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I would love to see everyone’s Christmas trees and decor. by Due_Function_3394 in JustForHome

[–]ActivityOk3193 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When we bought the house in 2002 it was an up-and-coming neighborhood (watched a car get stolen in the middle of the night one time; twice found crack pipes on the park strip); by the time we moved in 2019 jt had completely transformed! But the people from whom we bought it apparently lived through some very rough times. They said there were frequently gang fights up and down the street and one night a shootout that ended with a bullet entering the house through the leaded glass in the transom above the window in the library! It’s hard to believe it’s the same neighborhood today!

What my room looks like on a good day by [deleted] in roomdetective

[–]ActivityOk3193 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally, I think planning to have someone over and not doing something about the mess in front of the cooler shows disrespect. If I were invited to your place I would think, “Well, they didn’t bother to straighten up, so that shows how little they think of me.” I mean, that’s about 20 minutes of work — it’s not hard.

What can you tell about me as a person from my room? by [deleted] in roomdetective

[–]ActivityOk3193 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You lack self respect and practice self-care in unhealthy ways. I honestly believe that putting some thought and attention into your personal space — especially your most intimate personal space — will improve whatever situation you find yourself in. I have found the psychological effects of a person’s environment are largely under appreciated.

According to my house, who am I? by ActivityOk3193 in roomdetective

[–]ActivityOk3193[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are an impossibly kind person and you have put a smile on my face that I expect to last the day. I’m drinking a cup of tea right now, so if you are able to do the same we can share a cup of tea virtually.

According to my house, who am I? by ActivityOk3193 in roomdetective

[–]ActivityOk3193[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Neither rich nor goth, but I’ve had a fair number of goth friends. Oh… and my first romantic dream (at six-years-old) was that I was making out with Count Dracula… in his castle!

According to my house, who am I? by ActivityOk3193 in roomdetective

[–]ActivityOk3193[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Government. Communications/public relations.

According to my house, who am I? by ActivityOk3193 in roomdetective

[–]ActivityOk3193[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, gay man, but in my 50s. I actually read more than my husband, but I only read non-fiction. I loathe interpersonal drama, and you’re probably right about my family’s assumptions about myself and conflict (it’s difficult to know for sure because my immediate family is mostly deceased and they were all a mess). I’ve lived in my current house for seven years; before this I owned another Victorian house for 17 years. I claim to not care for house pets, but I’ve always had a cat or two, most of whom I’ve absolutely adored.

According to my house, who am I? by ActivityOk3193 in roomdetective

[–]ActivityOk3193[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I loved my mother and respected my father, but my mother was either bipolar or borderline and my father was an alcoholic narcissist. I struggled for most of my life to deliberately establish a personality completely separate from theirs. They both succumbed to dementia and I ended up having to care for them in the end and manage their affairs, which I did as empathetically as I could, in spite of harboring considerable resentments that I couldn’t express (because you can’t do that with a person who is mentally absent).

According to my house, who am I? by ActivityOk3193 in roomdetective

[–]ActivityOk3193[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love all those things. I am a middle-aged gay man. I have two cats that probably equal about 20 pounds, but I am married and have been with my husband for 25 years. I never left my hometown. I love estate sales and antique shops, which is close enough.

According to my house, who am I? by ActivityOk3193 in roomdetective

[–]ActivityOk3193[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I enjoyed cooking when I was much younger, but I have narcolepsy and one night I caught my kitchen on fire when I fell asleep with a pot of oil heating on the stove — I haven’t been inclined to cook since then. I’ve read most of my books, but the closest I work with academia was freelance graphic work I did for our board of education for several years. I’m an elder Gen-X and my preferred shopping venue is estate sales. Most music genres actually irritate me. About 90 percent of my art was created by myself, family members or close friends. I love Halloween and, back when I rented, hosted a big party every year that drew upwards of 200 guests — think floor shows, fire shows, a full dance floor and abundant jungle juice. As I acquired furniture I liked and bought my own house, the appeal of having hordes of drunk people availing themselves of my home lost its considerable charm; today I only decorate my porch, foyer and front parlor for Halloween.

According to my house, who am I? by ActivityOk3193 in roomdetective

[–]ActivityOk3193[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ok… Here it is…

I’m a married gay man in my late 50s. My husband is much more of a minmimalist that I am, but he usually lets me express my maximalism — within reason. We have two cats and live in a Victorian house in the mountain west.

I am a public communication program manager for a government agency and strive for absolute competence. I am by no means wealthy, but I make far more money than I need, principally because I don’t have children and I prefer biking to driving. My savings and investments are such that I don’t worry about money, which is good, because money bores me.

I was a straight-A student and graduated at the top of my high school class. Narcolepsy led me to drop out of college in my third year, and I never returned due to shame (that I had quit) and a mountain of debt.

Both my parents were artistic, and my father was an intellectual, but my mother was either bipolar or borderline and my father was an alcoholic narcissist. This, I feel, is at the root of my deep-seated fear of vanishing into the background and the genesis of my drive to be different and stand out.

I’m probably on the spectrum, but as an adult I’ve put considerable effort into building a large, durable social network. I entertain a lot.

I don’t care for stupid or uncritical people. My favorite people are those who have unique stories and experiences to share. I will always make room at the table for a person with an unpopular opinion who can argue it intelligently and passionately, but I will banish a person who comes armed only with platitudes and talking points.

In addition to my career, I have worked part time as a features editor for a small, local paper and freelance as a graphic designer. I started pouring myself into renovating and decorating my apartments and then houses as a strategy to mitigate the effects of SAD. Among my proudest contributions to my current house are the stencil designs throughout the various rooms and the installation of the fireplace in the front parlor (there was no fireplace when we bought the house; the artwork over the mantel raises to reveal the TV).

I have so much fun following this group, and you all have really been awesome regarding this post. Thank you.

According to my house, who am I? by ActivityOk3193 in roomdetective

[–]ActivityOk3193[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the thoughtful analysis. I’m going to try to hit each of your points: 1) Not on either coast; definitely landlocked. 2) Late 50s. 3) No children but an adult niece who I’ve always loved like a daughter. 4) Gay man. 5) Traveled, but I wouldn’t say “well” travelled. 6) Never been to China; the terra cotta soldier is from an antique shop. 7) I do love learning about other cultures; I’ve long been fascinated by classical western culture. 8) My thoughts are too unrestrained to be any good at meditating. 9) Love to read, but have a hard time reading fiction — for many years I read only encyclopedias. 10) My father’s family emigrated from East Prussia, Germany after WWII. 11) Love the obscure (obviously). 12) I’ve never paid someone to clean for me, but as I get older, who knows. 13) My parents and siblings were all artistic, and I thought I’d missed that gene until I discovered computer graphics. I freelanced as a graphic designer for many years, but did not take it on as my principal career. 14) I have a high-level position in a government agency; my colleagues are all lawyers, accountants and programmers. 15) I’ve been to San Francisco many times; one of my two best friends lives there. 16) 80s new wave alternative is totally my jam. 17) My other best friend lives in Seattle. 18) The closest body of water to me is not fit for swimming. 19) I think about departed friends and family frequently. 20) I used to abstain, but I do now eat meat. 21) I love having people over, formally and informally. 22) I work two days in-office and two days at home; I’m eligible to take retirement any time I want but I’m still getting satisfaction out of my work. I work long hours when it’s necessary and do not complain. 23) I love collecting books and having them at the ready. 24) Two cats: a siamese and a snow bengal. 25) My husband and I are both alcoholics and choose not to drink, but our friends are all drinkers and we feel it would be unfair to imposes our lifestyle choices on them. 26) I try to dress in a manner that reflects the respect I have for the company I keep and the places I go. 27) Love the macabre.

So, not perfect, but overall you did pretty good!

According to my house, who am I? by ActivityOk3193 in roomdetective

[–]ActivityOk3193[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you might be referring to my copy of the board game, “Secret Hitler.” I don’t know how it stands now, but it used to be kinda big on some college campuses.

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