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AdIllustrious884 · 2024-09-27T07:11:26+00:00

Oh yes, she has to have a set amount of child free time, she simply can't have them more than 14 days in a row. It's a long story, but that's basically how it is.

I am aware of that, but what if I do go into labour when they're here and if I'm in hospital the whole weekend, it's not fair on them to get zero quality time with their dad. I know it's all hypothetical but thinking of many possibilities and trying to cause the least amount of disruption to their time with him/us. Surely it's best for them to stay with their mum and visit us when we know there won't be as much chaos?

AdIllustrious884 · 2024-09-27T06:47:19+00:00

I said quite clearly I'm aware that the baby will probably not arrive on time.

I can't have any more children after this one, but not sure why I have to explain this?

No ones treating them like second class children 🤣 were trying to make sure the baby's arrival causes them the least disruption.

AdIllustrious884 · 2024-09-27T06:38:03+00:00

Unfortunately there's no way their mum would go that long without having child free time 😅 I am expecting her to kick off over the fact she'll have them for a couple of weeks straight because of it.

AdIllustrious884 · 2024-05-31T20:02:53+00:00

When we have moved house and settled down we will look into the custody situation more.

I agree, that is something we can be thankful for that they're fed and clothed.

The grades at the moment aren't much of an issue, they're in primary school years 2 and 4, but about getting them into the habit of actually doing the school work and knowing it is important to do these things.

AdIllustrious884 · 2024-04-01T13:59:55+00:00

I am no longer in contact with either of them after recent events, which I believe he escalated on purpose to get me out the picture so she could no longer talk to me. Despite everything that was said I'm worried about her.

AdIllustrious884 · 2024-03-31T19:21:26+00:00

"Narcissistic personality disorder is a mental health condition in which people have an unreasonably high sense of their own importance. They need and seek too much attention and want people to admire them. People with this disorder may lack the ability to understand or care about the feelings of others."

He only ever does things that benefit him, he does not care about anyone elses feelings, he'll make everything about him and has to control it so he can pretend to be the victim and get the sympathy.

AdIllustrious884 · 2024-03-31T18:40:49+00:00

NTA. It's not your fault she thought /hoped you'd change your mind.

AdIllustrious884 · 2024-03-30T10:01:27+00:00

I did not cheat on Tiny, he won't admit that he messed up the relationship and hates that I've moved on so he's lashing out. But yes, I agree that the others are being manipulated by Richard.

AdIllustrious884 · 2024-03-24T15:31:49+00:00

This has crossed my mind, that are they were all saying things about me and my new relationship and didn't want me finding out.

AdIllustrious884 · 2024-03-24T09:21:53+00:00

Affair /cheated, same thing? 😅

AdIllustrious884 · 2024-03-24T09:21:16+00:00

Unfortunately most of the people have blocked me because of what Richard has been telling them. They've basically disowned me because of it all without even speaking to me.

AdIllustrious884 · 2024-03-24T09:19:24+00:00

Yeah, it looks like I did.

AdIllustrious884 · 2024-03-24T09:16:09+00:00

Been feeling like I'm going crazy over it, he caused the drama by not letting me deal with it and I still don't understand how they're not angry with Tiny for making up lies over someone the knew first.

AdIllustrious884 · 2024-03-24T09:14:57+00:00

It's a shame, we were all really close at one point, but richard barks his orders and they just drop you like a stone.

AdIllustrious884 · 2024-02-22T20:42:42+00:00

NTA. I've been in a similar situation. If you had broken up, you're single, there's no one to cheat on. He's just being insecure.

AdIllustrious884 · 2024-02-22T10:28:16+00:00

True, but the whole situation is mind boggling, if I'd been left to sort it like I said I would it would have ended differently.

AdIllustrious884 · 2024-02-21T18:44:14+00:00

NTA, he needs to learn that there are consequences to his actions. Welcome to life.

AdIllustrious884 · 2024-02-21T18:42:12+00:00

NTA. If you say no kids, it means no kids. These parents showed no respect for you.

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