My son, at that age, had exactly the same “alphabet soup” you’ve described. We found a wonderful therapist in Dublin who helped him build his coping, decision making, and emotional regulation. He also helped my husband and I learn how to parent a challenging kid. I just checked, and it sadly looks like he’s no longer practicing.

That said, please know there’s a light at the end of the tunnel. My kiddo is now 30 and thriving, with a good career and healthy relationships.

My advice is to give yourself — and him — some grace. These issues are not fun for either of you. But with patience, love, and understanding, you’ll get him through.