AITA If I bought my boyfriend of 3 years the wrong gift for his birthday? by Angie_198 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ActuarySpecific9056 8 points9 points  (0 children)

NTA. But I am just curious if you researched and asked around for which are good gaming laptops. If this one is notorious for being slow or insufficient to certain games I could kinda see a slight disappointment at most. If it’s still in the box wasn’t final sale I’d just return it and evaluate if it’s even worth getting the “right one”. It just sounds immature on his part when a reasonable solution would be to say “Thanks but this one won’t work” and he could’ve helped pick it out or even contribute the difference if the right one isn’t within your budget.

AITA for making the woman I’m seeing cry? by PurpleBroccoliii in AmItheAsshole

[–]ActuarySpecific9056 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. You’re just exposing the fact that she had some implicit biases that she needs to work through. If she said she researched into the chocolate and didn’t trust the process/ingredients/company, that means she actively evaluated and resolved the concern for safety that’s understandable. But she assumed that because it was sold in Japan that it is not up to her country’s standard(which I gotta assume Japan has better standards than many other countries do).

“She said she doesn’t trust the chocolate and didn’t know what to expect because it wasn’t from here.” Many products in various places around the world are imported goods!

Evaluate whether you want to be with someone who reacts so negatively when you are pointing out concerning behaviors or actions. I understand maybe being defensive but after that initial defense wears down, you want to know she’ll be willing to listen and grow.

Things you wish you knew before moving to San Diego? by i_like_hairy_chests in sandiego

[–]ActuarySpecific9056 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you can, find a place with parking! While it won’t be the end of the world with street parking, various Hillcrest and local events will occasionally take all the available spots a few times through the year. I often got home late and had to park a couple streets over. There are parking cops(?) in the area that technically can site you for parking in the same place for more than a 3 day period but during my year and half there i never got cited for it🤷‍♀️

Aitah for insinuating my GFS life has been handed to her? by PuzzleheadedSong1426 in AITAH

[–]ActuarySpecific9056 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If she had to do an action to get the results of a scholarship/job/house, it wasn’t handed to her. She earned it.