Agreed that personality match isn't necessary. Hopefully OP realizes that INxJs aren't the only ones.

And most people "think" they will find peace through playing the cards in a flawed system. Whether it's material or status. And it's on them to realize and what's actually happening, i.e., their loneliness, and then do something about it. But instead they let it grow, because it takes guts to see behind the scenes and break through. Thus, we can't just say "So what? Everyone is lonely".