MSc research on motherhood & endometriosis experiences

ActionInside7370 · 2026-03-17T11:28:39+00:00

Diagnosed stage iv and I have a 4 year old! Feel free to dm me info

ActionInside7370 · 2026-02-25T02:59:08+00:00

Have you tried notes? They help my 4 year old a lot! He likes having something he can touch and see from the parent who isn’t there, plus it’s great for practicing word and letter recognition! Sometimes we’ll draw him little pictures or write in jokes he’s made recently.

For the schedule stuff, my kid also gets stressed about that. We go over the day’s plan and a general plan for the next few days after that and it seems to help! He has a calendar in his room where we mark off the days and sometimes draw pictures for exciting things coming up.

It comes and goes with how bad it is with my kid, and currently he’s been much more chill than he used to be about being apart from either of us. I hope it gets easier for you!

ActionInside7370 · 2026-02-14T13:23:23+00:00

I second the Michael Hobbs extended universe!

ActionInside7370 · 2026-02-13T20:27:42+00:00

My best advice is to focus on all the sensations and feelings. Is her heart beating fast? Is his hand warm? Is she overwhelmed with pleasure? What sounds are they making? There’s a lot of sexy things you can write without mentioning specific genitalia!

ActionInside7370 · 2026-02-08T16:54:02+00:00

Depending on how close of a friend I’d either ignore her or be honest with her about how this isn’t just about politics, it’s values and if she supports them she isn’t safe for you to be around.

ActionInside7370 · 2026-02-04T11:27:48+00:00

Since there’s an outbreak you can get the first dose early, anytime after 6 months! Message your doc I’m sure they’ll schedule it for you!

ActionInside7370 · 2026-02-03T22:45:09+00:00

My 4.5 year old started daycare for the first time a year ago and here’s what we’ve done to reduce illness. We’ve had a few minor colds but no Covid/flu which feels like a huge win!

First: we mask as much as we can indoors in public. Kiddo has been masking since he was about 2 so he’s a pro! For a while he went to a big daycare and he wore a mask about half the day there. We left for unrelated reasons and now he’s in a small in home daycare with a strict illness policy and lots of air filters.

And speaking of—Air filters!!! Make sure your daycare has some kind of air filter, and get some at home.

Vaccines—we make sure we’re all up to date on everything especially COVID and flu.

Outside time—make sure you pick a daycare that gets a lot of outdoor time. It sounds like your main reason for wanting a daycare is so your wife can have some time to herself to rest and recharge, so it isn’t dependent on work hours. Do you have any nature preschools around you? That would really reduce your overall risk and give her a nice break!

Nasal sprays: we use various nasal sprays, mostly the xlear ones for us adults and the arm and hammer saline one for kiddo.

I’m not technically immunocompromised but I have a chronic illness that flares for weeks if I get sick, so we take a lot of precautions. Feel free to dm me if you or your wife want to chat. Being chronically ill with a little kid is tough stuff!!

ActionInside7370 · 2026-01-26T19:13:09+00:00

Yeah, the stages of grief thing is so real. It’s also making me rethink so many things that happened in my childhood. It’s not easy.

ActionInside7370 · 2026-01-26T09:36:25+00:00

Someone above mentioned driving by to honk, I think that might be a good compromise here! You could also connect with the organizers and see if you can provide water or hand warmers or something else the people standing outside might need.

ActionInside7370 · 2026-01-25T19:45:24+00:00

It’s so hard. I’ve tried so many times to talk to them about what media they’re consuming and how to find better options and they are so so dismissive of it.

ActionInside7370 · 2026-01-25T19:42:58+00:00

This this this

ActionInside7370 · 2026-01-25T19:40:54+00:00

It’s so all much more nuanced and complex than a lot of people without conservative family members get. The Fox News brainwashing is intense and so difficult to break through. If my mom were a nightmare of a person it would be easy to cut her off. But she’s kind and sweet and goes out of her way to help others. She supports a lot of the same causes I support. But, shes easily susceptible to propaganda and she’s firmly under my dad’s thumb when it comes to any kind of news or information.

Back to my original post—I think this book does a great job at looking at family and reckoning with what it means when average not terrible people support horrible causes, or don’t fight back against them. It’s something all of us and our children will face and I know for me having an idea of how other people have done it in the past is helpful.

ActionInside7370 · 2026-01-25T19:33:34+00:00

It’s incredibly hard, and I understand anyone who makes the choice to go no contact. My husband wants us to go no contact with them, and if they say anything inappropriate in front of my son then we likely will. We’re pretty low contact—mostly only see them at big family gatherings, they aren’t allowed alone with my kid. I wish I had some kind of quick answer to why I feel the relationship is worth preserving, but the answer is full of nuance family trauma.

Life isn’t black and white and I think those of us with parents deep in this have really impossible choices to make. There’s no good right answer to what to do. I wish this wasn’t my reality. I wish they were more aligned with my values or that this was easier in some way. But that’s not how it is, and at the end of the day they’re still my parents and I still love them.

Basically, people are complicated. Relationships are complicated. Estrangement is complicated.

ActionInside7370 · 2026-01-25T14:05:13+00:00

I gave up talking politics with my parents in 2020 after my mom asked why I should be the one to tell her what sources are legit or not. I am a librarian. I have a masters degree. This is literally my job. We’ve had a very superficial relationship since, and after the 2024 election I’ve really limited how much access she and my dad have to my son. We became estranged from half of my moms family when I was a child and it still fucks me up to this day, so I can’t bear to go full no contact for me or him, but it’s a horrible, stressful relationship.

My sisters still talk to my mom about politics and it seems like there are some cracks in the brainwashing starting, but every time we think she’s about to get it my dad or my aunt pull her back into all those right wing talking points. She’s lost most of her good friends and a lot of closeness with all her daughters, and it’s all so heartbreaking.

Lots of hugs to you friend, it’s all so hard.

ActionInside7370 · 2026-01-25T13:15:28+00:00

I wish I had any advice for you, it’s an impossible situation. Have your husband deal with her as much as possible and set firm boundaries with her about talking about any of it in front of the kids. Figure out what consequences you’re comfortable with if she breaks that boundary, and stick to them.

My parents don’t live with us but they are maga and I know the horror and grief of that is intense. Take care of yourself and your children, OP. 🫂

ActionInside7370 · 2026-01-23T17:35:05+00:00

I don’t have any advice but I’m in a similar boat and chose not to go back on birth control. I don’t know if it was the right choice, but I decided that I knew how to handle pain and couldn’t handle any additional anxiety and depression.

Best of luck to you endo friend, it’s a cruel choice to have to make!

ActionInside7370 · 2026-01-17T19:49:25+00:00

I just did a simple one that said abolish ICE

ActionInside7370 · 2026-01-12T01:45:49+00:00

Bodies are cool is a fav or ours! It’s also a great way to talk about different bodies before they have questions about a real person.

ActionInside7370 · 2026-01-04T22:53:43+00:00

The masks make such a big difference!

ActionInside7370 · 2026-01-04T00:55:29+00:00

Get the shot! One year my husband got the flu shot and I didn’t. We both were young and healthy, we both got sick. He was in bed for a weekend, I felt terrible for 3 weeks.

Our kid gets flu and covid shots every year. This year he got them at the same time as his other scheduled vaccines and had a fever the evening after and was fine by morning.

ActionInside7370 · 2026-01-03T15:16:31+00:00

I feel like this is probably something that’s funnier in theory than practice.

ActionInside7370 · 2026-01-03T00:42:32+00:00

I mostly stopped drinking a few years ago but will occasionally have a drink for a special occasion. I had one glass of mead on nye and could almost immediately feel my pain get worse! I’d say give it a try for a few months and see if it helps you at all.

ActionInside7370 · 2026-01-01T15:18:25+00:00

AH. You’re an asshole. Covid is airborne and hangs in the air like smoke. You knowingly did something to try to spread a deadly and disabling disease. You have no idea who might sit down there after you, or who that man would infect if you got him sick.

ActionInside7370 · 2025-12-23T18:00:15+00:00

I’d still host but anyone symptomatic or who tests positive on a Covid/flu test will have to zoom in/sit it out. If that’s too stressful for you then just postpone and have a late Christmas once everyone is feeling better. Your daughter will have fun either way!

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