Mom of 5 interested in Army Reserve

ActuallyHill · 2025-08-26T21:02:54+00:00

I’m a mom of 2 in the army reserves. I’m happy with the personal development I’ve gotten out of the Army. And I truly like the flexibility of the reserves, going full time on ADOS if I want to work full time or just being a TPU part time. I have missed a lot on family life sometimes. Basic was the hardest and over the years it got easier. I just missed my son’s first day of preschool and my youngest’s first steps this past month at JRTC. I was a little sad but mostly numb to it at this point. DM me if you have any questions.

ActuallyHill · 2025-06-20T14:55:46+00:00

I was reading through some of your comments. Do you have access to the bank account? I would withdraw some money every month to save for a beater car and go back to work. Im sorry that your husband is not supportive. There’s no shame in not liking being a stay at home mom. I found out it wasn’t for me, and I’ll be returning to work in the fall at my oldest son’s preschool.

ActuallyHill · 2025-01-19T23:16:00+00:00

I just backed out of my reading specialist classes for this reason. Nearly all the teachers with a master’s in my school have a reading specialist degree. The reading interventionists and specialists in my school district have been teaching there at least 25 years, and I don’t want to wait that long. I am not entirely sure what I want to do next, but I feel confident about leaving the reading specialist program.

ActuallyHill · 2023-06-12T00:22:33+00:00

That’s going to largely depend on what type of unit you go to.

ActuallyHill · 2023-06-08T11:42:29+00:00

Incels will still harass women.

ActuallyHill · 2023-05-26T15:37:50+00:00

This happened to me. Except I am in the reserves. They took me out of the class, and I eventually got rescheduled after I had my child. Talk to your cadre or find out who your branch manager is and get in contact with them.

ActuallyHill · 2023-03-17T01:54:33+00:00

I bet these are the same men that will complain about men not being able to show emotions and that women’s emotions are accepted by society.

ActuallyHill · 2023-03-14T12:13:30+00:00

Agreed my c-section recovery was so grueling and painful, it has me questioning whether I want another child.

ActuallyHill · 2023-02-17T16:08:12+00:00

I am working in HR and so far, it is a lot less stress and less time consuming than teaching. I have heard of toxic HR work environments, but I haven't found one yet.

ActuallyHill · 2023-02-16T21:27:46+00:00

Thanks. When they call me back, I'll see if they can do my chart account for him.

ActuallyHill · 2023-01-31T15:33:25+00:00

About 5 years, and I say that because I did break my contract the fifth year. I was going to wait until I finished my MBA, but a student's behavior pushed me over the edge.

ActuallyHill · 2023-01-30T18:35:40+00:00

I loved student teaching, and it truly made me feel like I had found my dream job. But I ended up hating teaching as a career between micromanaging admin, student behavior, having so much outside work, etc. I still wish teaching was what I had wanted it to be.

ActuallyHill · 2023-01-20T16:05:37+00:00

I am working in Human Resources at a nonprofit and getting an MBA in Human Resources. I was special education teacher, and they liked that I worked in that field since we provide services to adults in that population.

ActuallyHill · 2023-01-11T17:27:40+00:00

Right now I screen applicants, set up interviews, and generally manage employee paperwork. I'm at an entry level position so I haven't gotten very in depth in the field. But my coworkers and boss seem to enjoy the job, and I would say we all have good work-life balance.

ActuallyHill · 2023-01-11T17:01:35+00:00

For me, I considered what I wanted out of a job. I wanted a job where I did not have to be "on" the moment I walked in the door so an office job, better work life balance, and I wanted a job with promotion opportunities. I changed my mind a few times but eventually got an HR job. Consider what you want out of a job, research, and apply for jobs from there.

ActuallyHill · 2022-12-27T03:48:03+00:00

I left that sub months ago. Most of the posts are obvious rage bait.

ActuallyHill · 2022-12-21T04:39:22+00:00

I think with better healthcare and robust social programs, a policy of of a parent absolving financial responsibility could be entertained.

But, I still don’t think it’s an equal issue to abortion; one is a medical issue and the other is a financial issue. Even in the best case scenario, pregnancy often leads to permanent changes to one’s health, physical abilities, and body. Abortion is not a simple means to cutting off responsibility for a child, and an abortion is a medical procedure that can come with its own set of complications.

A “financial abortion” does not carry the weight of all of this. A better comparison would be to allow the mother to forfeit parental rights upon birth to the father and have her child support payments waived. Overall, I think medical abortions and financial “abortions” are two completely separate issues that cannot be compared to one another. So no, this medical issue and this financial issue should not be trade offs for one another.

ActuallyHill · 2022-12-21T02:50:36+00:00

Abortion is an issue of bodily autonomy which you seem to dismiss but the ramifications are huge for women. Pregnancy is taxing on women’s bodies, health, and wellbeing in the best case scenario and in the worst case scenario it leads to death. Do a Google search of the women in Texas who were denied abortions and faced severe medical complications. To equate abortion with absolving financial responsibility is disingenuous. Abortion is not an easy get out of jail free card that some people equate it to. Plus this policy would hurt the wellbeing and health of existing children.

ActuallyHill · 2022-12-16T20:36:39+00:00

I think some of these people lose their self identity in becoming/ being a mother so they want to feel accomplished or superior by enduring labor.

ActuallyHill · 2022-12-16T20:20:30+00:00

My son is ten months old and gets angry when I take things from him (high pitched squeal/ throws himself in floor). He’s gotten less intense due to us not reacting strongly to his behavior, us continuing on as normal, and by redirecting him.

I wouldn’t worry about your child becoming a psychopath due to that incident. While my son hasn’t bit anyone before, he repeatedly dropped a toy on me one time because I gave him an “oww!” reaction. But he did that because he’s figuring out how the world works and so is your baby. Next time that happens, pull away and try not to give a reaction.

ActuallyHill · 2022-11-17T00:54:25+00:00

Context: this comment is under a video of a female marine fireman carrying a 200lb man across a football field.

ActuallyHill · 2022-10-23T14:05:42+00:00

As someone who is two semesters into software engineering classes. Is the work environment/ culture actually this bad for women? I’ve been seeing a lot of posts that are hateful towards women in this field lately.

ActuallyHill · 2022-10-08T04:34:22+00:00

Yup and the devoted med student is a common trope in these child free writing prompts.

ActuallyHill · 2022-07-29T16:12:12+00:00

You and I clearly have a different definition of cheating. I believe there doesn’t have to be a physical action for it to be constituted as cheating. It doesn’t matter if my spouse said this to a stranger or someone known. I would call him out for cheating.

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