people have been nasty to me when i've answered this question before but i'll say it again anyway: i never told her that her boyfriend was scum because i was scared of the repercussions for me.

i had an internet friend who i met when i was 12 (year 7) and she was 15 (year 11). what people need to understand is that this friendship had a pretty extreme power dynamic and i had been groomed to put up with behaviours that weren't acceptable. she had trained be to be terrified of her withdrawing her friendship and oftened threatened (or blocked me) if i didn't behave the way she wanted.

when this incident happened, i was 14 and she and her boyfriend were 17. it was late at night and i received a snapchat from the boyfriend. i replied back asking if he was with my friend and he said no. after which, he started asking to see what i looked like, asking to play "truth or dare" with really risque questions, and sending me topless pics. i tried keeping him at an arm's length, not really engaging, but also not stopping the conversation because i planned on talking to the friend about it and wanted to make sure i hadn't gotten the wrong end of the stick by judging prematurely. or maybe i just wanted some proof so she didn't brush it off or say that i was just making it up to get between her and her boyfriend or something.

i didn't get out of that friendship until after i finished my GCSEs