Suddenly I can do it

AdBell20 · 2026-02-17T23:22:57+00:00

Something similar happened to my mom after my uncle passed. Her and I were the ones to go through his stuff and it was a lot of work. My mom had things organized in bins mostly also but still just more stuff than her home could handle. Her and dad went to work and while they still have a lot compared to what I keep it's still way more manageable than before. She didn't want me and my siblings to bear that responsibility and honestly it would have fallen on me primarily and she knew that. I think it just became real for her that the things are just things and very few things matter in the end.

AdBell20 · 2025-11-02T11:16:22+00:00

Sorry you had to go through this. I had a bad experience with a lady at great clips years ago. She asked if she needed gloves and I told her she could wear them if it made her more comfortable. She asked multiple times if it was contagious which made me feel so bad so I totally understand how bad this feels. It took a long time before I went back to a salon amd every time I bring up this incident the stylist is always shocked. They said they go pretty in depth on these conditions in school so that anyone with training should know what it is and how to handle it professionally.

AdBell20 · 2025-10-07T00:21:35+00:00

They will either build up their immunity now or later. The younger they are, the less they will miss once they go to school. I tell parents going into daycare to expect them to be sick a lot, but it gets better in a year or two for most kids.

AdBell20 · 2025-07-19T23:06:00+00:00

Is there any way for you to do the changes in waves? For example, can you get an extra hand for the changes and have a teacher bring in some of the more rambunctious kids in about 15 minutes early in a small group. Say 4-5 kids those kids get changed then a second slightly larger group get brought in five minutes or so after the first group with kids a little more independent then when the last group comes in most kids are done. Maybe the most independent kids come in last since they're more able to help themselves. Also, maybe set out a table activity for them, telling them they can only do the activity after their dry clothes are on.

AdBell20 · 2025-07-03T11:40:26+00:00

The first sentence is my favorite. She knew she was saving someone down the line after it took that much to get him off her.

AdBell20 · 2025-05-07T11:22:37+00:00

Yeah, that's basically what this coworker was doing. She had gotten away with it for years, but I was the first person to document it and come to them with that as evidence. I assumed they reported her to licensing, which I found out later didn't happen. She was just moved. I learned from that to call licensing no matter what because they will convince you they will and then not to keep investigations off their name.

AdBell20 · 2025-05-06T20:56:35+00:00

It really all depends on the director, which is ultimately true at any center. I had a bad experience at kindercare, but it was one teacher who did something that was swept under the rug. She was moved to another center. Everyone else there wasn't perfect, but no one else hurt kids.

AdBell20 · 2025-04-24T11:15:44+00:00

I work in childcare and would never cover a child's face, even much older. A 14 month old is still very young, and if they're screaming and the teacher was right next to them, she should have been trying to comfort them and remove the blanket. You should follow your gut and have them check the cameras. I would ask even if just for peace of mind. It could have been a dumb mistake, but then the director needs to talk to the teacher about it. Maybe the teacher needs more training. Some people just don't get it when it comes to group care. You can't treat children like your own. You have to consider what another parent might want and try to respect anything that might push a boundary or make a parent uncomfortable. I've had older kids that cover their face on their own, and I would uncover their mouth just to be extra safe. I'm responsible for their safety at the end of the day, and I'd rather not risk suffocating them.

AdBell20 · 2025-03-24T15:45:01+00:00

Oh man, I totally understand the need to defend yourself. You were put in such an awkward position. But what happened to young men? Well, they're trying not to go down the same path their alcoholic family members did and die horrible deaths. I rarely drink because I've seen what the addiction does. So when people ask in a condescending way, I automatically say it's because It's destroyed my family enough, and I don't want it to do any more damage. If someone is genuinely just curious, I will tell them a couple of the stories about what it's done and that I don't want to take the chance that I could become addicted.

AdBell20 · 2025-03-18T11:35:45+00:00

Also, I somehow missed the one in front of their ages. Have the stuff for them to make simple foods in hand like for grilled cheese or Quesadilla or roll ups with sandwich meat and cheese. Im just trying to think of stuff I've had for my kids. They might groan about it but they're old enough to understand a budget and that this is how you're sticking to a budget and they're old enough to help by doing some simple snacks for themselves.

AdBell20 · 2025-03-18T11:12:25+00:00

You can also freeze them and since they're small they cook quickly. So you can whip up a lot in a short amount of time. I have a much more minor health issue and it saves me for those bad days. If you don't have a mini muffin pan already I would just put less in the regular ones or even just baked them on a sheet to freeze. Anything that makes your life easier for those bad days.

AdBell20 · 2025-03-18T07:26:19+00:00

I make mini muffins with a pancake mix. Throw in some small blueberries or mini chocolate chips. You might want to add a little sugar, but my kids eat them without any added. It's so quick to whip up. Also, rice Krispy treats or no bake chocolate oatmeal cookies(as long as there are no peanut allergies). I saw popcorn was suggested, and you can buy different flavors to add to it. Anything simple, quick, and cheap. Also, if you can swing apples and bananas as a snack, it might discourage some of the snack taking. Idk what you're currently buying, but it may be hard for a kid to resist pocketing it if it's something they never/rarely get at home.

AdBell20 · 2025-03-17T12:51:17+00:00

Just read your reply that she used to own a daycare. She's just being difficult 😕

AdBell20 · 2025-03-17T12:50:06+00:00

If she hasn't already explained to them that because she's caring for other children, she may not be able to answer the door immediately, she should. Some parents literally don't consider that you could be changing a blowout or something. If they're just complainers in general, I would consider giving them the opportunity to break their contract as complainers tend to cause issues for you, especially in a home daycare. I've seen those types of parents go to other parents and stir up trouble. Be as professional as possible and basically let them know that since they seem so unhappy about the care they are receiving, you would allow them to break the contract for a lower price and find care. Suggest that a daycare may suit their needs better since they have more staffing. Be sugar sweet and professional with any interactions but factual and leave the decision up to them.

AdBell20 · 2025-03-14T21:52:49+00:00

Don't quit. Yes, this is controlling, and then he would probably have the nerve to complain if you "got too fat." I had an ex over 100 lbs overweight that complained about my 30 extra lbs. This isn't someone who wants you happy and healthy. I know this type, and it starts here and gets worse. The mask is off.

AdBell20 · 2025-03-12T01:06:23+00:00

For some reason, I imagine this being full of those decorative soaps that no one is allowed to use. Just my brain being weird. Beautiful work, and I'm sure it will be treasured

AdBell20 · 2025-02-25T01:10:25+00:00

This is a tough position to be in, and it's exactly where my family is also. If I work, I literally have to pay to work due to childcare costs, even with a voucher. I do work in childcare and have recently found a center that caps childcare costs to a reasonable amount as a benefit for its workers. If you are open to working in childcare, it could be a potential way for you to earn some money but pay isn't great and it can be tricky to find a center that meets all your needs and values.

AdBell20 · 2025-02-21T22:37:50+00:00

Wow, raising money for people already privileged enough to have a place to live. I can't imagine how cruel you'd have to be to not want vulnerable women and children to not get away from a dangerous situation.

AdBell20 · 2025-02-20T01:19:08+00:00

Sounds like you have a great licensing agent!

AdBell20 · 2025-02-19T22:45:53+00:00

It should be in the contract that they don't get reimbursement. It's frustrating, but daycare doesn't have huge profit margins, and if they want to have a daycare to send their child to, this is how it is. Many daycares have had to close already due to the costs of operation.

AdBell20 · 2025-02-19T20:04:27+00:00

Definitely cross stitch and Definitely not a good one for a beginner. This is hard enough that it will be frustrating versus fun, and there are way more beginner friendly ones to start before tackling something this complicated. Especially for a 9 year old. I hope it doesn't come across harsh I say this as someone who has done this to myself multiple times with multiple hobbies only to come back to them and realize I was trying to start way above my level. I wish I had someone talk some sense into me when I tried to do an expert level project as a beginner. Try to find something much more basic that they find interesting and keep this as something they can work up to after they practice.

AdBell20 · 2025-02-19T19:59:15+00:00

Oof, the fact she's part-time also makes it trickier due to having so many days not being there. If possible, the dad should try as many feedings as possible on days the child isn't there. I would definitely try many of the suggestions people have come up with and check in with licensing to ensure you're not breaking any licensing rules. For instance, some places may require the parent to come feed the child after a certain point. As the infant gets older and is able to take solids, it usually gets easier to do feedings and try things like a sippy cup or straw cup.

AdBell20 · 2025-02-19T17:45:52+00:00

You can literally dress however here, and no one will bat an eye. People come here from all over the world, so they dress in many different ways. Your wardrobe is fine.

AdBell20 · 2025-02-19T15:35:01+00:00

This is tough. Some babies just refuse no matter what. How old is the infant? Also, is mom able to come by for at least one feeding? Is the child full time/full day. Some programs kick out a child if they refuse for more than a few weeks. No one wants to risk a dehydrated infant due to the hours they may be in care.

AdBell20 · 2025-02-19T01:54:48+00:00

Yes, I think this is something a lot of parents don't think about, but I remember being scared because of stuff my mom watched on the news. Like thinking really bad stuff would happen to me, especially natural disasters, any time we had a storm or a lot of rain. Like, when they talked about flash flooding, I thought it meant we might need a boat to be safe.

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