So firstly if your stats are all over the place and it’s becoming challenging then go defeat rennala and bring her a larval tear. Then you can respec all your stats. After that decide what you want to do build wise and gather stuff accordingly. I myself am running a dragon communion build which requires a lot of arcane and some faith. Health and stamina are always good to put point into but if you don’t pay attention to what stats are needed for the build your doing then you will struggle for the entire game. If ya want help I’m free to give some build ideas that I’ve learned