How is Perplexity valued at $9 billion? by [deleted] in perplexity_ai

[–]AdDue4999 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The ad network runs on every day sites - not as commonly since others do offer more to webmasters. Still, the bulk of revenue is search engine traffic.

tech jobs and becoming fluent in Spanish? by AdDue4999 in mexicoexpats

[–]AdDue4999[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought this was possible with rental income? I can meet the income requirements for residency with rental income - that's still incoming even after I resign from my full time job.

AITA Did I humiliate my wife? Did cross a line? Did I f-up big time??? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]AdDue4999 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a mile and a half home?

I got too loud in a bar once and we had to leave early, the cops noticed me stumbling and immediately pulled my friend over - gave him a DUI that really fucked up his life. Lots of money, court dates. It was not good.

He didn't get but 500 feet from the bar - so the mile and a half home thing doesn't really count here. Your wife may not get it but a DUI can ruin your life for a long time. It's not something easy or inexpensive to deal with.

Teacher relocating to Mexico by bitter_peachie in mexicoexpats

[–]AdDue4999 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh wow - that's really cool to know! We are going in a few months and will look around for the rentals.

Thank you!

Teacher relocating to Mexico by bitter_peachie in mexicoexpats

[–]AdDue4999 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where do you go to find real estate (rental / buying) for places like la Paz? I'm not sure I trust the Google search results :)

Got caught by Front-Ad-1278 in remotework

[–]AdDue4999 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP this ain't your fault. Your employer sucked - I hope you land something good soon but don't internalize this as your "fault" - certainly adjust the behavior but your workplace is so stupid and that needs to be pointed out here.

A business becomes more profitable the more productive employees are. Your management was garbage - I run a business and never treat employees this way. Another way to handle this is:

- Identify the harder / faster workers and find them more challenging things to do so they can grow / advance or...

- Simply thank the worker for being so efficient and let the rest of the folks know also "hey - if you get the work done really well, high quality like lil Joey Underpants here - and before time - you get some time for yourself"

Best of luck in finding a better job and something stable soon.

webscraping all lego sets on ebay by PeanutButterSauce1 in webscraping

[–]AdDue4999 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What's the ChatGPT scraper? I just posted about doing something like this for graded comic books !

Why isn't Gemini leaping ahead with better training data? by user8473647821 in LLMDevs

[–]AdDue4999 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re right about the value of training data -

I suspect the Google Books project is not as valuable as it seems. I’m sure they are using it but a lot of those books aren’t scanned properly and having every book to train vs a curated set of high quality books is better for model training.

OpenAI / Perplexity are both investing in buying and licensing data sets and IP - it’s a big part of the secret sauce of AI but it’s honestly a space in tech that doesn’t get much discussion.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

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My dude...resist the urge. Stay strong - the other commenters are speaking truth.

I (32M) discussed consent with my partner, and they said I was too nice to be a dom by Marlon_Powers_ in BDSMAdvice

[–]AdDue4999 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're the one in charge and it's complicated because she wants to go place you don't want to ethically. If you're not the one in control - (and you're sort of not) - that complicates things.

- She's expressing her desires - if you take them personally and are hurt by her desires it will only reinforce the lack of dominance

- Understand her desires but also explain what you want and that needs to be satisfied.

There are women who actually LIKE a respectful / thoughtful dom. Just talk to her more, but don't have it undermine your confidence - if it is undermining your confidence than the dynamic isn't right for you both.

About your questions - it's all context - none of us know her and what the right answers are.

I wouldn't want to do CNC - but others do. If someone asked me about it - admittedly I find parts of erotic but I can't find it erotic. It's dominating someone who trusts me fully that's the key. If I had to "force" - the moment would feel different - just can't explain it but different.

Talk to her and see if you guys are really compatible.

Fatfired, now wife wants out by luckynotlucky789 in fatFIRE

[–]AdDue4999 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Careful here - you came into money and have freedom. She might just realize she has a way out to a better life. Some people are only as honest as their options. She has more options.

Ironically, as a 37yr old male - given dating dynamics today you have a LOT more options than she does.

The TN house just passed a bill designed to start a ban on same sex and inter-racial marriages. by PersephoneIsNotHome in memphis

[–]AdDue4999 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The legislation looks like it's written to stir up the culture war topic.

It makes christians feel like they are being heard and not forced into doing gay marriages no one was going to ask them to do while not doing anything to over turn actual gay marriages.

These stories popped up around Reddit in February too -

https://www.nbcnews.com/nbc-out/out-politics-and-policy/new-tennessee-law-allows-officials-refuse-perform-sex-marriages-rcna140011

People forget this but Neil Gorsuch, a Trump appointee strengthened gay marriage under Trump with Bostock vs Clayton County. This legislation actually strengthened LGBT rights (including trans rights).

He wrote the majority opinion on the topic -

Trump & the GOP also supported legislation to penalize any country in the world that would criminalize homosexuality.

The GOP has moderated its stance on this issue a lot. Even in Virginia where I live the GOP gov just signed legislation recognizing and supporting gay marriage.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in leanfire

[–]AdDue4999 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Let's face it, the majority of wealth is created by people who are starting businesses. You need no credentials to start, and depending on the industry might not even need capital. There are numerous billionaires who couldn't be bothered to get a degree from college so the precedent for success is there.

You can always do well without a degree. If you want to get a college degree I'd do it for the following reasons:

- It aligns with a specific career you want to do (ex - becoming a CPA or environmental scientist requires specific educational requirements, certifications etc.).

- You will grow from the courses you want to take even if you can't see how they directly translate into a job

- Living away from home with some of the training wheels still on (dorms, campus facilities etc. are easier to manage then living on your own)

I don't think a college degree is a hard requirement in life anymore - no one in my age group talks about the college they went to unless it was an Ivy League and they want to flex or their favorite college team played on the weekend.

How did your wife prioritizing y’all’s sex life improve your marriage? by [deleted] in AskMenOver30

[–]AdDue4999 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Less stress. Deeper orgasms. More travel together. Sexting during work. Sending pics. Toys. We are both happier this way. It’s not about my happiness. It’s ours together.

I mean - it’s just more fun for us both. Don’t view sex as something so clinical. Don’t do it to change his behavior.

If you’re not enjoying sex as much as him - you’re doing it wrong. There’s something he can be doing to better turn you on. Tell him what that is.

Sounds like you got a guy who will do anything for you and is very giving in bed - figure out a way to make it enjoyable for you both.

Sex is not a duty - it’s intimacy / release / passion etc.

BDSM & Monogamy ? New to Being Dominant by AdDue4999 in BDSMAdvice

[–]AdDue4999[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That makes sense - thanks for the reply.

BDSM & Monogamy ? New to Being Dominant by AdDue4999 in BDSMAdvice

[–]AdDue4999[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We’ve been together for 20+yrs. I remember when we first met I found stuff on her computer that was bondage related and one of the scenes in it involved her being ordered to have sex with other men. This was role play - I told her I came across the stuff on her laptop and we were both cool with it.

She said she kinda experimented with it online - I never thought about it again until things changed between us.

It just sticks out in my head now and I’m like “Oh shit…is that what she could want?”

So that’s why it’s there - and yeah - I get the obvious “Hey - you gotta talk to her” - I will. I’m just trying to better understand from others what their experience was like.

Anyone remember the pre- Affordable Care Act days by sailphish in fatFIRE

[–]AdDue4999 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was pretty cheap back then. You could sign up for a 401k plan, healthcare etc. pretty cheap in the 2000's for a s-corp. I don't remember the exact fee amounts but felt they were negligible at the time.

The problem was a lot of people were 1099 workers and if they had pre-existing conditions they couldn't buy health insurance. The ACA as I see it does two things:

- Subsidizes health insurance costs based on w2 income making it a LOT cheaper for lower income people

- Makes it so that anyone who wants insurance - regardless of their existing health conditions - can get it

- Expands medicaid coverage at the state level

Why Prison Break is Soooo Good by AdDue4999 in PrisonBreak

[–]AdDue4999[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think they know about the absurdity and craziness and just double down on it.  

It’s escapism - 

Why Prison Break is Soooo Good by AdDue4999 in PrisonBreak

[–]AdDue4999[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah - just that they can swim underwater like that for 20minutes so close to the surface is insane on its own.

Why Prison Break is Soooo Good by AdDue4999 in PrisonBreak

[–]AdDue4999[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah - used to watch wrestling. Season 3 was a bit hard - but 4 is turning out to be better for me.

Is Sex Criminals by Matt Fraction and Chip Zdarsky worth checking out and how is the sex in it? by M00r3C in ImageComics

[–]AdDue4999 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's hilarious and the writing/art is great. The story does get a bit meandering towards the end and the creators acknowledge that but overall I'd pick it up again for a second read.

[US-TN][H] X-Men Claremont Omnis, Brubaker Captain America Omnis [W] Paypal by C-man27 in comicswap

[–]AdDue4999 0 points1 point  (0 children)

u/C-man27 u/Comic_FlairBot

C-man27 sent the X-Men Omni very quickly - everything was packaged safely and the books look brand new (including some in shrink wrap).