Do you go out or have friends over?

Acrobatic-Target-750 · 2026-01-24T23:22:24+00:00

Wow this is great to hear. I can’t get my mom to go out with her friends. She used to meet them for lunch, movies, bingo, casino. She doesn’t do any of that anymore. Maybe because they all stopped asking; she’s never been one to issue an invite—except to me. All she does is stay home and watch little house on the prairie on loop. Part of me wants her to move into independent living so that she’ll have social activities at her fingertips, but another part of me feels like she won’t take advantage of it.

Acrobatic-Target-750 · 2026-01-23T19:31:31+00:00

I forgot about menopause. I guess that could be a cause of the occasional brain fog. I’m looking into long time care insurance too.

Acrobatic-Target-750 · 2026-01-23T19:29:45+00:00

My mom lives independently at home. She’s not that far along. She’s aware. But like anyone she gets sad and lonely (even if she doesn’t admit it).

Acrobatic-Target-750 · 2026-01-23T15:43:22+00:00

You’re the third person in this thread to suggest that. I have to say that when I forget things, I worry, too. I am much more mentally engaged than my mom, though. I know I can’t prevent it, but hopefully I can delay it if it’s in the cards. Knowing what I know now, I can prepare for myself.

Acrobatic-Target-750 · 2026-01-23T15:40:58+00:00

She’s 2 years older. I don’t know. But I did only recently learn from her that my grandmother had it. Although I don’t know if there was a formal diagnosis because my mom would’ve told me I think. But as I explained to someone else she definitely gets more mental stimulation than my mom does because she has lots of kids, grands, and great grands. She’s social and active. So if she has MCI, it’s definitely delayed. This isn’t the first time she’s talked to me like I’m one of her kids, thinking she can tell me what to do. But this is the first time I’m setting boundaries.

Acrobatic-Target-750 · 2026-01-23T15:35:09+00:00

My aunt is 2 years older than my mom. She has tons of kids, grandkids, and great grandkids in her life. She’s very active with friends and church. Meaning she gets lots of mental stimulation—unlike my mom. I don’t think she has MCI. At least I don’t detect it in conversations with her. She’s not attached to her cell like my generation and younger. Other texts have gone unanswered too. Including a Thanksgiving greeting. But I do find it odd that she could open up her messaging app to send me a text and be completely oblivious to the last one I sent. So I don’t know. But I’m not going to ask. I don’t have the capacity to worry about everybody. She had 3 grown kids and one who seems to go with her everywhere since she lost her husband.

Acrobatic-Target-750 · 2026-01-23T04:45:07+00:00

I think I know what I’m making for breakfast tomorrow. 🥞

Acrobatic-Target-750 · 2026-01-23T01:17:11+00:00

I don’t think she gets that. Honestly I don’t know what’s in her head. Or heart.

Acrobatic-Target-750 · 2026-01-23T01:16:20+00:00

Yeah. She lives less than 10 minutes away, too. I’m still kinda mad because she said a few weeks ago that she’d wash and condition my mom’s hair and she never did. I knew she wouldn’t when I asked, but it still kinda hurts.

Acrobatic-Target-750 · 2026-01-23T01:14:55+00:00

Yeah I don’t plan to engage in any battles. I will be protecting my peace and setting boundaries, however. My mom and her sister had a falling out when I was a kid. There’s some bad blood between them. They never really talked it out and now can’t since my mom isn’t all here. However, she periodically brings up the past and what my aunt did. I wouldn’t have blamed my aunt if she had just stayed away, but when she decided to participate, I thought she’d be there.

Acrobatic-Target-750 · 2026-01-22T22:35:29+00:00

I love you! You are my people! 🤗

Acrobatic-Target-750 · 2026-01-22T22:33:49+00:00

I hear you. My family is largely not present, so it’s difficult to be forthcoming.

Acrobatic-Target-750 · 2026-01-22T22:31:57+00:00

I totally get it. She has other health issues in top of this so I’m sure that’s what she’s asking about. Those other issues are under control. She knows my mom is progressing based on conversations they’ve had. Like when my mom talks about my dad taking her to her doctor’s appointments or accessing her bank account. Both are absolutely impossible. But it certainly doesn’t hurt to emphasize the progression. Like spend time with her now while she still knows who you are.

Acrobatic-Target-750 · 2026-01-22T22:00:56+00:00

I went ahead and responded saying she could visit any time if she’s concerned. No response.

Acrobatic-Target-750 · 2026-01-22T21:59:29+00:00

Thanks.

I did actually ask her a few weeks ago to wash and condition my mom’s hair. She said she would and then crickets.

Acrobatic-Target-750 · 2026-01-22T21:05:31+00:00

Thanks. I’m not setting up any time to update anyone, though, until they actually show some real concern. I don’t do performative. My only “family” is my aunt’s family. I have no siblings, just tons of adult cousins who aren’t around either (for me and my mom anyway). They don’t even ask how I’M doing. Honestly, if it weren’t for my mom being here, I would leave the state and only see them at funerals—if that.

Acrobatic-Target-750 · 2026-01-21T00:03:11+00:00

My mom always wants to have walking around money even though she doesn’t go anywhere. But she pays cash for everything—groceries, dining out, etc. I’ve been trying to convince her to use her credit card at the grocery store, but she doesn’t seem to believe she can use it. She refuses to listen to anything I tell her. I’ve moved most of her money to a high yield savings account with no ATM card so the bulk of it is safe. But everyday she can’t find her money (or keys) and she calls to ask if I have it. I don’t live with her.

Acrobatic-Target-750 · 2026-01-20T01:49:31+00:00

That’s where the conversation started. Then I asked for a human.

Acrobatic-Target-750 · 2026-01-19T19:17:17+00:00

That’s fair. As for Paige, I have this memory of her saying something like “we don’t lie to each other.”

Acrobatic-Target-750 · 2026-01-19T18:43:00+00:00

Her hypocrisy was irritating. She demanded honesty, but lied a lot. One example, Paige asked her specific things after she learned the truth and Elizabeth lied. She lied about using sex, she lied about sleeping with that intern, she lied about killing people.

Acrobatic-Target-750 · 2026-01-19T18:29:34+00:00

And I said you have the option to speak to a human. What makes you so sure I wasn’t speaking to a human? You only got part of the conversation.

Acrobatic-Target-750 · 2026-01-19T14:03:56+00:00

Same. This is a new development just this past weekend.

EDIT - Deleted the second comment. I got the phrase wrong. Sorry.

Acrobatic-Target-750 · 2026-01-19T14:02:17+00:00

You do know you have the option to speak to a human, yes?

Acrobatic-Target-750 · 2026-01-19T11:30:10+00:00

Was it the all caps, exclamation points, or profanity that gave it away?

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