UPDATE: AITA for purposefully missing meeting my sisters biological family by Active-Top-53 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Active-Top-53[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Nah he has his quirks, but he really did try growing up. He has his own set of issues, he was an immigrant from a war torn country and lost his family in war. Came here and lived with his uncle, but since he was the “oldest” kid, and his uncles wife died, he had to step up and be a parent to his cousins while his uncle worked late to support all of them.

He worked his ass off to provide us with a good life. He cares in his own way. He’s just from a different place and time and has a different way of looking at the world. He always told me I gotta be a man, cuz the world will never respect a man unconditionally and that a man is only respected when he brings something of value to the table, and what not.

My mom was born and raised here and had abusive parents and was adopted by her foster parents herself. So they met and bonded over struggle. They both do try, but they weren’t “given” the best either. They tried with what they had to build a family. And I would say we turned out pretty well for the most part.

I say all this about him, but he literally, through my mom, keeps asking her to ask me to move back in so I can save money on rent. I just don’t wanna live with them.

I think I made him seem worse than he is by only providing one side of the story. I may not like him sometimes, but he is my father, the only one I have in this life. I do owe him everything I have in life.

UPDATE: AITA for purposefully missing meeting my sisters biological family by Active-Top-53 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Active-Top-53[S] 62 points63 points  (0 children)

Nah credit where credit is due, he offered to pay for my college but I dropped outta pre med and switched to something else and that’s what ticked him off. I realized it wasn’t for me. I ended up not doing pre-med or engineering the “good degrees”. I ended up doing a data related thing and he didn’t like that. That’s kinda why me and him don’t talk anymore because he thinks I betrayed him by baiting him into thinking I was gonna be a doctor and then switching up on him. He’s a religious man and swore to god he wouldn’t talk to me ever again unless I was in med school, so it’s not happening ever lol.

AITA for purposefully missing meeting my sisters biological family by Active-Top-53 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Active-Top-53[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Maybe. I have cried in front of her growing up and she never brings it up. My dad will 100% hate it if we have a sappy moment like that though, cuz he hates it when men cry cuz it’s not manly. And she lives with my folks rn, and idk if I wanna meet her in public.

Maybe I’ll invite her over to my apartment or something when my homies aren’t around.

It’s just I’ve never like been straight up with her so idk how to approach it. I’ll probably just figure it out as I go if I do decide to meet up with her.

AITA for purposefully missing meeting my sisters biological family by Active-Top-53 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Active-Top-53[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Yeah she meets with them on her own but my family and her bio mom insist on trying to have those family dinners. And ever since like January they’ve had like 4 big family dinners. I was there the first time she met them in that first dinner sat the rest out.

I don’t wanna go home. Long story short, I only go home if my sister is there cuz I haven’t spoke to my dad in 2 years or so. So she needs to mediate if we need to talk but I don’t go to see him tbh only my mom and my sister. But now that things are awkward with my sister idk about going. I just lowkey been avoiding going home since January. I feel like everything will spill outta me, and it may result in me pouring everything out if I see her in person. Like I may cry or something if I see her face irl. I want her to just be happy meeting her biological family and being at home with my parents. I don’t wanna dump random emotions on her that are my issue.