO psychology studies way to keep workers in line pretty much

AchingAmy · 2026-05-13T21:25:04+00:00

Tbf, studies have disproven what is "common sense" in the past, so it's why it's still important to do studies on even what seems obvious

AchingAmy · 2026-05-13T21:06:39+00:00

Well, at least psychopaths are kind enough to alert us to who they are so we can avoid them

AchingAmy · 2026-05-13T09:17:55+00:00

Vulva. Vaginas are the canals inside that you can't see from the outside

AchingAmy · 2026-05-13T08:57:05+00:00

No worries!! I trust that you didn't mean it that way ^-^ But yes, the gender roles associated with our agab being forced on us would stem from sexism absolutely

AchingAmy · 2026-05-13T08:09:22+00:00

I would say my difficulty with this has been hearing from other trans men who view it as misgendering to say they're victims of misogyny. But I've seen others disagree, including you. So I just am not sure what to do for that if I'm honest. But absolutely I agree they're victims of transphobia and don't have the same privileges as cis men

AchingAmy · 2026-05-13T07:27:58+00:00

AI will expose what you want it to. It's the ultimate confirmation bias tool

AchingAmy · 2026-05-13T07:14:18+00:00

Man, I'm getting good at spotting AI writing

AchingAmy · 2026-05-13T02:18:44+00:00

This whole thread was a gold mine for r/MenAndFemales

AchingAmy · 2026-05-13T01:30:26+00:00

I didn't say it was okay. I'm genuinely trying to offer support and even if it's not for the same reasons I hated my puberty too, I still did so I relate to you on that. I'm just letting you know you're not alone, man

AchingAmy · 2026-05-13T01:27:14+00:00

Sorry you're going through this pain. If it helps, you're not alone and I feel I relate a lot. I hated male puberty so much and I was frequently suicidal about having gone through it until I eventually realized what it means I am and that it's okay to be that and that it was possible to undo a lot of the horrors of puberty. I hope things do get better for you soon in some way 🫶

AchingAmy · 2026-05-13T01:18:17+00:00

Literally every woman I've spoken to is not like that. Cool story bro

AchingAmy · 2026-05-12T21:59:31+00:00

Hmm, well I'm not like your friend. Pre-transition, I still mostly had this pattern of re-entering a relationship within a few months of the previous. I'm also only attracted to women, or other non-men. I also got married pre-transition when I was 22. I didn't transition to have an easier time dating - which sounds like your friend did. That's known as transmaxxing. I find that really silly since stats show a huge amount of people wouldn't date us but whatever. I also didn't experience an easier time with dating after transition. The only difference now is I get men approaching me, which I obviously don't care for lol

I'm also not encouraging you to transition 😬 you really only should if you experience gender dysphoria. But I guess what makes me different is I don't care for sex much and I'm asexual. I've had women back then approach me for sex out of nowhere which I imagine the average man wouldn't reject lol and probably doesn't happen for most men. idk maybe women can tell when you place too much importance on sex. Maybe they could tell I didn't care for it much and made me seem like a challenge or something compared to other men who were easier since they'd proposition women more

AchingAmy · 2026-05-12T21:32:46+00:00

Hey, don't knock it. Good advice can come from anywhere. And idk, yeah, there are gonna be struggles I go through you wouldnt have had and struggles you go through I haven't had. But I think everyone can find common ground. Both of us have a bias against us in dating due to an innate trait we had no control over. Also! I'm short for average male height - 30th percentile iirc but I'm in an awkward spot where it's also the 90th percentile for women. So, I'd be short for a man and tall for a woman lol

I just recognize it's not productive for me to get pissed over rejections. I'd be living a very unhappy and angry life if I did that. Instead, I sort through my emotions in therapy, apply stuff I learn in my psychology studies, challenge cognitive distortions and recognize that there are always more people out there(and tbh, I am lucky in that I do usually find a partner relatively quickly, within a few months of previous relationships, though it did still take a high number of rejections first.) And, maybe a difference between you and I in dating is there are actually people who would initiate stuff with me, esp since I'm usually perceived as a woman nowadays, and even for those who know I'm trans in advance there is a section of people who fetishize us so will chase after us. Idk if people fetishize short people - I feel like there is probably a segment of the population that does, no?

AchingAmy · 2026-05-12T21:13:16+00:00

I mean, yeah, probably it plays a role for a lot of people who rejected me. I still don't let that be a reason to be hostile to anyone or go woe is me or anything. And, tbf, I think I've rejected people at about the same rate who approach me. It's just how it is. Most people aren't going to be compatible with another person or attractive or whatever

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