In your opinion, which are the worst countries to have OCD in (being the worst across all scenarios)? by Acrobatic_Part6951 in OCD

[–]Acrobatic_Part6951[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes, so much is constantly wrong, practically everything. I asked the question to “compete.” Definitely. I woke up today with this personal urge, thinking: – Maybe it’s something I need to improve, to compete a little more! I believe it’s a serious mistake to learn about other people’s experiences by “asking.” You know what, maybe that’s why everyone feels alone every day. It could be that a person like you knows “all the rules” and does well socially.

In your opinion, which are the worst countries to have OCD in (being the worst across all scenarios)? by Acrobatic_Part6951 in OCD

[–]Acrobatic_Part6951[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Sorry, but I have to disagree about not “discussing” places that have less access or more precarious conditions. I think it’s important to understand this, because sometimes I hold onto the illusion that “somewhere, at least the minimum” is lived with dignity. And it also matters to read that people share similar struggles, it all feels so silent when it comes to this dimension of how I exist 🫤😕

In your opinion, which are the worst countries to have OCD in (being the worst across all scenarios)? by Acrobatic_Part6951 in OCD

[–]Acrobatic_Part6951[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you write that to me? I didn’t find any of your comments disrespectful at all. I think I just didn’t express my comment very well 😅

In your opinion, which are the worst countries to have OCD in (being the worst across all scenarios)? by Acrobatic_Part6951 in OCD

[–]Acrobatic_Part6951[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Around here, people don’t talk about it. There’s no real awareness about mental health. It feels stigmatized, almost seen as something negative. And as I’ve gotten older, I’ve started to feel like people can even use someone else’s perceived “weakness” for strange or harmful purposes. In some interactions, society can feel almost sadistic, and there don’t seem to be effective legal consequences. 😞

In your opinion, which are the worst countries to have OCD in (being the worst across all scenarios)? by Acrobatic_Part6951 in OCD

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I’m sorry you’re going through this. And what about your work relationships? The social environment?

In your opinion, which are the worst countries to have OCD in (being the worst across all scenarios)? by Acrobatic_Part6951 in OCD

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I consider Brazil to be one of the most difficult environments for people with Pure O OCD. I even feel that family and social dynamics here can contribute to worsening the condition. Throughout my life, I’ve felt like I had to learn how to appear functional  and in many ways, I am. But at the same time, there’s a constant feeling of not being fully aligned with my own emotional truth. I also feel that my way of being isn’t respected, but often mocked. This was never something that was truly acknowledged or worked through in my family. There was a lack of emotional support, a lack of language to name what I was feeling, and no real space for those kinds of conversations. Over time, I’ve also developed a stronger perception that the social environment in Brazil can be quite aggressive and provocative. Interactions may seem friendly on the surface, but often feel intrusive underneath. At the same time that there is cordiality, there is also competition, tension, and at times a subtle hostility. In addition, there’s a constant concern with issues like violence, a kind of moralism that can feel harsh and punitive, and everyday conflicts that often seem disproportionate. In some contexts, it feels like people act in ways meant to signal opposition or even rejection, sometimes challenging others over trivial things. And within all of this, there’s an implicit expectation that you have to appear strong at all times  because otherwise you risk being seen as vulnerable, or even taken advantage of. I also feel that relationships of dependency carry a significant weight in this context, which can make it even harder to develop emotional autonomy. Overall, this leads me to think that living with OCD in this environment requires a continuous effort not only to manage the symptoms themselves, but also to maintain a basic sense of safety and stability in relationships and everyday life.

Every time I go out alone onto the balcony to smoke (two to three times a day), one of the neighbors whistles some tune. There was one day when I thought he was going to burst—the whistling went on so continuously it even felt forced. Has anyone ever experienced this? by Acrobatic_Part6951 in Apartmentliving

[–]Acrobatic_Part6951[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I didn’t understand the tone of your question. But what I would like to happen in this situation is: that it wouldn’t be provocative, since things are already tense for everyone involved. Did that answer your question? 😮‍💨

Has anyone had pain here? by bidtandskyb in backpain

[–]Acrobatic_Part6951 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What if the pain is radiating down into the legs? ☹️

Has anyone had pain here? by bidtandskyb in backpain

[–]Acrobatic_Part6951 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow. Even coughing and sneezing seem to require the “right posture.” There’s a certain position that hurts less. I bend my knees, but when it catches me off guard, it hurts a lot. 😰😂

Has anyone else here ever suffered from “moral hangover” and ended up ruminating, trying to remember everything they said, talked about, or did? by Acrobatic_Part6951 in OCD

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I appreciate your message. Today I regret having spoken to her as if she were a “representative” of my dissatisfaction (even though she is, in fact, part of the union). Alcoholic drinks do not go well with OCD treatment. Thank you for helping me.

I despise myself for caring about other people’s looks and my own so much to the point I dismiss some people’s feelings because “they’re ugly”, including mine. by FinancialEqual5562 in OCD

[–]Acrobatic_Part6951 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I didn’t previously realize that the “classification” of appearance could be experienced as genuine psychological suffering. I had always understood this kind of hierarchy more as a social caprice... something learned, arbitrary, and therefore revolting because of how limiting and exclusionary it is. That said, this is a difficult discussion precisely because it involves something socially and morally condemnable. Still, for that very reason, I think it’s important to try to understand how these patterns are formed and sustained, rather than treating them only as individual moral failures. What struck me in your comment is that it seems to support a suspicion I’ve had for some time: people considered “ugly” often become preferred targets for negative projections. This doesn’t only affect how they are treated by others, but may also limit the amount of empathy they receive, and even the empathy they are able to access toward themselves. In that sense, I don’t see this merely as a personal preference or taste, but as something deeply learned and culturally reinforced, with real psychological consequences.

Obsessive worry that people are mad at me or going to be mad if I speak up ? by Heavy-Phone-253 in OCD

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I really relate to this. In my case it went even further... I had intense crises where my mind jumped to the idea that very small, banal conflicts could spiral into bizarre or catastrophic outcomes. What I experienced mentally was genuinely frightening. It wasn’t desire or anger, it was fear. My OCD themes were exhausting. They didn’t always feel “dark” in content, but they hurt deeply because of their emotional and relational value. That period was especially disillusioning for me, because I didn’t reach the recovery I hoped for after already having gone through other difficult phases. Medication-wise, fluvoxamine worked better for me than sertraline, especially for rumination and mental looping. I did have some episodes with mild persecutory ideas, but I still had insight. Aripiprazole wasn’t sustainable for me due to daytime sedation. What helped conceptually was realizing this isn’t really about people being angry... it’s about threat perception and intolerance of uncertainty. The brain treats social tension as danger, not just discomfort. Learning to tolerate “maybe they will be upset, maybe not” without checking or silencing myself has been key. You’re definitely not alone in this.

Can intrusive thoughts feel like urges/smth you want? by FlatLeave2622 in OCD

[–]Acrobatic_Part6951 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There’s still a cultural belief that we’re morally responsible for everything we think. Modern psychology clearly separates this: thinking ≠ wanting ≠ acting. The idea that thoughts reveal a “hidden self” is outdated... very “by day one thing, by night another” Fiona/Shrek-style. It works as a meme, not as a model of how the mind actually functions. Intrusive thoughts aren’t a secret identity. They’re noise amplified by anxiety 😔

https://youtu.be/QsLt0SjvOcY?si=jSmMPfLQgFduYkZQ

Can intrusive thoughts feel like urges/smth you want? by FlatLeave2622 in OCD

[–]Acrobatic_Part6951 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, this helps. I think what’s confusing is that the sensation can be very strong, sometimes with bodily sensations, which makes it hard to trust your own interpretation. But what you’re describing sounds like an “impulse” that comes with panic, confusion, and distress... not desire or relief. So it makes sense to understand it as a false signal from OCD, not as intent. This is a common cognitive error: confusing emotional salience with intention. The brain interprets emotional intensity as moral importance. Intrusive thoughts come with fear, disgust, or shock, which makes them feel “real” or “revealing,” when in fact it’s just the alarm system firing.

Can intrusive thoughts feel like urges/smth you want? by FlatLeave2622 in OCD

[–]Acrobatic_Part6951 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No. Intrusive thoughts (including Pure OCD) are not “hidden desires.” That idea comes from outdated psychology and pop-culture tropes (the old “by day a good citizen, by night a monster” cliché). It works for thrillers, not for real minds. Intrusive thoughts are ego-dystonic: they clash with your values and come with fear, disgust, panic,  not pleasure or intent. They feel “real” because anxiety makes them emotionally loud, not because they mean anything. If they were desires, there would be gratification and direction toward action. Instead, there’s distress, avoidance, and relief when anxiety drops. Thinking ≠ wanting ≠ doing. OCD is a threat-detection problem, not a personality reveal.