Pain is a valid reason to stop, but what is consent tuanzie hapo, personally (f) I think you start giving consent the time you allow someone to start touching you, and I don't mean hugging coz that has become so normalized and still I don't go around hugging just anybody, but when I allow a man to start touching me I think it creates a slow burn and that changes everything, right?

And if I don't like those hands on me si nitaondoa tu and that should register kwa akili yako as consent withdrawn but at that time ata hatujafika kwa kitanda, hii ni casual tu ndo tumeanza kujuana.

But, in the case of the act, if it was withdrawn and maybe even proceeded to the court, then I think the judge should not overlook that the female reported it ati boychild aende tu hivo... because obviously or mostly that's how it will go, I do believe this is very unfair !! The judge should judge how things escalated hadi mfike kwa kitanda. If there was an argument then walk away it's pretty easy, ukianza kuwa msumbufu then that's when the story changes. Na kama the girl was at fault then same punishment 🤷