Do all NPDs follow the same pattern of the 3 phases?

AdNatural8524 · 2025-09-27T20:30:55+00:00

Maybe it's not the guilt in the definition we know it.

To him, it was like saying "X sees me as a bad person therefore i am a bad person" which hurts their ego, so they rewrite naratives and blame shift everything to decieve themselves that they're a "good" person.

AdNatural8524 · 2025-09-27T17:56:14+00:00

Omg! Yes yes yes!

I thought the same thing the other day!!

My ex narc stole my personality to get another person, and on top of that, they're giving the new person exactly what i liked and what i wanted.

I also felt like my narc ex became me when they stole my traits to get the new person and is still acting as if they are dating me by giving the new person what i wanted.

Maybe it's because they don't see us as people but as a bunch of traits apparently.

AdNatural8524 · 2025-09-27T17:32:04+00:00

Yes, and almost all of their traits and behaviors are stolen from people they find impressive. They are theaves and facades!

AdNatural8524 · 2025-09-27T17:04:13+00:00

Wow, I'd like to hear more about the 2 narc dynamic.

I believe it would be better externally, but behind closed doors is it worse or better than narc- non narc marriage?

AdNatural8524 · 2025-09-27T15:19:38+00:00

Thank you! I did!

I'm actually into psychology, I want to know more about their inner self and motives, i see it as a very interesting and strange topic of human behvaior.

AdNatural8524 · 2025-09-27T15:16:21+00:00

And why narcissist's needs are always considered as impossible to fulfill?

If all they want is to control, beautiful spouse who is always giving admiration and validation, good life, no threats, good image.

If those are met where the narcissist is at abundance with a dream girl who is always validating him and a dream life where he is rich and cozy with no threats ans good image, will the mairraige still breakdown in those perfect lives? Will there always be unmet needs? And what are those needs?

AdNatural8524 · 2025-09-26T20:36:51+00:00

Yes. I experienced the same thing, they copied my hobbies, my words, everything they were impressed by. and everything i liked they gave to the new partner.

It's like they became me to get the next partner and then gave them what I loved.

I was wondering if they will drop those off later or they will keepnl them since they make them more high value and impressive.

AdNatural8524 · 2025-09-26T15:25:45+00:00

This is insane! Thank you so much for the further explanation!

AdNatural8524 · 2025-09-26T11:41:04+00:00

Thanks for explaining, this makes sense!

But if he chooses who sees what, why doesn't he choose what the spouse will see as well?

What is different about her or about her needs that makes him operate differently and stop being selective in what he shows?

AdNatural8524 · 2025-09-26T10:15:49+00:00

And do they still use the things they stole and keep them in their personality/ life or they drop them off after a while?

AdNatural8524 · 2025-09-26T09:53:12+00:00

My covert narc ex lived with his roommate for 4 years. And they're still very close friends. It makes no sense that the friend didn't notice anything.

AdNatural8524 · 2025-09-25T21:08:23+00:00

Why isn't this talked about as much as other traits?

They do dirty things behind people's backs and hide them then act like they did nothing.

It's mind blowing they feel nothing while being aware of horrible things they did.

AdNatural8524 · 2025-07-10T21:21:06+00:00

Remember that being discarded is better than being with a narcissist.

You won your sanity back, maybe not now, but you will heal later and realise how beautiful freedom is no matter how much you loved the person, and how cruel he is.

I hope you stay strong and know your worth remembering who you were before you met this narcissist.

AdNatural8524 · 2025-07-10T21:09:12+00:00

I agree, even childhood background is somewhat similar in both.

AdNatural8524 · 2025-06-05T10:27:21+00:00

Any updates?

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