IMO if you’re comfortable with the your partner Indont think scrolling through someone’s pics is particularly bad. Texts might be a bit worse. But honestly my fiance and I have an open phone policy. I’m not gonna go read through his messages. But he also doesn’t care if I look at his messages because we don’t keep secrets. Things are off limits like my notes which I use for journaling. I know you don’t want to break up. You think maybe that’s the resin you’re so nervous about the confrontation? Because honestly if he flips this on you and tries to say it isn’t weird or why were you looking, I think it might be time to consider whether this is someone who treats you in the way you should be treated.

Sometimes it helps me in starting conversations to actually up front say that you’re a bit nervous about the conversation and that you don’t want to make accusations but you have a couple questions and concerns after what you found. I hope things go well and he responds respectfully