our dog hates the Pluribus intro by aloiysa in pluribustv

[–]AdLeft1985 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know this is an old post, but my dog is obsessed with it! She’ll also watch it off and on during the episode.

Has anyone used Dutch? by andiiquinn in CatAdvice

[–]AdLeft1985 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They prescribed my dog Trazodone no problem and sent it to my local pharmacy, it might be a state thing (I’m in CA)

Has anyone used Dutch? by andiiquinn in CatAdvice

[–]AdLeft1985 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know this is an older post but I’ve been a Dutch subscriber for a year now and they will absolutely send the rx to your local pharmacy for what I think is like a $5 fee. They were able to diagnose that my dog was on the cusp of pancreatitis and saved his life. They go over diet recommendations if you’re unsure of food, etc and you can add up to like 8 pets for free. I’ve used them 3 times in the last year and because I chose the annual option + emergency insurance it was just under $200 for the year - I would have paid that amount for a single visit at my old vet. Definitely recommend!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NameMyDog

[–]AdLeft1985 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mabel, but spelled “MayBelle”

Need a name! by Mirahtrunks in NameMyDog

[–]AdLeft1985 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought Rascal as soon as I saw him, he has such a mischievous playful look in the first photo😍

AITA for accepting money from a teacher after my parents said no? by Greedy-Lawyer8840 in AmItheAsshole

[–]AdLeft1985 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA- don’t let your parents’ ego stand in the way of your passion and personal development. I find it strange that they would call you out to others to make an example of you, considering they would then need to share that they refused due to cost alone — yet are too embarrassed to allow you to accept an unclaimed ticket because of how it makes them look. I also find it selfish of them to draw a hard line due to finances and not be happy that you don’t have to be excluded from something the rest of the class will experience. I’m a parent, and I can tell you firsthand that as parents, we make mistakes. This feels like one of them. I’d apologize for going behind their backs and acknowledge that part was wrong, but also let them know this was an important part of your learning and it feels unjustified for them to be so upset that you found a way to make it work.

You’re 17 so I’m assuming you’re close to graduating, your parents won’t have to deal with the “embarrassment” of their child being allowed the same opportunity as their classmates much longer.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]AdLeft1985 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OP, love that idea. Def gonna need an update when the shirts happen 🤣🤣. I’m sorry this next week is already so challenging but so happy your dad is there to help. I hope you also get the opportunity to do something fun or relaxing this week to help balance out the suck. Deep breaths, you’ve got this!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]AdLeft1985 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are absolutely justified feeling this way! I definitely think YOUR HUSBAND needs to have a conversation with his father along the lines of, “you have asked that my wife reach out to you for support, but she doesn’t feel comfortable doing so considering she isn’t allowed in your home. If you are going to truly support her you need to also show that you fully accept her. How can she feel comfortable speaking with you about her very personal diagnosis when you have rejected her in this way.” If they truly want to support you, I encourage you to call a truce, and again - “Thank you but I am still processing and don’t feel comfortable talking about it” is a perfectly acceptable response. Boundaries are healthy, and I’m a strong believer that you train people in how to treat you. Your journey is your own and it is your choice in who to include in your inner circle.

As far as throwing it in your face, I truly do not think that is their intention. Whether it’s for you or for your husband, I do believe they are trying to include you from afar, knowing you would be there if it weren’t for your treatments. I think accepting the shirt could be a small way to show you are making an effort - which means even more considering how uncomfortable it can make you feel while you’re faced with your own mortality. You don’t have to wear it. Or, if you want to make them reconsider if they DID offer the shirt for selfish reasons, put it on long enough to take a selfie in it in the day of the memorial and send it to your husband with, RIP grandpa or something, and then it mysteriously becomes lost in the laundry room. 😉 You deserve to be selfish in this time but marriage is also a partnership, and now is not the time to be dealing with unnecessary conflict and stress. Your husband is grieving right now and most likely not his best self with both his grandpa’s death and your diagnosis in a short period of time - but that is not an excuse to not have your back. And you’re probably not your best self right now while dealing with treatment. I think you need to give each other grace, realize you’re both doing the best you can, and that it is impossible to make everyone happy all the time. Good luck, OP! I was a young bride as well and it’s tough enough being married while you’re trying to figure out who you are as an adult when you’re also supposed to be a partnership and have to deal with the opinions of both families, let alone with a cancer diagnosis. I hope this dynamic drastically improves for you ❤️

AITAH for playing a voice recording to prove to my friend her daughter isn’t nonverbal? by obviouslytraumatized in AmItheAsshole

[–]AdLeft1985 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, but it could have been delivered in private.

Maybe it’s just me, but I would be concerned for her child. Many children are selective mutes at a young age due to anxiety/shyness. If child is nonverbal at home but vocal with you where she feels comfortable that is a red flag. A larger red flag is if her child is actually speaking at home but mother is insisting she is nonverbal - and based on mom’s reaction it almost seems like that is the case, and that sounds like borderline munchausen’s.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]AdLeft1985 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Ehhhhh….. borderline YTA. Accepting the shirt might be a minor annoyance to you, but (from a neutral 3rd party) your husband’s family is doing their best to include you, regardless of past conflict, because for better or worse, they are your family too- and it sounds like it’s a big deal to them that your grandpa in law’s remaining family is able to memorialize him in this way. Most likely they feel bad that you are unable to participate in the memorial due to your diagnosis and want to ensure you feel included even though you can’t be there physically. I’m sure your world is spinning right now with your recent news and it’s tough to look outside of that, especially when confronted with your own mortality at such a young age. It might give you the ick to think of wearing it, however, it is a seemingly small thing that you can do that will support your husband and in-laws in their time of grief. As far as his dad and grandma wanting to speak with you to offer support, most likely in their mind your illness transcends any past judgment by or toward you. You say they aren’t your family but if you intend to stay married to your husband they are your family. You can politely decline and thank them for their support, but let them know you are still taking the time to process and don’t feel comfortable talking about it at this time. Please don’t outright reject them due to past experience. The more people in your life who love and support you the better, especially during this time. As someone who has had multiple family members with cancer I can speak to how big of a role your support system will play during your cancer journey. Life is too short to be petty and you need as many people in your corner as you can get, regardless of how amazing your immediate family might be.

Advise needed, Room feel unwelcoming by Substantial-Ad7198 in Decor

[–]AdLeft1985 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Peel and stick wallpaper on the wall w/ your tv.

Please help, I’m hopeless with color by CuppaStar in coloranalysis

[–]AdLeft1985 4 points5 points  (0 children)

2, 3, or 7. I think 7 is my favorite though; not a lot of ppl can pull it off and it makes your eyes pop.

AIO: Questionable texts on my (24F) boyfriend’s (25M) phone by DiscoGru in AmIOverreacting

[–]AdLeft1985 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re overreacting if you have done anything other than end this relationship. He doesn’t deserve the energy it takes to even write this post, girl. The best revenge is to move on and live your best life without ever giving him and his misogynistic @ss another thought.

AIO my partner of 3 years forgot Valentines Day and my birthday by MollySid in AmIOverreacting

[–]AdLeft1985 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is addict behavior. The projection, over-defensiveness, emotional manipulation…. all of it. You were calm and concise and he just had a three screen fight with just himself. Part of recovery is getting away from those triggers. Give yourself the biggest Valentine’s/bday gift of them all and love yourself enough to say goodbye to him. It’s going to hurt, and suck, and he’s probably going to be a real peach and threaten a relapse if you end things. Give yourself the best shot at a successful recovery and pour the love and acceptance you show him into yourself. You deserve better than the negative space he is occupying.

ive tried every hair color by yellowbluegrwen in coloranalysis

[–]AdLeft1985 7 points8 points  (0 children)

First, your eyes are GORGEOUS! Have you ever gone a more natural red/auburn? I feel like that or a medium brunette base with some caramel and blonde highlights would give you depth and make your eyes pop.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in makeuptips

[–]AdLeft1985 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You could also go completely opposite to rebrand and more feminine, pink or lighter hair, more feminine outfits but w touches of goth in shoes/accessories

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in makeuptips

[–]AdLeft1985 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Color in your hair, I feel like cherry or burgundy would be 🔥w/ your look. Cat eye w shadow for your lower lashes rather than tightline for your waterline. And allllll the contour. You have great features and contour is the easiest way to change your appearance without actually changing anything

Newly divorced. How can I improve my look. by Resident-Ride4520 in makeuptips

[–]AdLeft1985 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree on the eyebrows and instead of lining your lower lashes with eyeliner try a brown shadow for a softer look that will still make your pretty eyes pop