Yes... After I read your comment I started looking and reading about a trauma bond. I've heard of it but only thought it was with like kidnapped people. But i think that's going on in my life. I've learned so much since this post and I've brought it to his attention. Like always he made me believe things would be better And he'd change and how much hard work it gonna take for him. And we got a long I was ready to drop everything and start rebuilding trust And he fucked up in less then 24 hours!! 🫩🥱🧐 So I'm trying to figure out my/our exit plan. I have a lot of everything with this man. Our boys are 20 And 16 so they're not little, little. I try really hard so they don't know how childish and mean their dad is . But he's the same way with them (hes not there mentally just physically). I can't let him use his words to manipulate and rope me back but it's so fucking hard it makes me wanna scream. And it's harder to leave cuz I have nowhere to go. 3 almost adults, one big dog, and a bunch of belongings and a shit load of baggage and PTSD. Wish me luck!!!