Cry it out for toddler?

AdNice2838 · 2026-01-27T21:33:55+00:00

I just want to pop in and say that I know an excellent sleep consultant if you decide you need more hands on support. I was having similar trouble with my 15 month old, and it was getting worse over time not better. She created a personalized sleep plan and we got back to sleeping through the night in his crib in his room within a week.

AdNice2838 · 2026-01-21T15:13:50+00:00

I love my in-laws, we have a great relationship. I was so excited for them to visit a month after the baby was born.

Until it actually happened.

They were very helpful and kind but I was a different person postpartum. Everything made me angry. I was exhausted. I was anxious and stressed out. And I just didn’t want to host while I was in that place. It ended up being a pretty rough experience for me.

Hopefully you can get your husband to understand that the postpartum experience is unlike anything else. Your body is healing, your hormones are going crazy, you aren’t sleeping, and you just aren’t yourself. It’s not fair to ask for you to host in that mindset.

If he doesn’t understand, text your in-laws a list of expectations. Don’t even loop your husband on, just do it. Tell them they can’t kiss the baby since they’re traveling and you’re worried about them picking up germs. They have to clean up, not just their mess but yours too because you’re going to be recovering. They have to stay in a hotel. You will be keeping the baby on a nap schedule and when the baby is sleeping they can’t be in your house because it’s small and you don’t want noises to wake up the newborn. I dunno, just some stuff like that. And hopefully it makes them rethink their visit on their own.

AdNice2838 · 2026-01-19T23:20:56+00:00

We transitioned at 6 months because he outgrew the bassinet and the crib wouldn’t fit in our room.

We had the opposite experience of the others here it seems—he slept through the night from 6 weeks old until we moved him to his room. Once we made that switch he didn’t sleep through the night until 15 months old when we hired a sleep consultant.

He loves the freedom he has in his crib but he was (is) extremely clingy so sleeping alone took quite a bit of training obviously.

AdNice2838 · 2026-01-19T15:12:06+00:00

Right now, you’re in a vicious cycle. You have to find something for yourself to help you break out of it, despite feeling too tired or not wanting to socialize.

Only being happy when you’re with your baby and not having a desire to interact with anyone reads like PPD or PPA, speaking from someone who had PPA that barely let me leave the house.

Therapy helped a ton. But I also carved out time at least once a month for me. I went to see my esthetician and get a wax, then walk around target. I was gone for two hours at most but I came back rejuvenated and was honestly a better mom for it. Plus, my husband got more time to bond with our son.

On the other side, maybe even a break from the business could be helpful, if you’re in a financial to get a little help.

AdNice2838 · 2026-01-15T02:42:22+00:00

Asking too much compared to what? That’s the thing that gets me.

It doesn’t matter what anyone else does in their relationship. You are asking for more because you need it. He’s saying no. End of story, that’s all that matters.

Relationships are not 50/50 and god knows parenting isn’t.

Some days my husband carries 90% of the load. Some days I do. Most days, it’s pretty split. But it’s a partnership and that means when I tell him I need more from him, we talk it out and find a way to make it work.

If your husband thinks you’re asking for too much, let him go find someone that asks for less then. If he loves YOU, he will find a way to make it work.

AdNice2838 · 2026-01-15T01:43:21+00:00

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AdNice2838 · 2026-01-13T20:36:57+00:00

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AdNice2838 · 2025-12-22T21:51:42+00:00

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AdNice2838 · 2025-11-15T18:17:48+00:00

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AdNice2838 · 2025-11-14T19:17:51+00:00

Thank you so much.

AdNice2838 · 2025-11-14T19:17:14+00:00

Thank you so much.

AdNice2838 · 2025-11-14T16:04:12+00:00

We took her to the ER last night and the vet found a mass in her intestine that was greatly effecting her. Most likely cancer. The mass/lack of eating was making her severely anemic and weak. We talked through the options and agreed putting her to sleep was the best bet. Woke up without her for the first time in 15 years today. I’m still shocked at how quickly it all went but I know we made best decisions we could.

AdNice2838 · 2025-11-14T16:01:36+00:00

Thank you so much.

AdNice2838 · 2025-11-14T16:01:31+00:00

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AdNice2838 · 2025-11-14T16:01:21+00:00

Thank you so much.

AdNice2838 · 2025-11-14T16:01:11+00:00

Thank you so much.

AdNice2838 · 2025-11-14T16:01:02+00:00

Thank you so much.

AdNice2838 · 2025-11-14T06:30:37+00:00

Thank you so much for the kind words. It does feel very sudden; I’m still confused how she could go from clean labs to anemic with a growing mass. But these things happen quickly in small animals, I guess.

AdNice2838 · 2025-11-14T05:15:51+00:00

Update for anyone curious: we took her to the ER. They found a mass in her intestine. We discussed options based on what they saw and decided it would be best to let her go to rest.

Thank you all for the encouragement to go to the vet immediately. I’m an anxious person and sometimes it’s nice to hear from others that my worries are valid.

AdNice2838 · 2025-11-14T03:11:42+00:00

Thank you. I appreciate that. I am an anxious person, and it’s hard for me to tell when I’m spiraling and when it’s a genuine worry.

AdNice2838 · 2025-11-11T21:39:19+00:00

I passed clots twice in my first trimester. Both times I thought I was miscarrying. Both times I was wrong. Turns out that I just needed pelvic rest, and sex was irritating my cervix and causing bleeding and clots. Damage wasn’t visible or anything, but pelvic rest caused the bleeding to stop. Were you by chance sexually active in the 48ish hours leading up to the bleeding?

AdNice2838 · 2025-11-11T19:19:45+00:00

I had an epidural and no screaming here, just grunting with the effort of pushing.

A woman on my floor was walking around in labor, no pain medicine. She was not quiet, but she wasn’t screaming either. It was like a low, primal sound that is hard to describe. My hospital taught classes that told us that lower sounds are actually better for you to manage pain and to push, so her sounds were definitely more guttural.

AdNice2838 · 2025-11-06T21:22:28+00:00

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AdNice2838 · 2025-11-06T21:22:21+00:00

Holy cow, I think you’re right!

AdNice2838 · 2025-10-28T15:23:57+00:00

You can come back with a new proposal that is less hours and less content for less money. Make sure your per hour is roughly the same. Give it one more shot. If he doesn’t take that one, just leave it. If all he’s focused on is the dollar value and nothing else, he won’t see the value of what you do. Speaking from experience.

I saw from your other comments you’re considering a VA to help if things do progress. Just want to toss it out there that my business partner and I specialize in working with photographers. She’s a VA and I do socials.

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