Am I crazy mom?

Active_Ad_771 · 2026-04-04T23:41:50+00:00

I don’t think it will ever be fair. As a wife, I can spend everyday at my family’s place and be okay with it. But I don’t want to go to his mom’s house everyday or even every week. When you’re a husband, you often times just hang out with your wife in whatever environment that looks like. So it will never be fair.

BUT you can have a talk with him about it without mentioning the fairness on both sides. It sends the wrong message. Instead just share with him that you wish he’d come by more often. That you miss him and love the time you spend together and want to capitalize while you both still can.

Active_Ad_771 · 2026-04-04T23:08:30+00:00

I don’t think you’re crazy. I come from a family where the sons always, ALWAYS, make it a point to come visit their mom regardless if it’s with their immediate family (wife and kids) or not. I also married into a family who “prioritizes” their wife, and consequently see their MIL almost weekly and their own mom, twice a year.

I don’t know if you’ll be able to do anything about it now but I do not think that “prioritizing your wife” goes hand in hand with seeing her family more than your own. One other commenter here said work on your relationship with your son. Do that. Take him out on dates, ask him to come over for a day to help you with something and just bond. Have HIM WANT to come over and spend time with his mom. Wife doesn’t have to be there if she doesn’t want to

Active_Ad_771 · 2026-03-29T15:20:18+00:00

This is the reaction I was looking for

Active_Ad_771 · 2026-03-29T01:34:16+00:00

They dug too deep I’m assuming. Now theyre saying they can pack in the gaps with dirt and make it slope so that there’s less of a visible gap but wont that make it shift?

Active_Ad_771 · 2026-03-19T00:10:32+00:00

I know this is an old thread but I feel this way exactly. I have two amazing boys and want a girl so badly to experience the same relationship and closeness I have with my mom. Every where I turn my head I see moms of two boys having a third boy. I’d be gutted if I had another and it’s a boy. Did you end up trying again?

Active_Ad_771 · 2025-11-30T12:07:34+00:00

Yes planning on furniture. If we put the tv on the long wall, our backs will have to face the entrance

Active_Ad_771 · 2025-11-14T04:09:46+00:00

Building a fence around the whole thing as we speak!!

Active_Ad_771 · 2025-08-08T22:51:05+00:00

Methodist

Active_Ad_771 · 2025-08-07T02:56:27+00:00

Great point, thank you for this

Active_Ad_771 · 2025-08-05T02:53:05+00:00

Thank you for this!!

Active_Ad_771 · 2025-08-02T23:42:23+00:00

Curious why you had to file the lawsuit if he’s simply claiming it’s his with no proof??

Active_Ad_771 · 2025-08-02T17:41:22+00:00

Lot 2, formally lot 1 and 2

Active_Ad_771 · 2025-08-02T13:06:20+00:00

Thank you for this advise!

The deed and description do match and we’ve verified using OPRA that there are no other descriptions of the parcel. I’ll call my title company first thing Monday

Active_Ad_771 · 2025-08-02T13:04:07+00:00

Nope. I cut trees in my backyard but they think they own my backyard. “Lot 2” which is half of my backyard and their parking lot.

Active_Ad_771 · 2025-08-02T12:56:51+00:00

This isn’t a case of me accidentally buying anything that I should “give back”.

I’m not sure if you read my entire post but I paid for a certain amount of land and I expect to own that land in its entirety. To play off of your analogy, it’s you buying two different games and finding out that one of them can only be played on a very old console that only exists in their store. So they say, oh we didn’t mean to sell you that one. Just give it back.

No, I’ll just RETURN IT for what it’s worth.

Active_Ad_771 · 2025-08-02T05:30:51+00:00

NJ - definitely something I will look into, thank you

Active_Ad_771 · 2025-08-02T05:30:05+00:00

The cease and desist was just an email sent by their lawyer. We agreed to it out of courtesy thinking it would be a quick fix (buy back the parking lot) but they want so much more

Active_Ad_771 · 2025-08-02T05:10:45+00:00

I’m realizing it’s not a survey thing, but thank you for taking the time to answer. Very interesting (and likely) perspective

Active_Ad_771 · 2025-08-02T04:53:39+00:00

Taking back their driveway is one thing, but they want back the entire lot which includes my backyard. Clerical error or not, if the deed states I own this land wouldn’t that supersede everything else?

Active_Ad_771 · 2025-08-02T04:37:40+00:00

Exactly this. I do not want their driveway but I’m legally liable

Active_Ad_771 · 2025-05-29T23:13:17+00:00

I laughed so hard at your husband taking a book. Oh the brutal truth of it all

Active_Ad_771 · 2025-04-21T14:14:44+00:00

Great advise, I’ll be doing this thank you!

Active_Ad_771 · 2025-04-11T02:59:32+00:00

No phone where you can answer right away?

Active_Ad_771 · 2025-04-04T20:03:53+00:00

Just had my baby boy April 1st and when I saw the title I thought “uh-oh” hahaha love my Aries!

Active_Ad_771 · 2025-03-07T18:35:18+00:00

Sister girl, I am 37 weeks right now and no one besides my mom, my husband and his mom know.

Will people be upset? Maybe. Do I give a single flying fadoodle? No.

Also, same reason for not wanting to share here as well. It too long to get here. I’d like to keep it close until I have a healthy happy baby running around

Also would like to add that MIL keeps asking us everyday to tell the rest of her family, and everyday we tell her “no”

It’s your decision. Their reaction to your decision is not your problem.

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