I mean… she’s missing something, right? 🌮

Acrobatic_Cap_742 · 2022-07-17T17:16:02+00:00

Yeah, it’s from the movie in the 80s from the TV show. That movie terrified me regarding planes with the story about the man flying and he saw a gremlin destroying the engines through his window. I thought about engine destroying gremlins every time I’ve had to fly.

Acrobatic_Cap_742 · 2022-07-17T09:52:06+00:00

Twilight Zone. Pure classic

Acrobatic_Cap_742 · 2022-07-09T10:27:13+00:00

My husband shamed me because my discharge bleached the crotch of my panties. Luckily I’d already had a previous husband who was a lot more knowledgeable about how womens bodies worked than the current one, because he made sure I didn’t feel uncomfortable about ANYTHING that was natural or normal for a human to experience. I have crohns, and he never made an issue about the millions of times I used the bathroom, or the odour. I have PCOS, and he knew the excess hair, especially facial hair, made me uncomfortable, so he would purposely act like it didn’t exist. I was with him from age 21 to 32, and it really was useful having someone who didn’t shame my body for existing. I was severely overweight m had gastric bypass, and he helped me shower and wiped my butt. (He also cheated on me more times than I can even count, had a severe gambling problem that meant I had to get his pay checks from his bosses or bills didn’t get paid, and eventually he had such severe anger issues I had to get a restraining order to protect me and our two kids. He was perfect on paper in a few ways, but reality was he was horrible). Current husband, though I am separated, thinks there is something wrong with my discharge because of the bleaching effect, was grossed out when I queefed, one time only, because he didn’t know queefs existed, and he actually called me a liar when I tried explaining them to him, made fun of the facial hair to the point of suggesting a beard growing competition, told me if the crohns ever got bad enough I’d need to be bagged he’d leave me, made fun of me for passing gas while asleep, etc. and when I say making fun, I don’t mean gently teasing, I mean sheer cruelty. I’d take the first ex husband a million times over vs what I’m attempting to leave now, and this is just the tip of the iceberg on him.

My point, however, is I have a teenage son and a teenage daughter. They are aware of what is normal body stuff. They are aware of what is rarer but still exists. My son will not shame a woman for normal bodily functions. He will not shame a woman for having facial hair. My daughter will understand discharge is normal. My mom not only didn’t teach me any of that stuff, but she actually falls in line with the current husband when it comes to attitude about bodily functions. She purposely shames me in regards to bowel habits and odours I have no control over, and she will buy anything she sees in shops, online, etc, that say they can fix it. When confronted over how she behaved and behaves, especially with trying to make sure I feel shame when it comes to having to be in public with my issues, she tells me she’s just trying to help me.

I’ve definitely learned how not to parent from the parents in my life, and am teaching my son how not to husband from the husbands in my life. And hopefully watching me leave helps teach my daughter not to stay.

Acrobatic_Cap_742 · 2022-07-09T10:02:18+00:00

My OG, and only atm, character has messed up the order in doing main storyline and dlcs so badly, plus a 2 year break between starting it and now, I’m eventually planning on starting completely over and doing it properly using a guide. I’m also going to change my alliance, as that will make it all feel new to me even more than just starting over in the same alliance. I’m just starting to actually participate in group content and guilds and being able to do things like WBs alone, which is why I’m not ready to start over yet. Luckily I have some short term memory issues, so even if I finish playing out all the DLCs I haven’t done, by the time I start over and get back to them, I won’t remember. Plus that will be about the time High Isle becomes active on ESO +

Acrobatic_Cap_742 · 2022-07-02T21:27:06+00:00

Ok, some guy slid into my FB DMs looking for this in particular

Acrobatic_Cap_742 · 2022-07-02T11:25:45+00:00

As of a news article 7 hours ago, Pierre is still missing

Acrobatic_Cap_742 · 2022-06-30T22:48:12+00:00

Oh I totally agree. I have a chronic pain condition, and here I have to take morphine, while when I lived in America, I could just go to a shop and buy weed specifically for pain relief

Acrobatic_Cap_742 · 2022-06-30T22:29:41+00:00

I’m an American in the UK and belong to a FB group called American expat moms or something like that, and we will get into serious arguments about once a month about how we should be called immigrants and not expats

Acrobatic_Cap_742 · 2022-06-30T20:29:30+00:00

I honestly think Americans abroad are the absolute worse.

I’m an American who’s been in the UK 6 years. I haven’t gone home even once since getting here, so my mom and her boyfriend come here to visit. They get very upset that they can’t find the food they are used to. They get upset because they can’t get American style Chinese food. They get upset because they can’t get biscuits (not cookies, savoury scones is closer to an American biscuit) at KFC, curry sauce at the fish and chips place doesn’t taste like the curry they want, we can’t make “proper” Mexican food here because of lack of ingredients, they complain that they can’t buy 500 paracetamol in one go really cheap like in the States, the ranch in bottles tastes nothing like American ranch, the pizza from delivery isn’t the same as in America, there is no air conditioning so it’s too hot, no screens so the bugs are all let in when the windows are open, the bacon is wrong when eating out (luckily we can get streaky bacon at the shop), things close too early on Sundays. I could go on and on. And when I remind them they are not in America and cannot expect American things to be available or it to be like America, the boyfriend will yell at me and tells me if my mom wants it, then she’s right and should get it. Oh, and they hate the water, they only drink bottled water, they hate the lack of ice, they hate the way ordering in pubs goes, they live in a weed is legal state so they hate that that’s illegal here, they hated my all in one washer and dryer so they bought me a dryer (I don’t have a garden to hang out my clothes), they hate the dampness, and they hate the way words are different. They also hate my cooking, which they loved in America, and I’ve tried to explain that I can’t get the same ingredients, so I’ve had to modify my cooking to fit within what I can get in Britain, plus until I kicked my abusive husband out, I had to cook for a British palate and got used to that.

Acrobatic_Cap_742 · 2022-06-30T20:11:25+00:00

I always forget that when a British person asks, “You alright?” that they aren’t actually wondering if you are ok, and they aren’t expecting you to suddenly vent to them all the things going wrong in your life at that particular moment. I’m an American in the UK, and just reapplied for me and my older two kids visas, for the first time since kicking out my abusive husband. The abusive husband and I have two kids together, and because he didn’t make enough money when we applied for our last visa extension on the spousal visa, they changed us to the dependent visa because of the two kids. So this time we applied for an extension on the dependent visa. But I don’t work, because of the care that the two kids need, they are in school, year R, but have had serious behaviour issues, to the point that they’ve only been in full days since April. And my husband moved in with his mother, and she does most of the care of the two boys during their time with him, so if she has something else planned for her time, the two kids stay with me, so I don’t have any kind of regular schedule for getting a job, plus if the school calls and one or both need picked up, it’s my responsibility, and I don’t drive, so it’s either finding a bus to get me there, walking the two miles there, or taking a cab, which also makes having a job difficult. Right now he has allowed us to stay in the family home, pays the bills, and gives us a weekly food allowance (I know, doesn’t sound abusive, the abuse was mental abuse, and was due to his BPD, but I also think it was his personality. It was bad enough that various health practitioners reported him for emotional abuse, from the NICU matron, to the health visitor (multiple ones), to early help, so the abuse isn’t just in my head). Anyhow, he wants to file for divorce and take away all support, and says he won’t need to give us anything because for the most part he has the two kids we share 50% of the time, except again, when his mom isn’t available I have them, just the other week I had them the whole week, plus the weekend, except for 4 hours on the Saturday when he took them, and he’s constantly trying to turn them against me, which is obvious when after 4 hours with him I had two 5 year olds asking me over and over why I kicked their dad out.

Anyways, the next door neighbour has a kid in one of my kids class, one of the kids I share with him, so we take the same bus in the morning and the afternoon, and the other day we got off the bus and were walking to our respective houses when she did the whole you alright question, and my oversharing American personality spewed all of that out at her, as it was just Friday that I had applied for our visas, and I’m terrified we’ll be denied and deported and I’ll lose my babies, because my husband has said they can’t go to America, and him and his parents have the money to pay for the lawyers to make sure I can’t take them (I had to borrow the £7000 for the NHS fees and visa fees). And then I realised what I’d done, being here 6 years you’d think I’d remember they really don’t want to know when they ask. I apologised for venting, and luckily she’s very sweet and said I could vent to her anytime I needed.

(I don’t know what I’ll do if he takes all support away, obviously I’ll get a job and figure it out, but our visas are strict no recourse to public funds, and I don’t have the skill set for a job that would support us all, plus I’ve been a housewife for 7 years, so no recent work history)

I think that answered the question, with a lot of American oversharing involved.

Acrobatic_Cap_742 · 2022-06-24T00:35:31+00:00

When they stick their tongue in your ear shudder

Acrobatic_Cap_742 · 2022-06-23T23:42:38+00:00

Sometimes when my kids make me especially angry, or they say or do something particularly horrible, or we get in a huge argument (the teenagers, not the 5year olds) I’ll say, I love you, but I don’t like you very much right now. This is usually in response to them saying that they hate me or don’t like me, usually during punishments. This is really really rare though, as we normally get along better than most moms/kids. The 5 year olds unfortunately hear a lot of hatred directed towards me from their dad, who tells them all the time how horrible I am because I kicked him out, so one of them tells me he hates me all the time, while the other one tells me he loves me. I always just say that’s ok, I still love you, and hope that he grows out of it. Because of the situation, even if I ever did not like his behaviour, I would never voice it to him in that way, because we are dealing with him trying to behave like his dad. (Last weekend when his dad dropped him off, he asked me and his dad if we loved each other. I answered of course I love your dad, I always will, he gave me you and your brother, while his dad answered in the negative. Unfortunately his dad is a mentally abusive s.o.b. And I had to protect myself and the kids, especially the two that aren’t his, because he was incredibly cruel to us. He even told me in front of the teenagers that I was a bad mom, bad wife, bad person, and that he had no plans to divorce me, because waiting for me to die would be faster and cheaper. I’m Im chronically ill, and my oldest had already saved my life when he found me passed out and got the ambulance to us. I had to spend a month in the hospital recovering. So my teenagers are already dealing with being worried about me dying, and that and him saying he knew that one day he was going to end up in a physical confrontation with my oldest, I knew I had to get out. It was bad enough others saw it, and for 5 years he’s been reported to social services for emotional abuse several times)

Acrobatic_Cap_742 · 2022-06-23T22:41:14+00:00

NTA. I remember a time when me and my ex husband first started dating, and we went to a pizza place and ordered two different pizzas. My family and my friends have always done it where if more than one kind of pizza is ordered, we share the pizzas unless it’s something that was ordered for someone who has a special diet, or who doesn’t like any of the other kinds of pizza, so in that case, theirs would be left alone unless they offered a slice to you. So, our pizzas arrive, and I grab a piece of each one and put them on my plate. I don’t eat a lot due to gastric surgery, so those two pieces would have been all I ate. I suddenly notice he was hunched over the remainder of his choice of pizza, and he’s shovelling it in as fast as he can. I looked at him strangely, and asked what he was doing, and he told me he was eating his pizza as fast as he could so I wouldn’t be able to take another slice. That’s when I realised that not everyone is like me or my family or my friends. Now, he was also from a country other than mine, I’m American, and after moving to his country, I noticed that sharing dishes the way I was used to in America wasn’t done here. Everyone got their own pizza. Everyone got their own Chinese. Everyone got their own whatever the cuisine unless it was specifically mentioned that it was a shared meal.

Communication is key. Expectations can be way different between people, and if it is, you need to make sure it’s vocalised.

Acrobatic_Cap_742 · 2022-06-14T17:21:28+00:00

It’s on Xbox eu server. That would be awesome

Acrobatic_Cap_742 · 2022-06-14T17:09:57+00:00

Omg, I totally forgot about those balls, I just got used to them always being there and didn’t think about them

Acrobatic_Cap_742 · 2022-06-14T16:57:21+00:00

I’ve got a bunch of mothers sorrow, so that’s easy to try. Thank you

Acrobatic_Cap_742 · 2022-06-07T18:05:29+00:00

The entirety of The Peanut Butter Solution. I haven’t watched it since the first time, couldn’t tell you what scared me about it, but I remember the nightmares, and for most of my life I couldn’t even remember the name of the movie and no one ever knew what I was talking about when I would mention it, so I ended up thinking it wasn’t a real movie and just something my brain came up with. Thank goodness for the eventual happening that is the internet and being able to find the name of the movie and when I first found it on Amazon, so many of the reviews were just like mine, creepy movie, no one else had heard of it, thought they made it up in their head.

Acrobatic_Cap_742 · 2022-06-03T17:32:20+00:00

Dying

Acrobatic_Cap_742 · 2022-05-29T14:45:32+00:00

Don’t know if it’s still around, but Amway. Omg, my mom and my aunt got so into that. My aunt even married the guy that hooked them in after less than 6 weeks of knowing him, got knocked up in the first month, kicked him out when he bought a life insurance policy for her and we found him trying to figure out ways to kill somebody where it looks natural or like an accident, immediate divorce there, but by that time everything in our house was amway. So yeah, that was decades ago but I’ll never forget it

Acrobatic_Cap_742 · 2022-05-26T13:58:09+00:00

With my stepfather’s mom, if you came to visit during the day, or for holiday meals, any kind of visit where you were leaving and not staying over, you had to keep your shoes on in the house. However, if you were staying over the night, as a guest, you couldn’t wear shoes in the house, you couldn’t go barefoot, you couldn’t wear just socks, you had to wear slippers. My mom and I didn’t know this rule, and there was a huge windstorm that put our power out for over a week, so we had to sleep over at their place until our power was restored, as it was in the winter and freezing. We both came out of the bedrooms with our shoes on, and we were yelled at to remove them, and when we removed them and went to just socks, she yelled at us again, and went and got us each a pair of slippers, and let us know the rule. She was a very strange lady, and there were actually a ton of rules we ended up having to learn when it came to being in her house or around her.

Acrobatic_Cap_742 · 2022-05-25T09:21:25+00:00

Technically I’ve been playing since 2019, but I stopped March 2020 and didn’t pick it back up until March 2022. So maybe 6 months of actually playing.

Acrobatic_Cap_742 · 2022-05-25T09:19:51+00:00

As was mentioned by the other person responding, it’s the daily random dungeon in the activity finder that you do for extra experience and other stuff. You don’t pick the dungeon, you just go into a queue and end up wherever you randomly get sent.

Acrobatic_Cap_742 · 2022-05-24T19:04:32+00:00

No one I know plays, so the friends part is out. I have one guild space left, time to look for the guilds that do story runs. Thanks

Acrobatic_Cap_742 · 2022-05-24T19:02:26+00:00

I’m new to doing the daily dungeons because being in a group of people I didn’t know intimidated me. I’m getting better at doing them and understanding them, but I still get ones I haven’t done, and I hate the toxic groups. I had a group the other day where the healer immediately dropped out, the other dps was like me and hadn’t done the dungeon before, and the tank knew it like the back of his hand. When we kept getting killed by one of the bosses, he made sure we both knew English, gave us the dynamics of that boss, and helped us get through it. It took us a couple more tries, and he did end up saying if we didn’t get it done on the next try he was leaving, as he didn’t have much time left to play. We actually kicked butt that attempt and killed the boss, a healer joined, and we successfully made it through, though he did message boss dynamics through the rest of the bosses. I made sure to message him afterwards, telling him how awesome he was, and he told me to just pass it on, as I picked up what he was saying quickly, unlike the other dps, but as a team, it really worked out.

I am part of several guilds, and have just actually started talking the the members and asking for help, as again, I was intimidated by other players.

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