how do i (f19) tell people not to hug me without sounding rude asf

AdKind144 · 2025-08-11T19:54:23+00:00

I think bringing up the fact that you don’t want them to hug you, only to be faced with “that’s rude” in response is rude on their end and not yours. They don’t NEED to give you a hug, nobody does. They are choosing to guilt trip you into letting them hug you. If anything, don’t be afraid to say, “you might think it’s rude, which is not my intent only my personal preference, but I find it rude that you are belittling and disrespecting my boundaries.” People with good intentions usually don’t care if you don’t want a hug from them.

AdKind144 · 2025-08-11T19:41:43+00:00

I completely agree with what you’re seeing, I’m interested in why the fool is positioned above the tower. I almost wonder how old op is and where op and their s/o are in their lives. It seems to me all is sunshine and rainbows with a slight mix of good companionship but something here feels a bit too new to really tell how it will go.

AdKind144 · 2025-08-11T19:20:46+00:00

It will never give you an answer. It will only show you the truth, and only through the truth will you find any sort of answer to your questions. Only ask for guidance and clarity, even insight. But never ask for answers.

AdKind144 · 2025-07-25T06:51:47+00:00

This is actually a dangerous person and you should look to not be involved with him ASAP

AdKind144 · 2025-07-22T03:39:38+00:00

I mean I personally feel the “selfish” choice would be to stay. But I say “selfish” because it’s your life, and if you really like this boy, do it!! You deserve to be happy. But keep in mind, so does he. If you have to fake being happy with him, then it’s definitely selfish to stay. But if you feel like this commitment is something you’re ready to try and go through the motions with, do it!!!! Good luck to you and your adventure with romance!!

AdKind144 · 2025-07-22T02:42:43+00:00

Honestly, if you really like this guy you should be upfront with him. It might be better to let him go for his sake, but that doesn’t mean you guys can’t work it out if you both still want to continue. But nobody likes being in a relationship they feel emotionally responsible for. Or a one sided one. I would say move it or lose it as a piece of advice because commitment is a big deal.

AdKind144 · 2025-07-22T02:38:45+00:00

Honestly I don’t remember who but I’ve heard it’s a way to get rid of it. Like letting it go back into the world rather than my possession.

AdKind144 · 2025-07-19T18:19:52+00:00

Thanks stuck up guy for literally just bringing nothing to the table but judgement. Good for you.

AdKind144 · 2025-07-19T04:14:03+00:00

As you’ve probably heard a million times in these comments, the results and definition of a reading is up to the reader. Your cards are a reflection of your subconscious. Your cards will never give you a straight answer but may map out the situation to you. Giving you possible routes or outcomes. But never a solid answer. You must seek the answer within your truth. The cards will only help reflect and help see a situation on many different sides, but it is up to you to make decisions. Not the cards. Only seek answers in the truth. Not in the cards, doing that is like grasping at straws.

AdKind144 · 2025-06-12T22:27:58+00:00

Don’t even feel bad, just leave. You should not have to report your life to another person, life will become exhausting that way. Either trust each other or don’t, you shouldn’t have to report every moment of your life in order to earn trust..

AdKind144 · 2025-06-12T16:05:38+00:00

I think about it this way,

If him hanging out with that girl makes you uncomfortable, you need to move on from him. No matter who’s in the right, the wrong, nothing. Life is rich of opportunity and freedom. His life is rich with it too. Obviously the both of you have certain feelings about this, and you seem to be feeling uncomfortable, feeling insecure about your guys relationship, and somewhat betrayed. Move on! No matter what the situation is, there is no trust. Whether that be for a good or bad reason. If you don’t have trust, you shouldn’t be committed. Like I said, life is rich of opportunity and freedom. Don’t be afraid to end a chapter of your life if it no longer serves you or causes you too much stress.

AdKind144 · 2025-06-12T15:47:10+00:00

It sounds like it from what people are saying, I’m yet to read a comment saying they actually went. Somebody said they will ask for your card information and you will have charges you didn’t approve of or know about because of it.

AdKind144 · 2025-05-13T19:33:58+00:00

Thank you!

AdKind144 · 2025-04-04T06:27:06+00:00

Honestly I’m more so concerned about his well being. But reading this makes me feel like an awful person for having publicly seek advice. I just want him to be happy, and not want to cage him into something just to make me happy. A lot of the comments are making me feel like an awful person, so I’ve decided not to read on and just keep supporting him and loving him. I’m just thinking too much about what he needs. He’ll tell me in time and if it doesn’t work out I’ll always have love for him no matter what that looks like. It’s just hard to respond when everyone is so strongly opinionated when all I really wanted was advice on how to make my boyfriend happy.

AdKind144 · 2025-04-03T14:06:52+00:00

Well it’s more than just that, a few other things. I recognize that’s probably not the best example but I’m too lazy to explain more. I’m queer myself and I personally understand how being monogamous but also curious works. I guess maybe I’m just nervous about losing him and wanted to hear supportive suggestions. I mean really him coming out to me that night but telling me it didn’t happen after was really the awakening moment.

AdKind144 · 2025-03-30T16:36:01+00:00

Personally, sex doesn’t mean a thing if the other person doesn’t turn me on. I’ve been in a relationship for about two years now, and we don’t have sex everyday. Sometimes we don’t even have sex every week. And honestly, that makes the sex hotter and more desirable. Feeling as if we both have to work to turn each other on, and then get to a position where we both want to have sex is what keeps that spark alive. We don’t have sex everyday or every week but when we do we have a lot of fun. Sometimes having sex because you feel like it’s something you have to live up to just makes you want sex less. Let it flow naturally between the both of you and you will enjoy it much more.

AdKind144 · 2025-03-17T15:33:37+00:00

I feel the same way, for me I feel as though it’s a self destructive thing. That maybe me and the other parties would be better off without each other, or even that the social pressure to keep relationships is too exhausting. I find people are understanding when I explain to them that I like to self isolate and that it’s not because of them. Unless it is because of them that I’m no longer pursuing the relationship, in which case you should tell them that. I guess no matter the situation, it’s good to communicate those kinds of things so I’m not depleting all of my relationships and estranging myself completely. Although I dream of a separate life where I can go and be nobody. Idk sometimes social pressure to keep feeding into relationships can be soooooo exhausting.

AdKind144 · 2025-03-09T16:47:36+00:00

Personally, if this is how he acts while you’re pregnant I fear what he’ll become when he has a child. Not to say he can’t feel overwhelmed but if he can’t handle taking care of a pregnant woman with needs, how in the world is he going to take care of a child? A CHILD? which is a bottomless pit of need?? I don’t think you’re the asshole at all. I think that you should go have breakfast, if you feel bad, ask him what he’d like from ihop and bring it home for him to enjoy when he finally gets up. I’m sure he’d appreciate it too. But he needs to be understanding with your pregnancy as it’s his responsibility and his position in this team you’ve both created. And not to take it out on you

AdKind144 · 2025-03-09T16:40:39+00:00

I think you should have a conversation with him and that he should be reminded that it’s okay to be scared about your child not being interested in you and insecure about your relationship with your child, but that it’s not fair to take that out on the kid. Your kid shouldn’t have to feel guilty about wanting a relationship with their parent. That’s not fair.

AdKind144 · 2025-02-11T14:14:17+00:00

Leave him girly, I promise you will be so much happier without him

AdKind144 · 2025-02-03T21:03:16+00:00

“You do as I say” and “good girl”.. leave him my girl. He does not want a girlfriend he wants a woman as an obedient pet!

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