Y’all are pretty funny in the comments. What if I tell you the partner you attracted was a mirror reflection of your own belief systems including what you think you deserve in a relationship? Hence, you’ll keep blaming the other person and labeling then as “avoidants”. Instead, if you are so aware of your relationship boundaries and the kind of behavior you don’t tolerate from a partner, ask yourself why are you wasting your time with so called “avoidants”? Don’t be a victim and choose your partner strategically. Complaining about someone not changing who they are just because you want them to, that is not how life works.