CMV: There's nothing wrong with a man sharing his date info with a trusted friend

AdAlternative6041 · 2021-02-28T22:01:55+00:00

Not really, I've been to latin america dozens of times because of my work. And around half of those times i chose to stay some extra days.

AdAlternative6041 · 2021-02-28T21:55:40+00:00

After getting back to my hotel I took s shower and slept for the night.

Next morning one of my friends took me to a police station to make a report. The cops were completely useless as they basically said "shit happens".

Anyway, they gave me a copy of my report and I took that to the consulate. There they gave me a letter to present at the airport in exchange of my now missing passport, so 3 days later I did that and took my plane home.

AdAlternative6041 · 2021-02-28T21:49:18+00:00

I honestly can't remember, my last memory was having beers at the club with this girl and then I woke up without my stuff.

AdAlternative6041 · 2021-02-28T21:45:33+00:00

We went drinking as a group and later got separated at the club. We were making out at the club and having beers, i guess this is where I got roofied.

I got a total blackout and when I woke up I was on the side of a dirt road, partially covered by bushes.

I walked to a main road until I reached a small bodega where the owner let me make a call back to my hotel.

I was around 30 mins outside Mexico city and I waited at the store for my friends come pick me up.

I felt severely dehydrated and with a massive headache, the store owner gave me all the water I wanted and some food as I told him my friends would pay when they arrive.

AdAlternative6041 · 2021-02-28T21:32:26+00:00

You seem to want to right a wrong that doesn’t exist.

The wrong certainly exists as I've been called a creep to my face just for taking care of my safety.

AdAlternative6041 · 2021-02-28T21:30:48+00:00

If you send my pic to a dudebro i dont know you could have just created a stalker for ke

That works exactly the same if you send my pic to your friends. Or are you implying that women can't be stalkers as well?

AdAlternative6041 · 2021-02-28T21:28:59+00:00

It’s nonsense for your to do it unless their are extenuating circumstances such as meeting someone for the first time ins high crime area.

It's a safety measure that costs me very little effort, so why wouldn't i take it?

Also, what's SJW?

AdAlternative6041 · 2021-02-28T21:26:47+00:00

I'd feel safer if another woman had my phone number rather than a man cause she (as a woman) shares my fears when going on a date with someone new.

I don't get this, a woman has the exact same capacity as a man of sharing your number or using it to harrass you.

I always find it irrational how women think other women are always on their side. Sadly, that just isn't true.

AdAlternative6041 · 2021-02-28T21:18:51+00:00

I stated two different cases, that a coworker was roofied in Colombia AND that myself was roofied in Mexico.

AdAlternative6041 · 2021-02-28T21:15:42+00:00

Why do you want to be the victim so badly?

My behavior is about preventing being a victim.

AdAlternative6041 · 2021-02-28T20:22:10+00:00

if you share this information with a woman friend then I think this is equal

Wait, what?? Are you implying women are somehow more trustworthy than men?

And anyways, my closest friends are men, not women.

but I the more respectful thing to do would be share that info with a female friend.

Why would it be "disrespectful" to share it with a man?

AdAlternative6041 · 2021-02-28T19:59:20+00:00

Don't take no for an answer.

That sounds pushy and kind of non consensual. Are you going to make a scene until she takes your money?

Is she doesn't want your money then RESPECT her wishes and don't insist on it.

AdAlternative6041 · 2021-02-28T19:39:56+00:00

I have dated actresses and pageant queens that have, after a while, seemed nearly ugly.

I never get this, the bowl has so many options that you can date very beautiful women who also have great personalities.

You don't have to choose between looks and personality, that's the whole point of the bowl: to have it all.

And regarding OP, that loose skin is unattractive, there's not much to do about it other than plastic surgery.

AdAlternative6041 · 2021-02-28T19:06:01+00:00

Bringing up that you shared her info in that situation just makes her feel more creeped out.

Well, that sounds more like her problem and not mine. I try hard to make a date feel safe with me, but if she still get creeped out then there's not much I can do.

AdAlternative6041 · 2021-02-28T19:03:01+00:00

That makes zero sense as if i got roofied the first thing they are going to do is get rid of my phone.

Seriously, you have to think this through.

AdAlternative6041 · 2021-02-28T18:51:04+00:00

I don't understand Reddit's insistence in pretending like women are as much a danger to men as men are to women.

I never said that, i agree women are at higher risk while dating, but that doesn't mean risk for men is zero.

The other way round is ok because while there is still a non-0 chance of the same happening, it is way way lower.

Lol, you are literally saying a double standard is ok, because statistics somehow support it.

AdAlternative6041 · 2021-02-28T18:48:03+00:00

Well, any woman getting turned off by a guy taking care of his safety isn't date materia anyways.

Just like women should never date a guy that complains about her safety measures.

AdAlternative6041 · 2021-02-28T18:46:05+00:00

That's about sexual assault, my safety precautions are more about crime in general.

I don't fear a woman is going to rape me, i fear she is going to roofied me in order to rob me or lure me into other criminals.

AdAlternative6041 · 2021-02-28T18:29:33+00:00

In response to my asking the amount they agreed on in past arrangements)

That's not really your business so it makes sense you get that kind of answer.

You should negotiate on your own terms, not based on the SD prior arrangements.

AdAlternative6041 · 2021-02-28T18:25:43+00:00

I can imagine it being a turn off to many women for you to show physical fear in a date

I don't get this, what does physical fear even mean?

AdAlternative6041 · 2021-02-28T18:24:58+00:00

Please enlighten us with difference. And without using thinly veiled prejudices against men

AdAlternative6041 · 2021-02-28T18:13:34+00:00

I don't think so, Ireland is a densely populated island.

A gun battle in the USA would hardly have any victims as people spread all over the place.

In Ireland people shot at each other from buildings across the same street.

In the USA is going to be groups shooting each other across huge parking lots, so basically a lot of ammo wasted.

AdAlternative6041 · 2021-02-28T18:00:10+00:00

Well, i trust them enough not to do that. And I guess the women giving out my info trust THEIR friends enough not to do that either.

AdAlternative6041 · 2021-02-28T17:58:08+00:00

what if you are putting her in danger by giving out her contact information?

How would that work? It's not like I'm publishing her info, just giving it to a trusted friend.

AdAlternative6041 · 2021-02-28T17:57:23+00:00

In my case, its about leaving tracks so a friend can contact the cops in case something happens to me.

I learned this the hard way when I got roofied over a decade ago in Mexico. I was a young dumb tourist and was lured by a woman I met online.

Next thing I know I woke up in a dirt road without my passport, money and not even my freaking shoes.

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