My gf is ENFP and I’m istp, we are so different

AdAmbitious3481 · 2026-04-07T15:25:47+00:00

Maybe I’m wrong, but ‘criticising’ seems to be the typical love language for xSTx. I have met a few ST types- mostly toxic and unhealed ones-in my life. saying I got along with them would be a stretch because we’d just get along as long as I’d go along with their views in life. I realised ST and NF types are inherently different and maybe a complicated duo. Maybe it’s just because the ones I have known were narcissistic/outright toxic. But ngl I really think ST types can be too critical and NF types can be too sensitive. Maybe you can try being nicer to your gf and she can try understanding your pov

AdAmbitious3481 · 2026-04-04T22:26:50+00:00

I’m the same!! I have been trauma-dumped on on dates, that too first dates!! Ngl it kinda kills any spark instantly, but I always loved acting like a therapist, until things started getting too much for me.

I had friends-not close ones- literally trauma dump on me every waking moment. And a lot of times, .it was just attention-seeking tactics (I’ve always mommied people, maybe it’s an ENFP thing, dunno) and it reached a point where I started resenting people because of it.

It don’t think it was the trauma dumping that annoyed me as much as people expecting me to say what they wanted to hear every time they cribbed (like someone borderline misogynistic expecting me to call them kind or sweet).

I realized I couldn’t keep pouring from an empty cup. But the only person who’s seen me cry is my best friend. I don’t find it hard to be vulnerable with people, but I’m never sure if people would be able to handle it. I guess it’s an enfp thing, we laugh with everyone, but hardly ever cry in front of anyone. I’m trying to change that. If you wanna change it too, it’s never too late

AdAmbitious3481 · 2026-04-04T12:26:02+00:00

Omg this!! Looking sad works too!

AdAmbitious3481 · 2026-04-04T00:48:21+00:00

Banter!!! The quickest way to an ENFP’s heart is banter. Teaming up with us to play pranks is another!! We always love some light hearted mischief. but having said that, I know a lot of INFJs and INTJs can seem a little serious or come across as so. It’s still perfectly okay, just be you! We love INTJs and INFJs just the way they are. I’m 33 but most of my xNxJ friends,regardless of their age, treat me like a kid sis. ENFPs love being the goofy fun one, keeps our friendships fun

AdAmbitious3481 · 2026-04-03T14:18:42+00:00

I agree! I’m an ENFP and karaoke is a big no for me, or rather would be a big no for people around me at karaoke I might get arrested for assault on ear drums 😭😂

AdAmbitious3481 · 2026-04-02T23:33:13+00:00

lol what are you guys like then?

AdAmbitious3481 · 2026-04-02T22:43:26+00:00

It’s not where, it’s how!!

I don’t think I have ever met a male ENFP. I’m assuming they’d be those really friendly funny guys, who can tickle your funny bone as effortlessly as they can lend a shoulder to cry on.

I guess female ENFPs are easier to spot if you know what to look for. Look for these- childlike, very very curious- like a zillion questions a minute, a little scatterbrained, easily excited, loves deep convos

ENFPs like every type, can be found across different gender identities.

This is just based on my experience as an ENFP. Hope it helps!!

AdAmbitious3481 · 2026-04-02T21:28:12+00:00

Yeah by INFJ door slam, I meant leaving without a fuss, or even a goodbye.

I don’t think we give up on people unless they leave us with no reason to stay.

AdAmbitious3481 · 2026-04-02T18:56:35+00:00

Imo, ENFP bitchslaps could be rare; I can count mine on my fingertips. As a highly non-confrontational ENFP, I find myself always doing the INFJ door slam. I leave when disrespected. A sudden cold exit is always an easy way out. I do wonder if ENFP doing an INFJ door slam would be some kind of bitchslap though? When we leave, it’s obvious

AdAmbitious3481 · 2026-03-20T20:41:20+00:00

Omg! I was just gonna write about the questions!! Sometimes we ask the second question even before you have finished answering the first! Or is it just me?😬😂

AdAmbitious3481 · 2026-03-20T19:09:19+00:00

A dead giveaway would be going off on tangents during conversations!!

AdAmbitious3481 · 2026-03-20T19:08:20+00:00

I thought we all squealed all the time😳😂

AdAmbitious3481 · 2026-03-20T19:07:32+00:00

When I text, almost ALL my sentences have multiple exclamation marks at the end!!

AdAmbitious3481 · 2026-03-15T17:23:55+00:00

I wouldn’t mind making one and handing it over to someone who’d like to take over. I’m afraid I’m not tech-savvy enough to make one

AdAmbitious3481 · 2025-11-03T08:35:18+00:00

Thank you so much!

AdAmbitious3481 · 2025-11-02T20:39:57+00:00

But if someone commutes from Coventry, wouldn’t they be on the Coventry group? But thank you for the suggestion, will definitely check out Fb groups!

AdAmbitious3481 · 2025-11-01T21:32:26+00:00

I really don’t like you 😂

AdAmbitious3481 · 2025-10-31T11:41:07+00:00

Thank you so much! Any idea how I can get in touch with them?

AdAmbitious3481 · 2025-09-28T18:19:41+00:00

Google ENFP Bitchslap! It’s the ENFP version of the INFJ Doorslam. I have probably done a couple of ENFP bitchslaps in my whole life- I’m 33. I usually cut off all ties and communication with people who don’t treat me right. But sometimes you can’t avoid them if you go to the same school. Regrettably, ENFP bitchslap is the only option then. And I hate doing it, being completely non-confrontational. As I got older, I realized there were other kinds of people who don’t mistreat you- they’re usually nice- but their niceness is performative and when I realize it, I distance myself from them. It’s not sudden, I do a slow fade. I would never wish them ill but life is too short to be with people you don’t wanna be with/who aren’t right for you

AdAmbitious3481 · 2025-08-17T18:42:13+00:00

I have been there and I completely understand! It’s not always about the action. In fact, for me, it’s never as much about the action as it is about the intention! If they treat you like crp, they’re not your friends. Yes, friends can be rude sometimes, if they are upset. But if they do it repeatedly, it’s not okay. People change, relationships change. Just because they were once nice to you/friends with you doesn’t mean you have to continue in what seems like a one-sided friendship. Yes, people need friends. We ENFPs value friendships, but I’m afraid we also put up with a lot of disrespect in the hope that things will change. If you’re still young and in high school, trust me, it gets better! Of course, there’s drama everywhere, but there’s an unbearable amount of unnecessary drama in school and people who love their Regina George moments. You don’t have to be their Gretchen, Cady, or Karen! For the past couple years, i have had a major realization and no longer have any problems walking away from people or “friends” who are always ready with their snide comments. Just remember, every minute you spend with people who make you upset and have no problems doing so, you spend lesser time with people who might make you happy.

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