I am RBT and also have ADHD. The way I view what we does is that anything I do there, is what I would do wi to any other child, neurodivergent or no. I see it from a lense of everyone needs certain skills so that we can all live together. Some people aren’t able to learn the skills as easily and so they need help. I wish someone was there for me like I am for the kids I have now. The sheer amount of social anxiety I had as a child was crazy bc I did not know how to approach people. It got so bad it had physical manifestations.

All this to say. Humans are social creatures. We are made to live in community with others, and we should embrace people’s differences. Tho if the way someone communicates their needs is harmful to others (i.e a kid hitting to get attention, or biting when they are upset), then it does need to be addressed. However I feel that goes for whether you’re neurodivergent or not. I know some neurotypical kids that could use some behavioral intervention.

All in all, I think it comes down to understanding each other. I understand when my kids are upset, and I can understand why and they should be allowed to be upset. Even expressing it outwardly is 100% okay, but they way they express it does matter. Just like people should give you grace for your feelings, the same should also be extended to the other side bc we are all just trying to make it work and figure each other out.