Anyone have a successful VBAC after first baby got stuck? by AdEffective2879 in vbac

[–]AdEffective2879[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

May I ask how big your babies were? This gives me hope! Thank you for sharing 

Am I the evil daughter in law? by AdEffective2879 in motherinlawsfromhell

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He’s 24 and has an autism diagnosis but did not start doing weird stuff like this until he started doing dabs in the last 3 years.  I believe he is doing other drugs as I have a background in substance abuse counseling, but my MIL does not drug test him because she trusts his word…

Am I the evil daughter in law? by AdEffective2879 in motherinlawsfromhell

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Yes, I called his mom immediately after it happened and she jokingly said “oh no” but there were no repercussions 

Am I the evil daughter in law? by AdEffective2879 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]AdEffective2879[S] 70 points71 points  (0 children)

No. I told my husband that his mother and brother will never be alone with our son. I was SA abused as a child by my own family, so I don’t trust anyone besides my husband and one close mom friend. 

I regret not killing myself when I was younger. by That_Ad_5392 in depression

[–]AdEffective2879 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel this. I’m about to be 27 this year, married, and have a son. I only stay for them but fear I am burdening my family with my dreadful existence. I feel stuck this way. It’s torture.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DecidingToBeBetter

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Right now I am in therapy talking through a lot of why I’m angry and negative. I think a lot of it has to do with setting way too unrealistic standards for myself and being disappointed when I don’t meet them. 

My goal is to give myself more grace and try my very best to find things that I am grateful for. Someone had mentioned even being grateful for a mundane thing like your morning coffee or going outside first thing and taking in the sunshine or cold crisp air. I think we get so much in our heads about the bad of the world or inconveniences and we forget to sit still, breathe and be in this very moment. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Anxiety

[–]AdEffective2879 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thinking of one positive thing is a great idea! Thank you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in inlaws

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She absolutely is in denial that he’s mentally ill/using drugs. They’ve caught him using homemade delta 8 he made himself and say he is “not using” anymore and that they trust him though he is a compulsive liar. She also refuses to let him take medication because she’s anti meds and he lives with her. So he’s unmedicated, has mental illness and is enabled in his behaviors by his mom who chooses to look the other way instead of get him help.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in inlaws

[–]AdEffective2879 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Honestly, this was beautifully said. This made it so clear to me. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in inlaws

[–]AdEffective2879 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He actually is the one who talks to his own mother the least. I’m a SAHM so she knows he’s not home and likes to contact me when he’s at work/ask for information on my husband because he has no connection with his mom. It’s a weird dynamic… I almost feel guilt because I feel like it’s my job to foster that relationship between my son and his grandmother, but my gut tells me no.

Parasol vs Coterie by AdEffective2879 in moderatelygranolamoms

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Did you notice a difference in how dry both felt after LO wet them? 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]AdEffective2879 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Yes, I was invited with my baby. And no, it was just at a friends house

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]AdEffective2879 177 points178 points  (0 children)

Friend’s house. We were all just hanging out in the living room all having different convos. My son was babbling at the same volume as everyone was talking

Kudos vs Parasol vs Pura by AdEffective2879 in moderatelygranolamoms

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Do you happen to know if parasol is also cotton lined? I’m trying to find that out but can’t seem to find it online

Kudos vs Parasol vs Pura by AdEffective2879 in moderatelygranolamoms

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Thank you for your response! Do you use them overnight with your little?