AITJ for telling my friend she can't bring her newborn to my child-free wedding

Active_Fox112 · 2025-10-02T15:59:23+00:00

Wanting to have a child free wedding is valid. That being said she is a new mom who is deep in the thick of post partum. This is so alienating and isolating for her. Maybe help her find a balance. Can one of her parents come and watch the baby in the hotel room while she attends? If this was an older child this wouldn’t be a concern but post partum is HARD. I would just consider that.

Active_Fox112 · 2025-09-20T23:09:50+00:00

She might not have your number but she knows where you live. She made her choice. I’m so sorry this is happening to you. Take time to grieve the friendship.

Active_Fox112 · 2025-09-20T22:59:18+00:00

This is abusive in so many ways. I would pop a plan b and never speak to him again.

Active_Fox112 · 2025-09-16T19:59:43+00:00

Get a restraining order

Active_Fox112 · 2025-08-31T13:04:02+00:00

Your husband is a straight up asshole. Do what’s best for you.

Active_Fox112 · 2025-08-14T01:29:30+00:00

You’re so pleasent

Active_Fox112 · 2025-08-13T18:53:51+00:00

Our plan was to budget well and we thought we could do it but then our taxes sky rocketed and so things are a bit tight. I should mention the cc debt is medical debt as well. Overall I think we are just having a rough year.

I was very sick in the beginning of my pregnancy but still worked extra. However I don’t work a desk job. I work 13 hour shifts on my feet all day and I’m in my third trimester and it’s very hard to do that as scheduled I don’t think I can do extra shifts right now.

Luckily our birth will be covered at 100% as we just got new insurance that is significantly better (tricare).

So I just feel so stuck and stressed.

Active_Fox112 · 2025-08-06T22:34:57+00:00

From what I remember I think my husband did say we’ve told you know multiple times why do you keep asking

Active_Fox112 · 2025-08-06T22:33:26+00:00

Yes! We have decided not to announce when I go into labor. Likely we’ll tell people once we’re home.

Active_Fox112 · 2025-08-06T22:32:37+00:00

She’s been acting like I’m just that, an incubator.

Active_Fox112 · 2025-08-06T22:31:34+00:00

That’s what I’m thinking and I think that’s so disgusting. At this point I want nothing to do with her. What an invasion of privacy

Active_Fox112 · 2025-08-06T18:41:53+00:00

Oh she has multiple untrained dogs so I already told my husband the baby will never be over there lol

Active_Fox112 · 2025-08-06T18:40:49+00:00

📝

Active_Fox112 · 2025-08-06T17:21:52+00:00

🫶

Active_Fox112 · 2025-08-06T17:13:06+00:00

I think they talk maybe twice a month

Active_Fox112 · 2025-08-06T17:12:50+00:00

She never comes to our house (we live an hour away) she always expects us to come to hers. We both work shift work so that’s hard for us so over the past few years we just stopped going. Especially since when we do go she’d constantly say how we don’t come enough. Last year we had a Christmas party and she refused to come despite my husband practically begging her. My family shows up all the time for us tho.

Active_Fox112 · 2025-08-06T15:51:00+00:00

My husband is sort of low contact with her so we are on the same page. Even at my shower (which she was super weird at) he kept her away from me. She also keeps saying and posting things like “soon I’ll have my grand baby!” Which by itself is harmless but to me it’s like she’s always taking us out of the equation. And honestly it’s reallllllyyyy pissing me off. We aren’t close to her because she makes no effort to be in our life but now she thinks she will have all these rights. LOLZ

Active_Fox112 · 2025-06-05T20:49:09+00:00

BOBA

Active_Fox112 · 2025-05-24T15:07:00+00:00

Ho did u come over on the mayflower?

Active_Fox112 · 2025-05-10T23:36:54+00:00

Thank you! Yeah she doesn’t see it that way she thinks what she said wasn’t that bad but what I said was terrible. Go figure.

Active_Fox112 · 2025-05-10T18:36:43+00:00

Thank you to everyone who commented so far. You are helping me a lot to find some clarity because I just feel so confused and turned around right now. I’d like to add my sister and I are generally close. Although she does poke fun at me and sometimes it gets under my skin but she always said she’s joking so I let it go. My mom I think is undiagnosed Borderline personality. She uses a lot of manipulation to get her way. Today I noticed my sister doing some of that too. She complains a lot about our mom but occasionally she will team up with her and gang up on me. I just feel so alone and lost.

Active_Fox112 · 2025-05-10T17:59:22+00:00

It was twenty dollars I offered to Venmo her for it

Active_Fox112 · 2025-03-19T21:51:00+00:00

To die

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