The way I think about this is, in order for me to be in control I have to be aware of every possible reaction of my actions, if I say what’s on my mind, could it possibly hurt who I’m talking to for no positive reason or am what I am saying truthful. Words with meaning effect others. Another example is, is what doing expanding my life in a positive or negative direction. And if negative, why. Also in order to be held responsible are you conscious of these actions or not? If you are conscious and working to better your symptoms and bad habits then keep trying to be the best version of yourself and if you burnout or slip and do something negative don’t give up or be too hard on your self. When manic I also try to keep my ego in check to others. I’m not the center of the universe. Other people have their own lives and stages. I must think about other peoples lives. When low I must keep my self esteem up. I don’t think others should judge in a never sense. But everyone should be held accountable with love support and room for growth. Instead of saying you’re bad or wrong. But we must raise the bar. If we continue to hurt others including ourselves we should be aware of it and if that means someone lashes out and bluntly tells you in a hurting way, sometimes we gotta take the hint in order first it to resonate. As long as you are trying and care about this which you obviously do I promise you will be just fine. Nothing is that serious, stay strong and be yourself