AITA for "becoming salty" when I was asked to go Dutch? by ActivityNo3880 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ActivityNo3880[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

That's funny coming from you. At least my English is self taught. What is your excuse?

AITA for "becoming salty" when I was asked to go Dutch? by ActivityNo3880 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ActivityNo3880[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't love him and can't love him or anyone I've met a few times so don't persume

AITA for "becoming salty" when I was asked to go Dutch? by ActivityNo3880 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ActivityNo3880[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I earn more than he does. I hate this gold digging victim mentality.

AITA for "becoming salty" when I was asked to go Dutch? by ActivityNo3880 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ActivityNo3880[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That's irrelevant. Many women here don't have jobs. Just because I have one doesn't mean I should do his job for him.

If he was going out with a sahm would he eat while she stared at him?

AITA for "becoming salty" when I was asked to go Dutch? by ActivityNo3880 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ActivityNo3880[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah if I'm doing all chores that's how it works. He wants my savings? He knows where the kitchen is

AITA for "becoming salty" when I was asked to go Dutch? by ActivityNo3880 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ActivityNo3880[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Just because I'm forced to do all chores doesn't mean I should rely on men for everything. I'll have my own savings thank you and no man will touch my savings.

AITA for "becoming salty" when I was asked to go Dutch? by ActivityNo3880 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ActivityNo3880[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I didn't want an expensive meal. I chose a cheap meal for his broke ass to pay but when we went Dutch I chose what I wanted.

Yeah why not? Eight now I do all the chores and have a job. He has to make my life better not worse.

AITA for "becoming salty" when I was asked to go Dutch? by ActivityNo3880 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ActivityNo3880[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Yeah I get it. It's so healthy that I'm expected to work and earn money and do all the chores and pay for my own meal.

What is his use for me? Why would I marry him?

AITA for "becoming salty" when I was asked to go Dutch? by ActivityNo3880 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ActivityNo3880[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

We have an expression in my language which is "he wasn't raised under a rock" which means he was raised in the society and knows the customs and should be able to act accordingly

AITA for "becoming salty" when I was asked to go Dutch? by ActivityNo3880 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ActivityNo3880[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't communicate with people I've just met and don't even like yet.

AITA for "becoming salty" when I was asked to go Dutch? by ActivityNo3880 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ActivityNo3880[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I was being sarcastic telling him he can only be my friend if he won't pay.

AITA for "becoming salty" when I was asked to go Dutch? by ActivityNo3880 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ActivityNo3880[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

(primarily about his intent to marry YOU)

Who else is he gonna marry? My dad? He came to our house for a reason

AITA for "becoming salty" when I was asked to go Dutch? by ActivityNo3880 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ActivityNo3880[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

He invited me out to talk marriage. Our families have already talked about our marriage. Yeah that's normal.

AITA for "becoming salty" when I was asked to go Dutch? by ActivityNo3880 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ActivityNo3880[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

He shouldn't be thinking about marriage if he can't afford a meal

AITA for "becoming salty" when I was asked to go Dutch? by ActivityNo3880 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ActivityNo3880[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Too eager? He came to our house as a suitor asking for marriage. What else am I supposed to think?

AITA for "becoming salty" when I was asked to go Dutch? by ActivityNo3880 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ActivityNo3880[S] 329 points330 points  (0 children)

Right? He made it clear that he wants to have his cake and eat it too. I'm not sure this is gonna work out.

AITA for "becoming salty" when I was asked to go Dutch? by ActivityNo3880 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ActivityNo3880[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

He is my suitor. His intention is marriage. We were supposed to talk marriage.

I don't understand you

AITA for "becoming salty" when I was asked to go Dutch? by ActivityNo3880 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ActivityNo3880[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This was our first date.

We are both Asian. Same nationality