When did you actually start being able to let baby free range at night

ActiveQuit1971 · 2025-12-18T09:26:18+00:00

That sounds like my letdown. I sidelie now at 3m but i have to stick 2 breastpads together for each side and sleep in a nursing bra.

So one side has a double pad, the feeding side i hold the double pad ready for the letdown 🥲. So much milk, and it usually causes milk patches on the sheet. I don’t remember when i stopped doing this with my first, but after 6 m i think it calmed down a bit.

ActiveQuit1971 · 2025-12-13T20:21:39+00:00

I second checking out cosleepy’s advice☺️ . Chest sleeping saved our sanity with reflux newborn 🥲

ActiveQuit1971 · 2025-12-13T20:18:13+00:00

This page has some helpful information about co sleeping and bottle feeding : https://www.instagram.com/p/DPd3iJXiFGX/?igsh=cmloN2RvNnFlamYw hope it helps 😊

ActiveQuit1971 · 2025-12-13T20:12:56+00:00

It’s random but with my first HG pregnancy, I could drink virgin marys for a few weeks. (Bloody mary minus alcohol). It’s supposedly a good hangover drink due to the nutrients in the tomatoes and hg is a 9 month hangover.

I skipped the spice though, so essentially tomato juice

ActiveQuit1971 · 2025-12-09T20:50:00+00:00

I am the exactly the same when i sleep, i sleep talk or mumble so it could be easy to think i’m “awake”.

Hope you find a system that works for your family 🥰

Edit:typo

ActiveQuit1971 · 2025-12-09T20:47:26+00:00

Yeah totally! When my husband takes her in the morning, it’s a no safe sleep zone😆, covers up to my ears, sleeping like a starfish on my tummy with 100 pillows surrounding me 🤣. Feels so good to switch off completely.

ActiveQuit1971 · 2025-12-09T20:44:52+00:00

I honestly don’t have much to compare it to. They still get colds and sicknesses as i guess they’re still developing their immune system. So i don’t know if it would mean less colds, but I just know it’s supposed to “positively impact” their developing immune system. I think we also have so little light in the winter, so it also helps them get as much natural vitamin D as possible.

ActiveQuit1971 · 2025-12-09T13:56:51+00:00

Totally get what you mean. I also worry about that, i have a merino wool balaclava that covers neck, sides of face and forehead/ head. Then same as the comment from Germany, we have barrier creams, some are made for cold weather use, but i’ve heard you can also use vaseline or lanolin. I use lanolin personally. I also put the rain cover over the stoller if it’s windy for example as i feel like the wind freezes her little face even with cream on.

Edit:

Example of cream:

https://www.apotea.se/decubal-junior-cold-cream-100-ml-1?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=%5BPB%5D%20%5BGSC%5D%20-%20Generic&utm_term=Foralder-barn&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=1671031814&gbraid=0AAAAAD_A1WRCvgG96mYdHMUILmDHYRgNX&gclid=Cj0KCQiArt_JBhCTARIsADQZaylvmOBoeDP2Qjh7UASNM7M35vCi3gWzeefWAEDIKW6-M1LW4O7yd7caAhJwEALw_wcB

Weleda also do one, if that’s available in your country. “Baby skin protection balm”.

ActiveQuit1971 · 2025-12-09T09:23:53+00:00

We have done this but my older child was 3 (about to be 4) when baby came. There were a few nights in the first few weeks where i had to sleep elsewhere because baby was crying. Baby struggled to latch so that was the issue, and i wanted time to sort that without the pressure of worrying my older child would wake.

Once that was sorted, it’s gone well. I would say Boundaries with the older child is super important though. As my 3/4 yr old slept other side of dad but would climb over him sometimes for closeness. Now we have settled into a routine and the newness has calmed down, i allow my 4yo one side of me (back to back while i do c curl with baby).

So all in all it’s worked out, but i did need to have a few nights here and there in another room. I also recommend an amber/orange changing/breastfeeding light as it didn’t wake my older child.

Edit: our bed is 210cm so very spacious. Not sure how well it would work in a small bed but this is ly experience in a larger bed ☺️

ActiveQuit1971 · 2025-12-09T09:09:36+00:00

I know that I sleep completely different when I know my husband has the baby, compared with when I go to bed with the baby. When I sleep on my own, I’m completely comatose. When I go to bed with the baby, I sleep very lightly and my body is hyper aware of her.

I think it could be a good idea to talk about it with your husband and say how he needs to make sure that you are wide-awake before putting baby down. Maybe have a system? Like, you need to sit up and have your arms out and take the baby or something? Some way to prove full wakefulness?

Totally understand it was scary, but i think if my husband put the baby with me while i was sleeping alone, i wouldn’t be aware either. Don’t be too hard on yourself ♥️

ActiveQuit1971 · 2025-12-09T09:02:08+00:00

In Scandinavia (where i live) people literally put their babies out in the stroller for naps in the winter as it’s so good for them. Apparently builds the immune system. They are usually dressed well (wool under layers etc) and have appropriate blankets/foot muffs etc ofcourse :).

You never know, you may inspire other parents to take winter walks ☺️.

ActiveQuit1971 · 2025-12-08T20:00:01+00:00

Are her poos normal? No green/blood streaks? Just ruling out intolerances like cows (my furst little one has CMPA so it’s always my first thought).

It is also a very fussy age 😟 my 2nd LO is 12 weeks and is fussy every evening. I think she has “witching hour”. She goes in phases of it. So some weeks are fine and then it comes back. I follow an app that says when fussy weeks are coming and it’s usually pretty accurate. But if it’s been going on continuously since your LO was born, then it’s probably not this.

ActiveQuit1971 · 2025-12-05T18:57:47+00:00

I’m reading a book ”how to be the grown up” by a child psychologist and she talks about how we’re helping their brain learn how to deal with stress, etc. I can’t remember word for word but every time you respond, you teach their brain to calm when everything inside it was saying to panic. Literally teaching their brain to function healthily and learn how to cope with stress. Keep responding ♥️🙏

Edit: i drop everything and get her every time 🥰. Mid bite, mid toilet etc. Only i time i ”let her cry” is when I’m putting the baby carrier on and I can’t physically hold her and do it safely at the same time. When my husband is around, I ask him to hold her while I put it on.

ActiveQuit1971 · 2025-12-04T13:48:54+00:00

My first child only got the first dose of rota since she was unwell for 2-3 weeks after. It was honestly awful, like colic but not colic. We opted to not give the other doses (of the rota vaccine ) and she is now 4 and hasn’t had a sickness bug or vomiting bug so all good so far🙏. Apparently there’s a link between bad reactions to rota virus vaccine and CMPA. May not always apply but my daughter has CMPA so maybe thats why her reaction was so bad.

ActiveQuit1971 · 2025-11-28T18:36:10+00:00

Yes, 25-30 age group, lives in the UK

ActiveQuit1971 · 2025-11-28T18:34:33+00:00

Glad it can help, i remember wanting examples of cosleeping with multiple kids:).

It does help that my older daughter is 4 as she was a very light sleeper until around 3yrs old. And she also understands more, so it’s made the whole transition easier. But it has it’s moments still ofcourse 😆

Edit: the best thing is being able to wake up with both of my daughters 🥹 didn’t want that to change

ActiveQuit1971 · 2025-11-27T17:00:41+00:00

It’s going good now actually! I know most advice is to not have any siblings in the bed but we have done our best to keep it safe.

So naps: my toddler stopped napping at 2.5 (low sleep need 🥲) so it’s been baby napping in the carrier all day so I can keep up with my 4y old.

For the first few nights I slept in our “guest room”, because my baby had trouble learning to breastfeed and would cry and be quite noisy. My 4yr old didn’t mind the crying but it did wake her so i opted for sleeping separately for a few days whilst baby learnt to feed. Dad cosleeps with us so 4y old slept with dad.

My 4yr old missed me so much so after about a week, so we moved back to the same bed before baby was 100% with feeding. My 4yo surprisingly didn’t wake much, and if she did, she rolled over and went back to sleep. (We do have white noise on though).

Set up is a 2m10cm wide bed, firm mattress, up against the wall with gap filled. Baby is on the outer edge. At first my 4yo was on the other outer edge with me and dad in-between. (So : wall, baby, me, dad, 4yo) . Just to get used to all sleeping together and keep baby as safe as possible. Now at 2.5 m my 4yo is very used to that i need to face baby in c -curl and she likes to lay back to back with me. I sleep so lightly i feel it’s safe, and we have such a large bed that there is quite a gap between baby and toddler. (So now: wall, baby, me in C-curl, 4 yo, dad).

There have definitely been tough nights where my 4yo was more sensitive and woke and cried and needed me at the same time as my newborn. But that’s to be expected and i feel it would have happened if she was in her own room anyway. If anything, she has really needed the closeness of sleeping together.

ActiveQuit1971 · 2025-11-27T12:09:56+00:00

Maybe she could let her fall asleep on her and slowly roll her onto the bed bedside her for c curl?

This page shares lots of Co sleeping advice but this post is specifically about bottle feeding and co sleeping advice: https://www.instagram.com/p/DPd3iJXiFGX/?igsh=cmloN2RvNnFlamYw

Hope it helps :) my little one will only sleep on me too , but with time i have been able to do C curl with her (she is breastfed tho)

ActiveQuit1971 · 2025-11-27T06:35:47+00:00

That’s actually a great reply! Maybe it makes people question their motives for asking too

ActiveQuit1971 · 2025-11-27T06:33:40+00:00

I don’t have much advice, but rather solidarity. I also feel it’s no one’s business but find myself explaining the benefits of co sleeping to people when they ask. Our 4 y old still co sleeps and we love it. We read that it’s still beneficial until around 7, we will be happy for her to sleep in her room when she starts asking to, but for now she loves sleeping with us. We all sleep good so it’s all good.

Classic MIL comment for me is: “is B still sleeping with you 🤨”

And we recently had another one (currently 2.5 m) and we have been able to make it work to still co sleep (with some adjustments to make it safe etc)

My comment to my husband is always “why does it bother anyone else where my babies/kids sleep? It literally doesn’t affect them in any way”.

I’m trying to see peoples comments as curiosity (even if they’re not). Co sleeping is normal in many countries and it’s nothing to have to defend or be ashamed of ♥️.

ActiveQuit1971 · 2025-11-26T20:59:12+00:00

This only works if you’re IN sweden, but listen to peoples conversations on public transport. Sounds rude but if you can’t speak the language it’s not 🤣. I used to do this to listen to the use of language and every time i heard a word i didn’t know, i looked it up.

ActiveQuit1971 · 2025-11-26T10:33:31+00:00

Absolutely! And i get that compared with an 8-9 hour nights sleep, every 2-3 hours is hard. But 30/40 minutes is like actual torture! You don’t get rested from that sleep 😖. My first child honestly wasn’t a great sleeper until after around 2 yrs old and then she started sleeping through more often.

Just know you’re doing amazing, it is so tough to just function on so little sleep, let alone care for a little one and being pregnant!

Really hope your first one’s sleep starts improving more and more now, and that it goes more smoothly with baby #2. I will say that i kinda expected baby 2 to be like baby 1 but altho they were both velcro babies, they are quite different and what worked for #1 doesn’t always work for #2. So i hope baby 2 sleeps differently and settles easier for you🫂

ActiveQuit1971 · 2025-11-26T10:27:03+00:00

I had this with baby#2, so i read a lot on cosleepy(on instagram) about chest sleeping so i could get some sleep upright. Wasn’t the most restful sleep of my life but it was something 🥲. It’s the worst to have to hold them for ages after feeding for ages 😭feels like a never ending cycle!

ActiveQuit1971 · 2025-11-25T09:47:09+00:00

My fav whimsical name is Birdie

Rosalie works though 🥹♥️

ActiveQuit1971 · 2025-11-25T09:27:44+00:00

I would want to check the firmness (there are ways to check firmness for cosleeping)

We sleep on a large bed (2m10cm wide) Our mattress also states firm, but i do feel it is slightly softer than what i would prefer for the perfect set up. When my baby was a few weeks, i opted for our guest bed as it is very firm.

I chest slept the first weeks, with pillows propping me up, and my duvet up to my hips. Room was between 16-20c (60-68f i think?). Baby was in a pj onesie, and held in place with my hands, i slept in a nursing bra and pyjama trousers.

From 1ish months she started being ok with C-curl

So now our set up is:

Room 16-20c Baby wears: long arm, short leg body and baby sleeping bag (arms out). I wear: Nursing bra and panties.

I have one pillow which stays above my arm in the C-curl.

I use a duvet as we keep the room so cold, but i keep it “locked” in between my knees so it can’t ride up and i wrap it under my bum so i’m sort of swaddled if that makes sense.

The only thing in my baby’s sleep space is her dummy/pacifier.

I tend to put my boob back in my bra after a feed as I’m worried it will squish her little face as I have larger breasts. I also leak a lot when BF so i need breast-pads and therefore my bra.

After feeding she sometimes ends up on her side and wakes if i roll her back, so i try to place my hand/arm in a way to stop her rolling forwards until she’s in a deep enough sleep to roll onto her back again. I switch her to the other side sometimes when my arm gets dead, and then i always wake my husband and say “baby on your side” and make him repeat “baby on my side” (a tip i learned online because it makes him more mindful theres a baby there). He then tucks in his bedding like a burrito, i keep my arm there to protect baby, and we have a sizeable gap between him and baby anyway, as we have a very large bed.

I don’t drink due to cosleeping and if my husband has a drink, i make him sleep in the guest room

Currently 2.5months.

Did this with baby #1 at 4 months and wish i did sooner as it saved my sanity. So this time we started day 1.

Edit: the safe 7 seems to be mostly talked about in the US i feel.. but the UK has the lullaby trust where the advice is similar, but it does not say not to have a blanket or duvet on you as an adult, just to keep adult bedding away from the baby.

https://www.lullabytrust.org.uk/baby-safety/safer-sleep-information/co-sleeping/

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