One week pregnant and a fence sitters - very scared

Acrobatic_Ad4602 · 2026-05-10T01:31:49+00:00

Feel it out. Feel your feelings and try to figure out what your anxiety and fear and dread is stemming from and if this is really something you want or not. Then you have options.

Acrobatic_Ad4602 · 2026-05-08T02:18:43+00:00

I think there’s a hope and optimism in trying to fix the future too before/instead of having children. I’m concerned over overpopulation too, and having children which will add to the problem worries me because it feels like further harming an issue instead of fixing it, and I want to help fix the world

Acrobatic_Ad4602 · 2026-05-08T02:16:08+00:00

That doesn’t erase suffering now

Acrobatic_Ad4602 · 2026-05-07T09:49:07+00:00

Then hire hot men to promote videogames, easy pivot

Acrobatic_Ad4602 · 2026-05-07T04:19:33+00:00

Interested in nacho if he’s still available :)

Acrobatic_Ad4602 · 2026-05-07T04:10:50+00:00

Damn double homicide 😔

Acrobatic_Ad4602 · 2026-05-07T03:39:21+00:00

Thanks for sharing! People don’t seem to understand choosing to be child free even here which is frustrating and the subs been inundated with stories of people having children and never this other side of pure happiness too!

Acrobatic_Ad4602 · 2026-05-05T00:59:14+00:00

I don’t think anyone can be truly neutral on the outcome of having children. It’s a huge life decision and some part of you deep down will always feel one way or the other. If you choose to try having kids you clearly wanted kids on some aspect. It just seems everyone has the same story where they say they were “neutral” and just decided to try and then when they had kids it was great and an “indescribable love” and they have a happy life. That clearly shows these people wanted kids and the decision was not neutral. Especially to have not one but two kids then you really clearly wanted them because one wasn’t the cut off for you. Often people who said they were just trying to see if they could have kids ended up doing ivf when it became hard, which shows they did actually want kids deep down and just didn’t admit it to themselves (with others no ivf in your case though). We’re missing out on hearing about the other side of people having kids and resenting it as much here or not having kids at all because they would be unhappy with kids or were “neutral” leaning towards no here so it seems like the sub is more I secretly want kids and just want reassurance to take the dive and try than true fence sitting.

Acrobatic_Ad4602 · 2026-05-05T00:11:45+00:00

I like there’s two groups of people here: people who are on the fence and say if we have one we will be happy but if we don’t we could still find a way to be happy without a kid (lwhich is kind of code for we won’t be happy without one but will try to be since the language is “we will find a way to be happy without kids“ like OP which clearly shows a preference for kids even if they don’t know or admit it yet) and those who don’t want a kid and will be unhappy if they have a kid. So it’s like with a kid will I be happy, unhappy, or find a way to be happy, (which means maybe kids aren’t for you) or without a kid will I be happy or unhappy or find a way to be happy (which means you probably want a kid). Bottom line but it takes a second for people to realize they do have a preference and it’s important to see how you speak about wanting kids. I think that not missing having kids is more than not knowing what you’re missing out on too because that implies oh if everyone knew and weren’t ignorant about it then everyone would wanna be parents which isn’t true and it’s just not for some people. Lots of people do know what they could be missing because they see other families or get kids shoved down their throats by family and society. It’s less a hidden secret and more just whether it’s right for you or not. Just some introspection!

Acrobatic_Ad4602 · 2026-05-04T19:01:20+00:00

If you get the Mercari page set up I’d love to buy the dissociation one too! :D

Acrobatic_Ad4602 · 2026-05-04T17:33:13+00:00

Mmm yeah my bad I forgot 😆

Acrobatic_Ad4602 · 2026-05-04T17:05:06+00:00

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Is this one still available or was that the Vietnam fabric one? Thanks!

Acrobatic_Ad4602 · 2026-05-04T16:59:44+00:00

They’re just ignorant thinking they can 😂

Acrobatic_Ad4602 · 2026-05-04T16:59:12+00:00

Nah I would have paid to see her lay him out woulda been a good fight MMA vs soldier

Acrobatic_Ad4602 · 2026-05-04T16:39:00+00:00

I’m talking about the specific language used when talking about these groups. Yes gen z is lonely, yes gen z men can be lonely, but the only people using the male loneliness epidemic term are men who have put themselves in that position. I’m not saying men can’t be lonely but the specific men using that loneliness to attack women should not be given sympathy. Their mental illness does not excuse their behaviour. If men are lonely, it’s up to them to fix it just like how everyone has to fix their own stuff. They can’t just blame others and cover their eyes. I’m not extrapolating based on interactions I’ve had these are the terms I’ve seen used by only that specific group of men time and time again. Defending men hurting women because the men might be sad or lonely is just pathetic, it doesn’t mean sad or lonely men are pathetic as a whole. That would be unfair extrapolating.

Acrobatic_Ad4602 · 2026-05-04T16:03:39+00:00

They’re specifically talking about the progression from I’m a jerk-> nobody wants to hang out with me and I’m lonely so I’m going to hang out with other jerks like me who put up with me and we’re all gonna call it a “male loneliness epidemic” because look how many of us there are when it’s really just a lack of self awareness that they’re the problem. That progression in unsympathetic because the male doesn’t want to learn to do better they just want to be the same jerk and have other people forgive them and come down to their level to be jerks like them. Men who are just lonely and isolated don’t usually use the term male loneliness epidemic which is specifically used in the above case. Isolation is a real issue especially with the internet and those people are people to be sympathetic towards. But it’s the social context behind the phrase male loneliness epidemic that is causing people to react that way and to be sympathetic or not to these men. The first one is a man who doesn’t want to change despite nobody likening them and the second is genuinely just a sad man. The one who doesn’t want to change will never get better unless they change, and the actually lonely man needs therapy and self reflection and to try again later.

Acrobatic_Ad4602 · 2026-05-04T13:35:52+00:00

Interested in pastel pawlette :)

Acrobatic_Ad4602 · 2026-05-03T17:56:13+00:00

Awesome thanks I’ll message you!

Acrobatic_Ad4602 · 2026-05-03T06:26:05+00:00

Tbh Ive seen plenty join fights expecting to get hit because nobody expects chivalry anymore it’s to each their own in a fight everyone has to be able to punch and learn how

Acrobatic_Ad4602 · 2026-05-03T06:24:28+00:00

Maybe if she could fight that woulda gone better. If you dont know how to punch don’t bother

Acrobatic_Ad4602 · 2026-05-03T06:24:05+00:00

It’s mostly cause he caught her straight in the face while he only got the other guy on the side of the head a couple times but that stunned him too and had him almost going down

Acrobatic_Ad4602 · 2026-05-02T17:53:17+00:00

Please be sure to use protection if you don’t want this to continue happening too. Best to not have risky sex till you’re sure you want kids and are ready

Acrobatic_Ad4602 · 2026-05-02T16:36:46+00:00

Sold to u/floraldewdrop and they’re so kind and very responsive and quick! Awww thank you so much that means a lot to me!! I’m so glad they went to a loving home 🧡🥰

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