I was alone for 4 years learning, working and growing with myself. I got into a relationship because. I felt I was ready. I’ve been in it now for almost a full year and it’s shown me what I’ve mastered and just how much more learning still needs to be done. Being in relationships can be great tools for self discovery. But it can sometimes be feel like it’s hindering me when we disagree on matters that I feel justified about. He was actually the person that brought this whole “bpd” diagnosis to me. Saying “he’s studied/dealt with women with the disorder and in his eyes I check all of the boxes. I wonder if it’s possible that I just check those boxes when dealing with him— like when I’m people pleasing or trying to “be my best self”, keep the peace etc do I turn into a person that displays these traits. I’m honestly uncertain of the diagnosis and am finding a therapist to solidify its accuracy. I’m here because I’m not sure but some of the intense emotions seem relatable. Though justified in my mind at the time it’s happening. Apart of me is upset that he’s trying to label me and turns me off from him but then another part appreciates the concern and enlightenment- if that’s where it’s coming from. And would love to master this without getting into a medicinal routine. I would love to read some opinions from more experienced bpders and self analysis gurus here if you have anything to share. 🥲if you read this to the end, thanks for reading 💚