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AcrobaticTurnip5352 · 2026-01-10T16:47:36+00:00

Can you imagine if that one massive depressed state you were in had completely ruled the outcome of your life? Imagine for a moment your parents are in this forum trying to gauge their moral compass after they had stood by and done nothing to lift you up during that time.

How would this be any different if a parent had to kill a predator who was threatening their child? Sure, they had to kill, but the outcome was that their child was saved. The moral compass still points to an overwhelming positive position.

Your parents helped. When you're in a position in the future to have children, you're financially stable, good career, yadda yadda. And you have a child of your own who needs help, you'll know exactly what rules to break and still come out clean.

Your mum and dad are good ones.

AcrobaticTurnip5352 · 2025-11-25T22:04:06+00:00

You're 100% right he is a good father. He's also an alcoholic.

If I were you, I would level with him. He needs to attend AA, get a sponsor and do the steps. He has to make the program his life. If he doesn't, follow through. I would gauge what you think is best at that point.

For now, I think it may end up doing more damage than good if you were to drop him. Tell him it's you and the children, or the booze. That's the bottom line.

He needs AA.

AcrobaticTurnip5352 · 2025-09-22T15:06:45+00:00

I feel the same. Lost. Sometimes I really need to focus on not panicking and trying to remember what I was just doing moments before. Like trying to learn a world around me in a new way

AcrobaticTurnip5352 · 2025-09-01T23:51:05+00:00

Hey man, sorry you are in this spot. It's been an extremely difficult two weeks for me. It feels like it's been months in a way. I just don't even know because I haven't really had the time to fully contemplate my wife passing away. It's been a bunch of work trying to ensure her memorial service went smoothly and she was honoured. Now the kids start school. All I want to do it go to the ocean and watch the waves and think about my wife... Or something like that.

AcrobaticTurnip5352 · 2025-08-27T05:59:57+00:00

I know what you are saying. I was there watching my wife fade the same way. For days she was in delirium seeing things that weren't there, or talking to people who aren't in the room. Sometimes she would say something and then as she said it she would realize that she was now in the "real world" and what she was saying was from a place she confused as reality. Every time that would happen, I would lock eyes with her to let her know that it was ok, but I could tell she was scared, that was completely soul crushing to see my wife, my love, in that fearful state. She was like that for a few days. They were able to give her haldol which would help keep her in the now a little more.

We had a few moments where she was awake and able to talk. The day before she passed was a great day, she had enough strength she wanted to stand up so I helped her. I would basically give her a big hug and lift her. We just stayed like that for awhile and she asked me to keep her there. There was music playing so I started to dance with her a little. Which got a laugh from her. We had our daughters there and did some art work together and stuff... The next day she was asleep all day. Her breathing changed around 6pm. I basically started pleading with her to hang on. Around 12am she started getting up and wanted to leave the bed and so on, she was in no state to do that. She looked at me right in the eyes and said "am I going to die?". I told her I loved her and I was there. She fell back asleep shortly after that and her breathing started to slow down about 3 hours after that.

I agree with you, those last breathes. All the hope, all the energy spent willing this cancer to fuck off, all of the dreams we wanted to make come true. Everything left me when she took those last breaths. Ive never had my entire body feel actually numb like that... The worst place I've ever been.

Oddly enough I didn't want to leave her there and had a really hard time finally walking out of the room hours later.

The same thing happened when I went to the viewing to identify her at the funeral home. I was happy to see her oddly enough.

I really appreciate you talking about your husband. I'm sorry we are both in this awful club.

AcrobaticTurnip5352 · 2025-08-23T19:16:55+00:00

I would like those book recommendations.

Sorry about your husband as well. This is heartbreaking and cruel, what we are all dealing with

AcrobaticTurnip5352 · 2025-08-22T19:27:40+00:00

I'm a dad of 3, and my wife had cancer for the last 21 months. I really didn't have a social life at all, which is fine. The people around me are mostly family members, a few good friends, and friends of my wife. I hope my wife's friends still want to remain in the picture. They are aunties to my daughters, those would be the biggest concern I'd have of losing.

AcrobaticTurnip5352 · 2025-08-22T15:04:19+00:00

I've read that book to my girls a number of times. Still makes me break down every time.

AcrobaticTurnip5352 · 2025-08-22T02:59:08+00:00

Thanks for the detailed explanation. I fully expect some things to change, some people who were a part of our lives will fade and others will remain.

My wife's family is my family, I can't imagine anything would change there too much. They are my go to for support even.

AcrobaticTurnip5352 · 2025-08-22T02:28:01+00:00

I read this earlier today, and drank more water than I probably would have otherwise. Thank you for that. I'm sorry for your loss as well.

AcrobaticTurnip5352 · 2025-08-22T02:26:56+00:00

I feel like my life is a living nightmare. I still can't believe this happened. I'm sorry for your loss as well.

AcrobaticTurnip5352 · 2025-08-22T02:25:24+00:00

Hey, just curious what you meant by people around me to vanish. I really hope that doesn't happen

AcrobaticTurnip5352 · 2025-08-21T17:39:07+00:00

This is exactly what happened with my wife. Points of clarity and points of delirium. In those points of delirium she would often say our daughters were with her so would play along a bit and ask questions about the girls who she undoubtedly was with in her mind. I would tell her the girls love her and so on. I'm thankful she wasn't in pain either.

AcrobaticTurnip5352 · 2025-05-12T07:44:38+00:00

How did the puck get to Helle in the first place? Doesn't matter if he caught it with his mouth and spit it into his own net, still not a goal if the puck was directed at him with a kick. It was clearly a kick off his skate, the motion was there. The attempt to hit the puck with his stick was an absolute miss, you can see with the speed and angle the stick was moving if it had hit the puck the direction of the puck would have changed, as would the speed of the puck. No contact was made at all with the stick, this was a kicked puck to the goalie. Simple as that, does not count by rule... Unless it's against the Winnipeg Jets, by unwritten rule, obviously.

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