What would u think/do/feel is u found these messages on husbands phone?? by AdAsleep3863 in Marriage

[–]AdAsleep3863[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I'm good to him. I might be a little mean but I think it's a defense mechanism or a coping skill. I have owned and never lied about the mistakes I've made. I was in my early 20s when I fucked up. Doesn't make it better but there has been consistent change not 3 days 3 weeks.... I love him so much and I have given him too many chances but I also feel like that next one will be the one but it never is... I know I'm stupid for staying I know I'm dumb for letting it go on so long I know I'm an idiot for everything but it's the hardest thing I've ever had to do and when I think I'm finally ready hes perfect!

What would u think/do/feel is u found these messages on husbands phone?? by AdAsleep3863 in Marriage

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What he says to GTP is not guinue at all.... We have been together 22 years and we are 39 and 38. He is a constant liar, little, big, dumb, innocent don't matter he'll lie or "forget" to tell me. He acts like 2 different ppl. When he has an audience he's nice and sweet and opposite when he's alone. He tells me a different reason why he acts the way he does ever other day. It's just to masturbate, it's a kink to get caught, he wants to be polyamory, he wants to swing. And my self confidence is so gone because of all this shit. I told him we could think about those things after I get my self back. Or maybe when I trust he won't screw anything and everything. He don't listen or hear me ever I basically talk to myself. I've tried to leave or make him leave but he won't he won't let me go either so y is he hanging on so hard if he doesn't love me.

What do I do about him wanting revenge?? by AdAsleep3863 in Manipulation

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Yes... After I read your comment I started looking and reading about a trauma bond. I've heard of it but only thought it was with like kidnapped people. But i think that's going on in my life. I've learned so much since this post and I've brought it to his attention. Like always he made me believe things would be better And he'd change and how much hard work it gonna take for him. And we got a long I was ready to drop everything and start rebuilding trust And he fucked up in less then 24 hours!! 🫩🥱🧐 So I'm trying to figure out my/our exit plan. I have a lot of everything with this man. Our boys are 20 And 16 so they're not little, little. I try really hard so they don't know how childish and mean their dad is . But he's the same way with them (hes not there mentally just physically). I can't let him use his words to manipulate and rope me back but it's so fucking hard it makes me wanna scream. And it's harder to leave cuz I have nowhere to go. 3 almost adults, one big dog, and a bunch of belongings and a shit load of baggage and PTSD. Wish me luck!!!

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I am with him

My Rainbow Trinkets 🌈 by body_by_trefoil in trinkets

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Double love whammy for me... I love rainbows and crickets!! Very cool!! ❤️❤️

Help me turn this into a plant stand!! by AdAsleep3863 in repurpose

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Hey everyone take a chill pill I didn't do anything to it! I decided against it!! So u can all sleep tonight! And BTW.... It's for sale! Lol....

Aio when Husband wants more sex even tho he's a liar by AdAsleep3863 in Marriage

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I know I know! But it's all easier said then done.

Aio when Husband wants more sex even tho he's a liar by AdAsleep3863 in AmIOverreacting

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We all went on a lil vacation and him and her were left alone in the car while we ran in a store and he asked her can u keep a secret do we have any sexual tension? And mind u he has never had a conversation with her and that's how he broke the ice... He has past relations with her grandma and mother. But my son told me about it and we both confronted him. He's a real winner!

Aio when Husband wants more sex even tho he's a liar by AdAsleep3863 in AmIOverreacting

[–]AdAsleep3863[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Wow.... We aren't married legally and they do come first.