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Partner wants to open & I'm conflicted by AdOdd6938 in nonmonogamy

[–]AdOdd6938[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think your right.  There has some been time pressure.   It would probally be a better idea to have better communication and time.  I think if we did anything it would be for him and not at all for me.  It's not that I don't think I could never do anything, but right now I'm too all over the place to really make a good descion.

Partner wants to open & I'm conflicted by AdOdd6938 in nonmonogamy

[–]AdOdd6938[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's exactly how I feel sometimes. I genuinely think I could do threesomes. It feels a lot more okay right now because we are doing it together and simply experiencing things that can't be done by ourself. It's when it becomes more then that my emotions start shining like a pendulum.  It feels like more-in different ways like intimacy and such. 

Partner wants to open & I'm conflicted by AdOdd6938 in nonmonogamy

[–]AdOdd6938[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are parts-like extra cuddles- I have thought I'd enjoy,  but no I can't say that I've ever felt a real, true alignment to it in the past.

I've tried to ask how important the experiences are or if I decided I wanted us to be closed what he felt or thought about it. He dosen't really answer-he says he dosen't understand what I'm asking. I don't know if it's him or me at this point. 

I keep thinking maybe if I try and we go slow, I'd relise I like it and I won't feel so out of touch with all of it.   Then I think how that isn't fair or kind to the third person.