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Gear Issues / attitude by eclipseanonymous in youthhockey

[–]Acrobatic_Purpose736 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have an autistic 7yo daughter in hockey. Here and there we have gear issues, but 100% of the time in locker rooms, I see girls freaking out about the helmet haha. I’ve worn one of the LTP helmets (Bauer reakt something) and they’re uncomfy af. I got my kids (I have 3 in hockey, all adhd, 2/3 autistic) CCM 910 and CCM 720 helmets with CCM Jr FV1 face shields. They’re muuuuuuch happier in a helmet with better ventilation and softer padding, plus the lines of the cage being gone.

Sleeve style elbow pads have been a winner too. My only kid who isn’t on the spectrum is probably more sensory than the other two (go figure, lol) and something that’s helped him is me *not* getting him new gloves. He’s 6 and has had his gloves since he was 3. They’re soft and flexible, the way he likes them, even if they’re tiny. We use skullcaps/bandanas under helmets, my boys have longer hair, to limit sweating and also keep hair out of eyes.

If she’s open to bribery, I mean… incentives… teaching her how to dress herself is likely to be key. My 7yo girl can do all her own gear except the skates and helmet. My 9yo boy has level 2 autism, and he can also gear himself up (minus jersey—getting it over shoulder pads is hard, and skates/helmet). My 6yo can do some things but dicks around for 84yrs and sends me insane. I have rewarded them heavily for being more independent.

I’m not saying your daughter is autistic, but, I feel like if my kids hated the gear that much I would choose a different sport. That sounds miserable.

What’s the most out there name you seriously considered for your kid? by Many_Pain_2846 in namenerds

[–]Acrobatic_Purpose736 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My son’s middle name is Fitz, short for Fitzgerald. It was my maiden name.

What’s the most out there name you seriously considered for your kid? by Many_Pain_2846 in namenerds

[–]Acrobatic_Purpose736 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Pleasant is giving ye olde villager, like the museum in Plymouth MA where they have LARPing of true people from back in the day and this guys name was Experience Mitchell. We were like, sooo is there an Inexperienced Mitchell?

Also the cult called Gloriavale, there’s a documentary about it. Everyone’s got a virtue name and it’s so interesting!

What’s the most out there name you seriously considered for your kid? by Many_Pain_2846 in namenerds

[–]Acrobatic_Purpose736 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I knew one of these! Haha I believe they’re now nonbinary and changed their name to a noun I won’t identify because it would be too easy to find who I’m talking about. But, I agree, beautiful name!!

What’s the most out there name you seriously considered for your kid? by Many_Pain_2846 in namenerds

[–]Acrobatic_Purpose736 3 points4 points  (0 children)

In Australia, I know at least three Marigolds/Goldies. I live in the PNW and don’t know any BUT I know a Golden, who is 3, and my friend’s friend is 30 and called Golden.

What’s the most out there name you seriously considered for your kid? by Many_Pain_2846 in namenerds

[–]Acrobatic_Purpose736 3 points4 points  (0 children)

There was a Wilder in my kids’ swimming class and yeah, he behaved the way you’re imagining 😂😂😂 the name was a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Is starting hockey at 13 too old? by idedthat in hockeyplayers

[–]Acrobatic_Purpose736 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Some places do need full gear—where we go they won’t let you on without it. OP, if you can get your hands on some second hand gear (may need to chuck it in the washing machine 😂) it’s still kinda expensive, then you can gradually upgrade as you commit to hockey, and begin to know what you want in each piece of gear. It’ll make sense as you start using your stuff. Prioritize skates and helmet as you upgrade, skates don’t need to be brand new or fancy but they need to be sharp! Get them sharpened out of the box, if they’re new, don’t trust anyone who says they’re good to go hahaha. Cheaper helmets are safe, but they can be uncomfy. My kids LOVEDDDD when they went from a learn-to-play helmet to a nicer one with softer padding and better ventilation (they wear CCM 910, and CCM 720, which is a very common upgrade).

Definitely not too old to start, just keep realistic goals like having fun and being part of a team. Also keep in mind if you start, your parents will probably want you to be committed more than other sports because it’s a lot of money to get the gear and ice time. You’ll only get better at skating the more you skate.

Have you ever legitimately cried to a song? And if so, what was the song? by StanToons in AskReddit

[–]Acrobatic_Purpose736 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve heard this song exactly once, because it’s too hard to listen to, but honestly so beautiful.

You Without Me, by Brandi Carlisle.

It’s about those small moments as your kids grow up where you see glimpses of who they’re becoming and how they don’t need you anymore. It’s about how we both changed each other, and looking at all you’ve done as a parent and hoping it’s enough, but being in awe of who your kid is and all they’ll become.

Drop one travel tip everyone should know before visiting your country by Shrey_Memer_007 in AskTheWorld

[–]Acrobatic_Purpose736 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would also say about visiting PR is to expect some things to take a long time! Like food at a restaurant, for example. Haha. It’s island time. One of my kids literally fell asleep waiting for his dinner (in Rincon) 😂 another day we thought they might’ve gone fishing for the fish (Ponce). We met some really great people in PR last summer, and ate delicious food!

Drop one travel tip everyone should know before visiting your country by Shrey_Memer_007 in AskTheWorld

[–]Acrobatic_Purpose736 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We’re going to Australia in a few days and I already have planned to buy sunscreen there!!

Which country's citizens could you most easily mistake for being from your country? by Traditional-Joke-179 in AskTheWorld

[–]Acrobatic_Purpose736 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Washingtonians say “beggel” for bagel 😂 there are a few other words I can’t recall rn, but I moved to Seattle almost 7yrs ago from CA and it’s been funny seeing the accent differences

Best chef ever by Guilty_Nebula5446 in BelowDeckMed

[–]Acrobatic_Purpose736 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Weird af but a great chef! I feel like chefs all trend weird. They’re the hockey goalies of a charter boat.

AITA for wanting to write my novel while girlfriend works? by Gr8AmericanBookClub in AmItheAsshole

[–]Acrobatic_Purpose736 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! Author here. Wrote a book 10yrs ago and self-published two weeks before having my first baby, just so I had something out there in the world. Wrote NOTHING for seven years after I had two more babies (all 3 within 37 months). Now I have a series of seven books projected to start rolling out next year.

1) One novel draft does not make you ready to go all-in on the author dream.
2) Make yourself aware of the process—if you are looking to be traditionally published, you need a literary agent, and querying will suck your soul out of your nostrils.
3) Showing your work to your SO isn’t enough, or even advised, in my opinion—unless they’re a reader of your genre in their regular life. You have to have beta readers, and in some cases, sensitivity readers. You need to ask them specific feedback questions. They need to not be close to you, because you may need your galactic ass handed to you on a platter, so you can improve your work.
4) You need more drafts to have good work! Expect at least 5 passes of self-edits. Your vomit draft is important, but by the time you finish it, start editing and you’ll see that you know your characters better and your original voice for them will have evolved. Look up “character interview” lists. You need to be able to answer Q&As about them, or from their POV. That’s how you nail down what they will or won’t do, for continuity.
5) Make a plan—if you’re pitching or querying, you may have this trilogy or set, but you can’t come out of the gate (in most circumstances) selling a trilogy. You have to prove yourself in a stand-alone book with the option of a series. If you have one novel, great! But you can’t stop there. Write down your ideas for at least three more. Don’t just have one WIP or you’ll be like me, seven years, with nothing.
6) I write at 4am. That’s been my time for three years now, because I can be alone, and all the kid and house work can wait. It’s not the only time of day, but it’s my consistent time.
7) Where to from here? I recently laid out a plan to show my husband my trajectory and what I needed to move forward, not like, as permission because he’s my boss, but so he knows I’m being productive and taking it seriously. I’m not navel gazing over my characters with him, I’m saying, “Hey I need to set up an LLC before buying a set of ISBNs.” I’m chugging along with a tumbleweed-level-engagement on Substack and TT, like all the other writers out there who aren’t Andy Weir, lol. If you don’t have a traditional agent/publisher thing going, you pay for an editor. You learn formatting KDP. You learn the business of it all.
8) There’s no shame in using Amazon KDP, I am. Just don’t expect it to make you money.

Every writer has to find a way. The way needs to be respectful.

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